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Do you know?

Hey there, DO YOU KNOW?

I'm shooting I, ALEX CROSS. It's a James Patterson book that we're making into a movie. I can't remember if I shared that with you or not.

On to the reason I'm writing. A few days ago, I was in the car on my way to set when we stopped at a red light.  I looked up from my script and saw a father walking across the street holding his son's hand.  The child couldn't have been more then 2 or 3years old, this kid was giddy with joy.  I watched this man and his son go into the park and start running and playing. The light changed and as we drove away, I turned around in the back seat to watch them until they were out of sight. My eyes filled with water, I thought to myself, this is really a strange reaction. I was thinking, why did I have such a strong emotional reaction to this father and son? It didn't take long for me to realize that it was because I never had those kind of experiences, never knew that kind of unconditional joy, never knew what it felt like to be wanted and adored as a child.

Which made me think of this question. I wonder if the man I called 'Daddy' as a child, knew then what he knows now, would he have treated me any differently? If he had known, the little boy that depended on him for food and shelter would grow up to be a man that he would have to depend on for food and shelter, would he have made different choices? I realized that my emotion to that moment was about this man loving his child in the purest sense. No matter what the future holds for that little boy, he will always have that moment with his daddy loving him, for him.

There is an old song written by the Gaither's called, MARY, DID YOU KNOW? It's a beautiful song asking Mary, the mother of Jesus, the question, "Did you know that her baby boy would come to save the world?" The lyrics go on to ask, "Mary did you know that when you kissed the little baby, you kissed the face of God?"  My favorite lyric is this one, "Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?" That last line makes me think of my own mother. Before she died she often said to me that she had no idea that her little baby boy would be able to take care of her the way I did. I get so much joy knowing that I could and I did. That lets me sleep at night.   Mom, I thank you! You helped me be able to do that.  God bless you!

I want to leave you with these questions. It's for every parent, the good and the bad. DO YOU KNOW who is in your house? DO YOU KNOW whom you're raising, and will the child that you delivered, have to deliver you in your old age? Think about it, and know that when you kiss that innocent face of your child, you kiss the face of God.

God Bless, talk soon.

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  • VIJ cincinnati, OH.

    Really enjoyed reading your article, almost got teary thinking about someone never knowing unconditional love.... I'm a single adoptive parent who began this experience with the best of intentions then life happened and things went haywire.... but through it all my son has been a source of inspiration and comfort to me. What I'm saying to you is that though your heart may feel heavy when you think about what this man didn't give you, allow yourself to be an advocate. Their shouldn't be a child anywhere around you feeling the feelings you felt as a child... May you find peace and joy and the ability observe simular scenes without looking back, but looking forward to making wonderful memories.

  • Myra Aguillon san antonio, TX

    Wow thanks for sharing that... can't wait for the movie! I believe there is such a void in the souls of so many men and women of all ages who live today striving, wheels spinning, tripping on the same issues over and over again. As a parent it makes me think of how my actions, reactions or lack of actions, today, shape my children for tomorrow.

  • Wanda Addison Irvington, New Jersey

    Good Afternoon Mr. Perry When I was young my mother and father never said I love you, or expressed love one to another. I never seen it. One morning on the way to school with my friends when stopped in the local grocery store. One of my friend got into a fight with the store owner. I didn't have anything to do with it. The man was my father's friend, he told my father I was their like I was involved. My father told me what the man said and I seen the hurt in his face. He told me that he told the man not Warnnie Lee. I knew for the first time how my father felt about me. I felt so bad because I was their and in his sight I could do not wrong. I was inspired to write this by you. Be encouraged, your friend.

  • NC High Springs, Florida

    Hey Tyler, There you go again making us tear up. It is a good story though;when I was a young mother way back when, I did not think or know this but, it has come to pass that now my daughter is there for me and my son also. I loved my children with all I had and even give up my dreams just to be there for them. I thought I could not live my dreams and be a good mother at the same time. People try to do it but the children suffer and it's not worth it. Thanks again for another inspirational story. God bless you.

  • Phallu Morgan Los Angeles, CA

    Very inspiring story, I have two kids who I love with all my heart. I never received the hugs and kisses from my parents growing up. My dad is a pastor and my mom was always busy with the church and congregation. That void I experienced helped me in a way be more loving and attentive to my kids, I never want them to feel that I did not love them. Keep up the good work, God bless!

  • Diane Walton Northrdge,CA

    When we become a parent we have high hopes for that child, and we do the best we can to teach them the things that will mole them into what ever they want, and as they go out into the world we watch them make their mastakes, and we also have to learn how to let them go let them make what ever they want of them self, and hope that they will come to their sense and accept some guidance. So all in all we can only continue to give them love

  • Dee Graves Newark,Delaware

    Dear Tyler you are a gentle giant and you inspires me with your messages. I just turned 70 years old on September 26,2011. I thank MY Lord for this as only HE could bring me. My parents are deceased and I miss them so much but they were wonderful. There were 11 0f us and I am the oldest; my dad worked two and a half jobs to see that we had and my Mom was always home. I raised five children and my husband worked two jobs when I could not work and it was good. So please continue to pray for me as I have had a few tradegies this summer and I am just going forward to please God. Thanks for this amazing opportunity to be a part of your mission. Dee Graves

  • MARIA new jersey

    To the writer that feels she can't go on living I just want to tell you that you are not alone, your heavenly father is with you at all times. all you need to do is invite him in, he is not pushy so you will have to knock on his door and will be there for you. God died on the cross for your sins. he loves you and wants you to be happy. Just like Mr. Perry said, nothing can be done without Jesus. I don't know who you are but i will pray for you that by the Grace of God you will be saved. Trust in him.

  • Vermie Ackerman, MMs.39737

    greetingTyler, I am proud to be on you mailing list and think you fro letting me know things ,concerning what's cmming up. I wish I could get every one of your DVD's but due to financial differculters I cant. I Love what you're doing.Keep up the good work's 're doing. I am a Christian try hard to be there if I don't my son try's to get there. Love what you're doing God bless Vermie Ivy

  • Gena Chi-Town

    Mr. Tyler Perry- I truly appreciate you sharing your life experiences. You are a inspiring individual that is constantaly giving back and

  • Servon Clinton, MD

    Hello Tyler. I enjoyed your inspirational messages. They are very informative and inspiring. Thank you so much for opening up to people and sharing what God has and can do for people. I really appreciate you and all that you do for humanity. You are truly an asset to society and we thank God for you sharing with the world. Continue to acknowledge God and stay humble. Love you and may God continue to bless you.

  • Lisa Ohio

    Hi Tyler, I like the inspirational messages. You know if you realize it or not when you inspire someone else, you are being inspired too. When we are sad or feeling lonely and someone comes up to us and need a kind word…even if we are down ourselves and still give that person a word of hope, we are up lifting ourselves. I can see the hand of God doing marvelous works in your life. And, do not let anyone tell you anything different, which I know that is impossible…LOL Nothing but Blessing to you!

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