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Do you know?

Hey there, DO YOU KNOW?

I'm shooting I, ALEX CROSS. It's a James Patterson book that we're making into a movie. I can't remember if I shared that with you or not.

On to the reason I'm writing. A few days ago, I was in the car on my way to set when we stopped at a red light.  I looked up from my script and saw a father walking across the street holding his son's hand.  The child couldn't have been more then 2 or 3years old, this kid was giddy with joy.  I watched this man and his son go into the park and start running and playing. The light changed and as we drove away, I turned around in the back seat to watch them until they were out of sight. My eyes filled with water, I thought to myself, this is really a strange reaction. I was thinking, why did I have such a strong emotional reaction to this father and son? It didn't take long for me to realize that it was because I never had those kind of experiences, never knew that kind of unconditional joy, never knew what it felt like to be wanted and adored as a child.

Which made me think of this question. I wonder if the man I called 'Daddy' as a child, knew then what he knows now, would he have treated me any differently? If he had known, the little boy that depended on him for food and shelter would grow up to be a man that he would have to depend on for food and shelter, would he have made different choices? I realized that my emotion to that moment was about this man loving his child in the purest sense. No matter what the future holds for that little boy, he will always have that moment with his daddy loving him, for him.

There is an old song written by the Gaither's called, MARY, DID YOU KNOW? It's a beautiful song asking Mary, the mother of Jesus, the question, "Did you know that her baby boy would come to save the world?" The lyrics go on to ask, "Mary did you know that when you kissed the little baby, you kissed the face of God?"  My favorite lyric is this one, "Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?" That last line makes me think of my own mother. Before she died she often said to me that she had no idea that her little baby boy would be able to take care of her the way I did. I get so much joy knowing that I could and I did. That lets me sleep at night.   Mom, I thank you! You helped me be able to do that.  God bless you!

I want to leave you with these questions. It's for every parent, the good and the bad. DO YOU KNOW who is in your house? DO YOU KNOW whom you're raising, and will the child that you delivered, have to deliver you in your old age? Think about it, and know that when you kiss that innocent face of your child, you kiss the face of God.

God Bless, talk soon.

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  • Vilena Brown all over the westcoast

    Ok Tyler Jenkins I feel you. Understand growing up I realized, a child doesn't know much but understands everything. I grew up curious about the black community. I wondered why we keep secrets, why we won't say I love you to each other, and why we settle. It was weird to see a woman love a man who beat her and I asked myself why won't you just walk out the door? I realized when I got older...it was a choice. It was a choice. My friend wrote this song and in it he said, my pops raised me well, but affection hard to show it. WOW! The past carries hidden wounds. A child understands that there's no answers to life's question. The best thing to do is make it up as you live it; someone will answer those questions eventually. Unfortunately it doesn't mean they're right.

  • Carlos Flatt Oxford,Al

    Well,that was just the thing that makes life one the best things in the world,seeing and hearing the great blessings and selfless acts that comes to the innocents.That's why I carry this question with me at all times....Will the innocence of my kids be tarnished by the selfish acts of their parents?My life is not the most extravagant not even close luxurious,but I do understand the feeling of seeing a father and son or daughter having that moment and recognizing that you missed out or your kids are missing out on that perfect relationship.In closing,I respect that positive image you place upon this society that really needs to get back to the root of things.God bless and continue with you.

  • Reginald green shreveport LA

    How u doing Mr Perry why.my name is reggie am a black g** .i know you will never get this but god told me to just tell you what going on in my life..and my dreams ..i would love if you can give me a chance to work for you to show the world that i can be actor.no matter how crazy they i am i know what i can do just need a hand wish i could that to you i know that would never happen in this life ...well talk to you later friend be good

  • Myrtle Tate Sherman, Texas 75090

    That thought is so true. As a Southern family we many times have experienced our "baby"s" being the caregiver monetary or physically. So, yes we have to realize our children are blessings from God. We have to shower them with love and discipline them with kindness. Thank you for sharing your experience and I will be watching for the release of the of "I Alex Cross". Keep up the entertaining us with a message.

  • Darlene E. Evans Hampton, Va 23669

    Mr. Perry, I know all the words to the song. I've Praised Dance from this very song. Tears and amazing surprise choked me up as you talke about the father and son. I'm a simple person that takes nothing lightly. Simple things like a baby's smile pleases me more than worldly wealth and fame. You saw something in the father and son that money can't buy; peace, joy, and happyness. Of all the wealth and prestige you have Sir, you've impressed me the most with the desire for true simple happiness in a simple way...how you watched the two from your back window untill you couldn't see them any more. I AM IMPRESSED!

  • Karen Philadelphia, Pa.

    Dear Mr. Perry I just want to thank God for the gifts he has given you that you share with us. When your movie "Diary of A Mad Black Woman " premiered here in Philadelphia, Pa. I was there. Upon entering the movie theatre we were given a small booklet which had the title of your movie on it. I took it home and put it in my bookcase. Mr. Perry, I love to write, always have. I have a Diary that I have kept since I was fourteen years old. When my friends were outside enjoying being teens, I would come in early and write....Dear Diary, which later became Dear God. I was so faithful in writing everyday for years, that if you picked a date, I could go back and tell you just what happened on that day. Yes ! I recorded my opinions, me experiences, and sometimes just current events. I'm 55 now, married, 3 children,1 grandchild, and I still write,not as often, due to everyday responsibilities. Most of what I write is spiritual, inspirational....I write songs, and poems which I call "Poetry for The Master". A few ofnthe people who have read some of what I write really seem to like it, and they encourage me to publish my writings. Of course my Mother is my biggest fan, and she saidnI should give my writings to my Pastor to read in church. I'm flattered. That booklet that was given to me at the theatre , SORRY, but I crossed out the "MAD" and the title is now.... "The Diary of A BLESSED Black Woman". It became my prayer journal, where I wrote about my marriage and prayers, blessings for a month. I often look back at it and see how God has Blessed me and how I have grown in my faith. My relationship with God is the most important thing in my life. Thank You for being who God created you to be....a gift to us ALL. May he continue to Bless you in every area of your life. I Love God and I Love you too. Looking forward to meet and talk with you one day....GOD'S will. Karen

  • Ask Moma Phoenix, Arizona

    Mr. Perry I thank you for bringing this issue to the attention of many. I am very concern about this situation and have created a facebook account to try to deliver this message. My mission statement is simply this. Mission Statement: Bridge the Generational Gap by retaining the values of Mama: AskMoma on facebook Thank you, Mama

  • Kris Las Vegas

    Tyler thank you so much for sharing that story. I understand how you fell. I grew up with an abusive and alcoholic father. When I see fathers being there for there girls it brings tears to my eyes. I am so happy for them and I love seeing that I just wish I felt that love when I was younger. I just thank GOD with all the trauma and thing5s I went through as a child I became a strong person and use my experiences to help others. And I see you have. Some people think because a person is happy all the time they never went through anything. That is not true. I choose to stay happy all the time no matter what and don't spend time on felling5 sorry for myself but using that energy to help some one else. Thank you for being you :)

  • Izzy L.A.

    Thank you for sharing! It really grips me when I see today's children just being LOVED! They are so lucky and blesssed. It's funny how my dad treats my nephew today the way I wished he would have treated my sister and I growing up. I give up and hide and don't push myself as I should due to years of negative programming. I feel powerless over it, but maybe that is my Heavenly Father wanting me to surrender and trust in Him more. Ask and ye shall receive. Well, I'm asking God to patch up those holes for people like us and let us feel that blessed embrace. I'll keep you posted!

  • ernestine sanders

    that was beautifully written! Thanks for the inspiration love you! You really have to give my daughters a chance they are very talented take care, keep us laughing

  • Crystal J. Raleigh, NC

    Greetings Tyler, I am a product of a divorced family and though my father lived only several miles/minutes from us my whole childhood, we rarely spent quality time. It wasn't until college that my father and I bonded in our own special way. My father has since passed away from liver cancer but I still think of him nearly every day and I still cherish those father/daughter moments. Despite the fact that my father didn't walk me to a park to play at 2 or 3 years old, I appreciate all that he did do for me and all the quality time we did spend with one another (even as an adult) before his untimely death. He had no idea (nor did I) that those moments would "deliver" us both from our past and almost erase it or at least replace his [then] absence with his [now] presence. It meant the world to me and I'm sure he'd say the same. I made him proud and I was proud of him. :) Now, as a mother two small boys, I make sure to have that quality time with each of them. We take lots of pictures together and I give countless hugs and kisses. No matter what kind of day we've had I always, ALWAYS end it with "I love you" so that there is never any doubt in their mind that I'm here for them regardless of the good or the bad. I'm here for them. They are my priority. :)

  • rosalind harris Brandon, Mississippi

    I have to agree with your comment, I never knew that type of love either, Tyler. But, strangely enough, I made a decission to be the best mom, that I can be, a long time ago, before any kids were on the scene. My sucess, is in no form or fashion to be compared to the work that you have done. But, I did do it, I give my kids unconditional love, and it is pretty easy, I could say, I just do the opposite, of what was said or done to me, and it should be good. So, I guess, that you can find positive, out of your negatives, if you are listening. Keep exposing truths, that people are afraid to talk about, openly. My mom got pregnant at 14 years old, and really, what is a 14 year old baby, going to teach a baby. Now, I am helping other teen moms, to stay in school, cause, I know that is a small start, I only wish I could do more to help these girls. But, like you, I know one day, I will find a way to help more of them. But, I feel real good knowing, that I'm helping just one, so, even one child could have a different life.

    • K. Williams Charlotte, NC #1563541

      I completely understand where you are coming from. My mother got pregnant with me when she was 15 years old,but fortunately for me she was a great mom. Yet, at an early age I began to feel guilty about her having to devote her life to me and my brothers. My mom is a brilliant woman who has so many talents and gifts locked in her, that I fear the world will never truly get to see. The man she married was abusive in every sense of the word to her, and as we got older it trickled down to us. (It's a complete shame that I have not called that man "Daddy" since I was probably 6 years old. ) He was so counter-productive and toxic to our family throughout our lives that even now we rarely see our mom, who seems to have an unhealthy dependancy of some sort on him. I also, would love to help women and children who are in negative living situations, even if it's nothing but counteracting the negative comments and self-images that some unaware parents/spouses impose on their families.

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