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Do you know?

Hey there, DO YOU KNOW?

I'm shooting I, ALEX CROSS. It's a James Patterson book that we're making into a movie. I can't remember if I shared that with you or not.

On to the reason I'm writing. A few days ago, I was in the car on my way to set when we stopped at a red light.  I looked up from my script and saw a father walking across the street holding his son's hand.  The child couldn't have been more then 2 or 3years old, this kid was giddy with joy.  I watched this man and his son go into the park and start running and playing. The light changed and as we drove away, I turned around in the back seat to watch them until they were out of sight. My eyes filled with water, I thought to myself, this is really a strange reaction. I was thinking, why did I have such a strong emotional reaction to this father and son? It didn't take long for me to realize that it was because I never had those kind of experiences, never knew that kind of unconditional joy, never knew what it felt like to be wanted and adored as a child.

Which made me think of this question. I wonder if the man I called 'Daddy' as a child, knew then what he knows now, would he have treated me any differently? If he had known, the little boy that depended on him for food and shelter would grow up to be a man that he would have to depend on for food and shelter, would he have made different choices? I realized that my emotion to that moment was about this man loving his child in the purest sense. No matter what the future holds for that little boy, he will always have that moment with his daddy loving him, for him.

There is an old song written by the Gaither's called, MARY, DID YOU KNOW? It's a beautiful song asking Mary, the mother of Jesus, the question, "Did you know that her baby boy would come to save the world?" The lyrics go on to ask, "Mary did you know that when you kissed the little baby, you kissed the face of God?"  My favorite lyric is this one, "Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?" That last line makes me think of my own mother. Before she died she often said to me that she had no idea that her little baby boy would be able to take care of her the way I did. I get so much joy knowing that I could and I did. That lets me sleep at night.   Mom, I thank you! You helped me be able to do that.  God bless you!

I want to leave you with these questions. It's for every parent, the good and the bad. DO YOU KNOW who is in your house? DO YOU KNOW whom you're raising, and will the child that you delivered, have to deliver you in your old age? Think about it, and know that when you kiss that innocent face of your child, you kiss the face of God.

God Bless, talk soon.

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  • rochelle lee Chicago, IL

    Just tears,tears,tears of joy.I grew up with the best mom but she didn't know how to say she loved us,she didn't know how to hug us.Her mother hadn't done it to her so she had no idea.Now she's in her older age she has changed tremendoulsy,she treats my children the way I wished she could have treated me.Didn't meet my father until I was 19 yrs.old,and still he would say he loved me but put no actions behind it.He has eight children,and he puts us against each other with bragging.But he wasn't there for 5 of us,no high school graduations,no proms,no weddings,just nothing.So I missed a very good childhood too.I grew up calling and wishing I was in someone elses family that seemed to be so cozy all the time,while mine seemed dry,with no love in the home,just strick discipline.But it all paid off,I love my Mom now but I wish I could have had that bond with her as a young girl.

  • Julie G Alpharetta (soon :-)

    That was so profound and wonderful to read. It made me very emotional because I am now in the position where my parents will be living with me very soon. My father is becoming a danger due to his memory loss...putting butter in the toaster....lighting the stove and forgetting he has done so, getting lost when driving. My mother is mentally fine but physically unable to get around without assistance. I ponder my ability to care for them and remain compassionate, kind and to not lose my cool. They argue and they are combative with everyone. I have two boys also and I have been preparing them to not take any of what happens personally. I have enough money to buy us a good sized home so we should all have the room needed for personal space. So interesting isnt it. I hated my mother as a child. I hated her. The beatings....the bruises and the marks all around my neck.....her asking me to wear a turtleneck to cover it all up and me obediantly doing so. Always wanting her approval and for her to just be genuinely nice to me. Ironic that she was often the nicest to me after a beating. It was that unspoken 'buying' of me....'dont tell anyone and I will be nice to you for a bit'. None of this was ever discussed or openly acknowleged ever my whole life with them. I was so scared as a child...always trying to hide in my room as quietly as possible so I could hear where she was in the house and if she was happy or growing violently angry over something. Knowing that somehow, when she got like this, that rage would eventually find me, get me, drag me out of my small quiet world. Funny...I just remembered: My mother had brought home a vanity that she found at a garage sale. I thought it was beautiful and so feminine and it was all mine. It had a light pink fabric skirt that hung from the top of it, all the way down to the floor. That was where I hid as a child, underneath the vanity and behind that fabric skirt. It's been years since Ive thought of those times. I just rarely think about it anymore... those beatings, running away from home, and hiding in other peoples homes behind their sofa, pinned up between it and the wall, as I listened to them making dinner at night, completely unaware that I was there. Once again being so quiet and so small and hoping not to be found and dragged out. I pray I can bring them peace and make them laugh during their last years. It is a fact.....I will do my best.

  • Ramona New jersey

    Yes Some fathers don't think about how much their children really need them and they just walk away. I grew up without my father being in my life. Sometimes Im still bothered by it and Im 26 years old and have three children of my own.Over the years meeting all the wrong men being mistreated more and more and worst of all overcoming being a victim of domestic violence. But although I did have an earthly father, my heavenly father has never left my side! I have something to be proud of Im a nurse completed college and I feel truly blessed. I have so many more goals and dreams to fulfill and someday I want him to feel regrets of not being a part of my life.

  • 29Princessl Temple Hills, Maryland

    Gowing up, my parents were troubled., and never recovered Now, they're both deceased at a fairly young age! I've had those thoughts of missing out on those special moments. I continue to have them. That's what helps me be stronger. I've been troubled. I've struggled. I've endured. I have encountered guardian angels. I've overcome! I've gone places many said I could not go! I've accomplished things many said I couldn't. Some have even tried to stand in my way...Guess what! Many of you will too. Listen! Keep praying! keep believing! Stay faithful! Keep finding your way! Go with God, and he directs your path to your sucessful place in life. I know because I'm a living witness! I should have been dead, but God saw different! All praises and glory to God in the highest! We can all be successful! Now go find your special place in life. Princess :D

  • monica london

    I had that same reaction walking through the park with my kids. i try to be everything to mine were daddy lacks. but realise that i cannot do everything. my mother was and still is a great woman to whom i aspire to be like. my kids are 10 and 13 and i show them love everyday, i cuddle them, play with them, talk to them, encourage them, inspire (i hope), reason with them, feed clothe and nurture them. my dad was not around while i was growing up and therefore found it important for my childrens father to be around. however he is not the man i want him to be i persevere with faith whild doing my doing. he is who he is and i cant change that. keep doing what your doing, we appreciate you xxxxx

  • Renee Kennesaw, GA

    Mr. Perry, I've been in love with Alex Cross since the first book. I'm a huge James Patterson fan. I was so excited to hear about your working with this project. Congrats to you! I'm in love with a man (Alex) who does not exist. Recently, I took the entire collection to the GoodWill, as I'm making big changes in my life, this was big for me (my books are precious) but I will have them again. I'm a bit upset with JPat with the latest book title-he knows why (Kill ALEX CROSS! NO WAY), but I love a good book. I too have had moments seeing a parent with a child and I've burst into tears because I've never experienced that. My dad was not there for me and my mom was an abusive, hateful, empty woman, so I was without both parents. It's magical, to see a dad running in the park while pushing his kid in a stroller. I almost lost my mind, but I was just the weird lady crying in the park. You take care, keep up the good work.

  • Brenee Ohio

    Tyler you are alway making me think and look at certain thing in my life that I really hadn't thought about. I say that because I'm a recovering addict that didn't even think I would ever see any of my children do anything with their lives. My biggest prayer while I was in my addiction that God would allow me to see them finish school, go to college, have me some grand children. So far I've seen some of the things I ask God to do for me and he has done that and then some. I was there fore the high school and college graduation of 5 and I have 6. All graduated, I didn't see the oldest one graduate. My daughters and I are very,very close. So I been able to show them that unconditional love and they give it right back. I know who they are and now they know who I am. I know that they will deliver me, cause they do so now. I know who and what I raised.

  • Sapphireblu Oakland, California

    Wow, I know I am a single mom of Two Black Kings, one who is extremely special needs, and I struggle daily with raising them to be the kind of men, that wives daughter, and girlfriends will be proud to call thier own, the challenges of doing that when thier dads are not good role models. has had me on my knees plenty of times. I too did not get thier type of love from my father, but think god our past does not have to be future, I am proud that at now 14 and 20, My sons are strong, and sensitive, Kind, and Sure in thier purpose. After all "The Hands that Rock the cradle rules the world. and I have always plan to rock for greatness. God Bless

  • Tina Middleburg, FL

    I treasure everyday god gives to enjoy seeing and helping my beautiful baby girl grow up. I really enjoy watching your movies, and plays. Madea is awesome. Looking forward to seeing your new movie. God Bless you and your family!!!

  • Joselyn Reid Niagara falls, Ontario Canada

    Hello, Tyler My comment is this: I was 16yrs old when i became pregnant with my now 18 yr old son. he is the most wonderful son a Mom could ever have asked for. I am now 35, n he is intelligent, disciplined, hard working, athletic, he has goals, dreams, n i make sure to let him know everyday that WHATEVER he decides to do in his life I WILL ALWAYS support him. I have been a single mother for 18yrs, i was young, n I RAISED a good young man! Every sacrifice I have made these past 18yrs has been well worth it. I also have 2 girls 16 & 11, they r the most beautiful girls in the world God Blessed ME with THEM. My greatest accomplishments in life, call me MOMMY!.... Thank-you, Tyler for sharing...Stay Blessed!

  • Bonita Blakney Whitevile, NC

    When I look @ ...meet the Browns, I wonder, when did you meet my uncle! Mr. Brown is my uncle, reincarnated! I love Madea, but Mr. Brown is off the chain. My uncle would mispronounce words, would dress like Mr Brown, the works. I love the seriousness, the humor, everything. Keep on keeping on. Love You.

  • candida jimenez atlanta,ga

    Mr Perry, I Adore you . You Make Me Cry , Good Teers ! . Thank You . Candida

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