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Do you know?

Hey there, DO YOU KNOW?

I'm shooting I, ALEX CROSS. It's a James Patterson book that we're making into a movie. I can't remember if I shared that with you or not.

On to the reason I'm writing. A few days ago, I was in the car on my way to set when we stopped at a red light.  I looked up from my script and saw a father walking across the street holding his son's hand.  The child couldn't have been more then 2 or 3years old, this kid was giddy with joy.  I watched this man and his son go into the park and start running and playing. The light changed and as we drove away, I turned around in the back seat to watch them until they were out of sight. My eyes filled with water, I thought to myself, this is really a strange reaction. I was thinking, why did I have such a strong emotional reaction to this father and son? It didn't take long for me to realize that it was because I never had those kind of experiences, never knew that kind of unconditional joy, never knew what it felt like to be wanted and adored as a child.

Which made me think of this question. I wonder if the man I called 'Daddy' as a child, knew then what he knows now, would he have treated me any differently? If he had known, the little boy that depended on him for food and shelter would grow up to be a man that he would have to depend on for food and shelter, would he have made different choices? I realized that my emotion to that moment was about this man loving his child in the purest sense. No matter what the future holds for that little boy, he will always have that moment with his daddy loving him, for him.

There is an old song written by the Gaither's called, MARY, DID YOU KNOW? It's a beautiful song asking Mary, the mother of Jesus, the question, "Did you know that her baby boy would come to save the world?" The lyrics go on to ask, "Mary did you know that when you kissed the little baby, you kissed the face of God?"  My favorite lyric is this one, "Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?" That last line makes me think of my own mother. Before she died she often said to me that she had no idea that her little baby boy would be able to take care of her the way I did. I get so much joy knowing that I could and I did. That lets me sleep at night.   Mom, I thank you! You helped me be able to do that.  God bless you!

I want to leave you with these questions. It's for every parent, the good and the bad. DO YOU KNOW who is in your house? DO YOU KNOW whom you're raising, and will the child that you delivered, have to deliver you in your old age? Think about it, and know that when you kiss that innocent face of your child, you kiss the face of God.

God Bless, talk soon.


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  • Janet Lever Sacramento Ca.

    You're great at everything you do your plays,your movies I just love you and we both are from New Orleans

  • Stella Nairobi, Kenya

    It never happened to you, but you can make it happen to your own kids some day. You don’t stop to amaze me at how you “intersect” your experiences and activities with lifelong lessons

  • Tramanda Eubanks Jackson, Mississippi

    Hi Tyler, you're such an inspiration to me God bless you always.

  • pamela matney ohio

    hey tyler , if you only knew how that lettler makes me feel deep down inside i cryed my eyes out when i read it , it makes me think a bout all the bad things my dad did to me as a child it makes me thank god even more for a person like you and your movies and plays and for that i say thank you from the bottom of my heart

  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    If u, Tyler Perry hadn't been thru the things that u have been thru, u probably & Most Likely wouldn't be the GREAT person that you are today!!! :-) What I want u to know & understand is sometimes when ppl have all those things as simple as it make sound they tend to overlook it. You are looking at it in the special way that it is. Let me explain -my father was a great husband to my mother & a great father to us. One of the many things my father dad was always make sure our cars were working & kept up on the daily. To this day when I think of the fact that most men can't change a flat, check oil, do a tune up etc... It really really bothers me. My father wasn't the man to open my mother's car door he was the man who took care of my mother's needs. When he got in her car to start it up daily he was listening to the sound of it, checking fluids, tires, etc as he was warming it up before she came out the house to get in her car, while she was also finishing up whatever she was doing in the house, even if she needed to be out the house by now. Lol... Just like God blessed u w/ a wonderful mom, He blessed me w/ a wonderful father who has gone home to his reward. I have to thank God for that. My mother is wonderful too! Thank God!!! :-) God does all things well! Sometime its good to see things from other ppl point of view.

  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    :-) but Mary also had to WATCH her son endure the cross but I love how Bishop puts it -Mary was the only mother who carried her child twice. :-) And if u happen to have any questions about her carrying her son twice then you can ask him. :-) The Son & The Holy Spirit!!!!! :o :) Now that's some good stuff right there! :)

  • chriss fr jamaica Jamaica West Indies

    Tyler, im only just logging onto your page, im not a facebook person but i love almost everything you do...i love the fact that you speak about and always incorporate the message of Jesus in everthing you do without being politically correct, afterall, you understand that you should only fear HE who has the power to commit your soul to hell. Remember this, however your situation was while you were growing up, it all happened to place you here and now for a time such as this...to do the things you are doing and to make the positive impact you are making... you are like a lone voice crying out in the wilderness,..sure there are others but none speak as loudly as yours.....you have been given an awsome task and i pray that you will keep to the task and continue to remember GOD and acknowledge HIM in all you do. Regards.

  • Nicole Toronto,Ontario

    Dear Tyler, As I read your article I visualized your emotion and could Identify with it. I have a child of my own and I am a single parent and when I see a child with there father who are active in their lives often I have that dreamy look watered eye's wanting what I never had for my child... For the early years of my life my parents were absent in search for a better life where I would later join them,the relationship has no closeness or bond between them and I. I have made poor choices being in relationships trying to secure what I hoped to have with the father of my child but didn't (a family).. I have now learned after a traumatic event with someone I hoped to have been a role model and partner, I learned that God is all my child and I need every thing else is just a reflection of His blessing"His words says He is the father to the fatherless"... God bless you Tyler and keep on keeping on my brother in Christ Jesus. love and admiration Nicole :-

  • Tammy Carter Albany, Ga

    I loved it! I had to post it to my page for everyone to see!

  • Joyce L Thibodeau Astoria,N.Y

    dear mr.perry.hi I read your story and was very touch about the father and son you spoked about and don't really know if I ever experienced that kind of Love not because of abuse because that's not the case you see I had a terrible accident and I can't remember any of my life and I found out my parents died when I was in my early teens I have struggled through the years not knowing or feeling love from my mother or father, now i have children of my own and i am a single parent i let my children know how much i love them every second of every day i want them to have everything i never had , when you sent your email you sent out a beautiful message i like to take a moment to thank you for that on behalf of all the parents who got your message we love you and may you always be blessed love joyce l thibodeau

  • Donna Phillips Chicago, IL

    Thanks for the email, (Leave that baby alone) about Kristina Brown, Houston.

  • bernadette bush ft.lauderdale,florida

    good morning tyler: i just finished reading the story about the father and his son.WOW! i had tears in my eyes.i felt that pain, that feeling of not being wanted but i am here to tell u that right now in the name of JESUS. u r needed and wanted from all of us tyler.u just dont know how these people out here really feel about u.these people out here in this world really love u my brother.so stop ur tears from falling because u r truly loved by everyone.keep on doing u tyler.A JOB WELL DONE! [your sister bernadette may 20,2012]

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