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Hey there, DO YOU KNOW?


I'm shooting I, ALEX CROSS. It's a James Patterson book that we're making into a movie. I can't remember if I shared that with you or not.


On to the reason I'm writing. A few days ago, I was in the car on my way to set when we stopped at a red light.  I looked up from my script and saw a father walking across the street holding his son's hand.  The child couldn't have been more then 2 or 3years old, this kid was giddy with joy.  I watched this man and his son go into the park and start running and playing. The light changed and as we drove away, I turned around in the back seat to watch them until they were out of sight. My eyes filled with water, I thought to myself, this is really a strange reaction. I was thinking, why did I have such a strong emotional reaction to this father and son? It didn't take long for me to realize that it was because I never had those kind of experiences, never knew that kind of unconditional joy, never knew what it felt like to be wanted and adored as a child.


Which made me think of this question. I wonder if the man I called 'Daddy' as a child, knew then what he knows now, would he have treated me any differently? If he had known, the little boy that depended on him for food and shelter would grow up to be a man that he would have to depend on for food and shelter, would he have made different choices? I realized that my emotion to that moment was about this man loving his child in the purest sense. No matter what the future holds for that little boy, he will always have that moment with his daddy loving him, for him.


There is an old song written by the Gaither's called, MARY, DID YOU KNOW? It's a beautiful song asking Mary, the mother of Jesus, the question, "Did you know that her baby boy would come to save the world?" The lyrics go on to ask, "Mary did you know that when you kissed the little baby, you kissed the face of God?"  My favorite lyric is this one, "Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?" That last line makes me think of my own mother. Before she died she often said to me that she had no idea that her little baby boy would be able to take care of her the way I did. I get so much joy knowing that I could and I did. That lets me sleep at night.   Mom, I thank you! You helped me be able to do that.  God bless you!


I want to leave you with these questions. It's for every parent, the good and the bad. DO YOU KNOW who is in your house? DO YOU KNOW whom you're raising, and will the child that you delivered, have to deliver you in your old age? Think about it, and know that when you kiss that innocent face of your child, you kiss the face of God.


God Bless, talk soon.
Tyler

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  • Tameka Hawk Decatur GA

    Dear Tyler, Could you respond to the email I sent you via MySpace. Thanks, Tameka:-)

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  • Brian Rivers Bingham Farms Michigan

    I just read this Tyler and it blessed me enormously. I have been on facebook and didn't see this until i went to repair my myspace. I also understand and felt the feelings behind the story you told. I only pray that like you I will not get up out of the mire and not get stuck by the absence, and loneliness in my childhood. I admire what God has done in your life, and pray that I will follow the example with all the talents he has put inside of me. He has given me so much to work with but often i find myself warring with that giant, thank you for showing me it is possible to be defeated.

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  • Desiree san diego, ca

    I was just journaling about Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future". Having 2 young daughters under the age of 3, I have recently found new meaning in this passage. God doesn't whimsically keep us in his care, he KNOWS his plans!! This verse has encouraged me to parent with an end in mind- work toward a goal, the ultimate goal, of having children who have a relationship with the God of the universe. God doesn't "try" to be a good Father, hoping that we turn out alright, He KNOWS us before he formed us in our mother's wombs! His plans are not letting us figure it out for ourselves, going our own way, he would rather promise us that in him we can have more than we could ever ask or imagine. I find myself asking for so much wisdom in raising Godly children. Lord, help me.

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  • Sherwood H. Sharp Sr.

    Thank you and thank God for you for reminding me of what my purpose is in life, you are a true blessing in my life. I am reminded every time I mentor a child in school. You are in my prayers every day and night. Love you and all your staff.

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  • robyn south bend,In

    I have a son like u in a way. He's only 19, and he's not well off, but he has my back and watches over me. We found out that I have 3 tumors in my neck,1 in my lung, and now they are diagnosing me with cirrhosis. Now mind you I'm not a drinker.he's has been goin to doctor visits with me. Taking me to my biopsies, being there through my pissed off moments,my depressed moments, which seem to be a lot. He gets o. His older siblings and my husband about stuff stressing me out. He helps me make sure I eat and eat right. He's works as a mechanic, and i know he's put off going to college to help take care of me. And i feel bad about that. I love him so much and we have the strongest bond out of my 4. children. I don't know what i would do without him.

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  • AC Alaska

    Hey Tyler Your new show "For Better or Worse" is a great show, but can we get a laugh soundtrack or a live audience? it just falls flat on some very well scripted jokes. I thought the pilot show was just a first run experiment, but then its the same with all the episodes. PLEASE MAKE THE JOKES POP!

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  • jackie marino wakefield , Massachussetts 01880

    OH DO I KNOW. MY BABY BOY WAS BORN WITH A VERY RARE SYNDROME CALLED APERTS. THE DOCTORS TOLD ME WHEN I WAS PREGNENT WITH MY FIRST SON THAT WAS MY ANSWERED PRAYER FROM GOD THAT I PRAYED ALL MY LIFE I WOULD HAVE, SAID HE PROBABLE WOULD NOT MAKE IT OUT OF MY WOOM AND IF HE DID HE WOULDN'T LIVE OR WALK AND THEY DIDNT NO WHAT HE HAD UNTILL HE WOULD BE BORN, BUT THEY DID KNOW THAT HE ONLY HAD HALF A HEART AND NO FEET OR FINGERS, WHICH SENT ME TO AN ABORTION CLINIC, BUT I COULD NOT GO THROUGH WITH IT TYLER. THIS IS MY BABY BOY THAT GOD ANSWERED MY PRAYERS TO. SO I KEPT MY FAITH AND HE IS NOW 9YEARS OLD IN THE 4TH GRADE. YES I DO KNOW THIS BABY BOY GOD SENT ME SAVE ME AND I HAVE NEVER BEEN THE SAME SINCE. EVEN THE PRIEST AT CHILDRENS HOSPITAL BOSTON SAID ONE TIME BEFORE THEY WERE GOING TO PUT HIM ON LIFE SUPPORT HAD COME IN AND PRAYED OVER US WHILE HE WAS BEARLY BREATHING AND SAID TO ME IF THIS DOESNT LOOK LIKE MOTHER MARY AND BABY JESUS. I WAS SOOO HUMBLED AND HONERED AT THE SAME TIME THAT I TRUSTED JESES ALL THROUGH THEE PREGNENCY INSTEAD OF BELIEVING THE DOCTORS AND SHORTLY AFTER HE PRAYED HE STARTED BREATHING AND DID NOT NEED TO GO ON LIFE SUPPORT. HIS NAME IS ADAM FIRST BORN SON LIKE JESUS BUT IM SOO NOT A MARY AND DIDNT DESERVE HIM. I SAY THAT NOW BECAUSE HA HAS BEEN ADOPTED BECAUSE I DRANK AGAIN AFTER HAVING 15 YEARS OF SOBRIETY AND A WOMAN NAMED MARY ADOPTED HIM AND THIS WAS THE WORST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME. IGOT SOBER AGAIN BUT THE STATE MADE ME LOOK SO BAD THAT I LOST HIM ANYWAYS AND THOUGHT HE WOULD BE BETTER OFF WITH HER. SHE HAS MORE MONEY AND HELP AND SHE COULD GIVE HIM A BETTER LIFE THAN I COULD. I WAS SOOO WRONG TYLER AND NOW THEY WONT EVEN FOLLOW THROUGH WITH THE ADOPTION ORDERS AND I HATE MYSELF FOR SIGNING THE ADOPTION PAPERS. I CANT EVEN SEE HIM CAUSE THEY LIE ABOUT ME IN COURT AND THE JUDGE BELIEVES THEM. SO I JUST BELIEVE ITS GODS WILL BUT ONLY BECAUSE I DONT FEEL LIKE A HAVE ANYONE ON MY SIDE BUT GOD SO I JUST ACCEPT IT ONE DAY AT A TIME BUT DEEP DOWN IN MY SOUL I REALLY DONT. I HAD HIM FOR 5 YEARS AND HE TOUGHT ME WHAT LIFE AND LOVE IS ALL ABOUT SACRIFICE SO YES I DO KNOW THAT BY BABY BOY WOULD SAVE NOT ONLY ME BUT EVERYONE HE TOUCHES WITH HIS BEAUTIFUL SMILE THAT HE HAS ON HIS FACE ALL THE TIME. I WISH YOU COULD MEET HIM BUT I HAVE NO CONTROL OVER THAT OR ANY THING ELSE FOR THAT MATTER. I HAVE BEEN BLUE EVER SINCE I LOST HIM THATS WHY MY EMAIL IS JACKIE BLUE. THAT SONG TOUCHES MY HEART SO DEEP AND YOU HAVE HELPED ME TO LAUGH AGAIN AND SMILE LIKE MY ADAM DOES ALL THE TIME. YOU ARE MY ANTIDEPRESSANT NOT DRUGS OR ALCOHOL. IMISS HIM SO MUCH BUT I TRULY NO HE WAS GIVEN TO ME BY GOD AND HES MY SON AND GODS SON AND WE WILL BE TOGETHER IN ETERNITY SOME DAY. I WOULD LOVE TO MEET YOU BUT IF NOT I WILL SEE YOU THERE WITH MY SON AND GODS SON AND YOUR SON IN HEAVEN SOME DAY. LOVE YOU YOUR SO REAL, JACKIE MARINO.

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    • beverley wynter brooklyn n,y #1615423

      This also brought tears to my eyes, i did have a wonderful dad. but unfortunately my dear beloved children can't say the same, so i leave jamaica and take them with me, i tried to play both roles but i know my son especially who is 15 would like to have a dad. he used to abuse them so much they tremble and always nervous, i have no regret that i am raising them on my own but i feel guilty that i should have made a better choice, and maybe they would have a DAD at their side. Anyway they are no disappointment to me, my daughter is in her 2nd year in collage after finish high school here with honor while my son in high school getting 80 to 100in grade. GOD is continuing to work it out for us. thank you for your touching stories and GOD blessing always.

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  • Darlene Camden NJ

    Dear Mr Perry I just want to say that for better or worse is so good and I;m sorry its just staying on for 5 weeks, I wish it could be a regular sit com. But I want you to know that everything you do is great and I just love your work you have to take a realty check when watching your moving and sit com's . But I just want to thank god for you because I know he is the one keeping you, so you keep on praying and keep your hands in gods hand and I know you will get through these holidays, and I also will keep you in prayer, I know its hard but is nothing to hard for god, so keep your head up because that's what she would have wanted your mother, she in a better place now looking down on you smiling , and remember one day you will see her again. God Bless and much love.

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  • Pat mclaughlin springfield, il

    Im a huge james Patterson fan and think you are the perfect choice to play Alex Cross. Morgan Freeman was just to old and that ruined the first two movies for me and they left the kids and nana out of the movies. I hope you do this movie right and make alex the man James Patterson meant him to be a cop who loves his family and catches bad guys. Good luck Tyler and i will definitely will be watching as this film comes out. thanks pat.

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  • Lynette United States

    Mr. Perry, This message is so powerful and inspiring. Thank You For All That You Do. You have a Gift from God and thank you for sharing with the world, We Are Grateful For You And The Messages That You Send Through Your Plays And Movies And The Personal Messages That You Share Online That Force All Of Us to Examine Ourselves And Strive To Be Better People That God Created Us To Be. I Am So Inspired By You That I Named My Son Tyler He is almost 2 years old and that is the profound impact that you have had on my life through your personal testimony on Oprah and everything that you have been through in your life was leading you to this moment right here your DESTINY!!! May God Forever Bless You And Your Family, We Love You!!!

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  • Jena Pendergrass Cookeville, TN

    Tyler, Just read this again (Do You Know?) and it brought tears to my eyes. Do you remember in the Bible where Job lost everything he had and still served God? And what did God do...returned to him everything he had lost and more! Well, that is exactly what God has done for you. You never knew you could have such a big family huh? You have touched my life in so many ways with your films and plays. Words could not even express how I feel. You are so real and let us see you and we know that you pour your heart into what you write. I hope you can tell this is coming from my heart...One day I am going to meet you!! God Bless you for your dedication to making the world a better place. Jena

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  • Beatrice Toronto/Canada

    Hey Tyler, I can't stop reading this letter, with tears in my eyes. Could you please, resend it to me. I didn't get it and I would like to get your permission to use it in my book. Take care and be blessed.

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