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Don't Let Anybody Define You!

I live my life outside of the box because when I die they're going to put me into one!

Many times in this life, people will try to tell you what you can and cannot do. They will also try to tell you who you are and who you are not. DON’T LET ANYBODY DEFINE YOU! When I was a kid, I had a teacher tell me that I would never be a millionaire because I was black and the system was set up to keep me down. This was a TEACHER! Can you believe that? I’m so glad that my little boy mind didn’t accept that. I have often been told that I wouldn’t make it because I was poor or because of the color of my skin. I had family members tell me I would never make it and my dreams would never come true for one reason or another... boy were they wrong. If I had listened to any of those voices I wouldn’t be here writing this to you. Hear me when I say this to you: no matter what anyone says to you, LIVE YOUR LIFE!! Follow that still small voice inside of you. That is GOD’s Holy Spirit and I think we all have the capacity to hear that voice. We just need to still ourselves to hear it. You must silence all the outside voices in order to hear THE voice. I try to stay as clear as I can so that I can hear it. It’s not always easy, but necessary.
This is your life. Make decisions based on your own path. Let no one define it for you!

If you live the life everyone else wants you to live and you never live the life you want to live, then are you really living??
Life is so short... Live it to the fullest!!
Tell me what your life’s dreams are. Talk to me on the message board at tylerperry.com/talk

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  • Denise Lemoore, CA

    Hi Mr. Perry. I am responding to your question about my dreams. I have so many dreams that I find it difficult to focus on any single one. In fact, I feel as though I AM a dream and that one day I will wake up to my REAL life. I am a stay-at-home wife and mother. I also home school my children. There doesn't seem to be a lot of time left for my dreams. Everything seems so big and I just feel swallowed up sometimes. I feel silenced in a very loud world. My only outlet is to write. I love writing and I have so much to say and so many stories to tell. I want to share them with the world. There isn't a whole lot in this life that I am certain of, but of this one thing I am sure and that is that God gave me a voice unlike anyone other. So my dream simply is... to be HEARD!

  • Patrice Johnson Hammond, IN

    Hi Mr.Perry, This is my dream, I would like to act in show to see if I can actually make it. I have a great deal of ideas, but know who to share them with. My dream is to act in one of your shows....maybe being MaDear long lost cousin from Mississippi:). That is my dream,desire,and accomplishments. I have more dreams as being a writer with creative ideas. Thank you Mr.Perry for this space and opportunity of sharing with you my dreams. May God Bless You tremendously!!!!

  • Brenda

    Hello Tyler Perry my dream is to one day be debtfree and own a house that i can call my own and stop paying other peoples mortgages and own better cars that i don't have to keep putting money into because they keep breaking down. It was so uplifting when I read your email because your words are always so inspiring. To me it was an expression of you can still have hope in a lost world. There are so many things in this world which try to keep us down but we just have to learn to move past them and keep charging forward. I know there's a blessing waiting somewhere for me at hand. It's hard waiting patiently for it to come but I hear waiting is worth the while.

  • L. Pryce memphis , tn

    AMEN, you can be anything you want to be. " If it is to be It is up to Me" I am 62 years old and working on my doctorate degree in mental health counseling. Yes it is difficult to pay for school and student loans. Yes, I have plenty of sleepless nights doing home work. But one day , all the hard work and sleepless nights will pay off and I will have my own practice in helping other people believe in them selfs . The key here is to trust in God and depend on him , and he will give you the desires of your heart.

  • Minister Yvetta Hardy Nashville, TN

    Mr. Perry, I read your most recent email about not allowing people or things to define you. It so inspired me and I wanted to share with you my story. At the age of 24 I was diagnosied with Rheumatoid Arthritis. Now some 33 years later at the age of almost 57, I'm still in the race winning souls for Christ. Limitations, sure. But I don't let that stop me. Here's "My Testimony" A statement was made, I don't see how you make ithaving RA. I told them, I don't except by the Grace of God. I have good days and I have bad days, but the one thing that keeps me going is the fact that I don't wallow in self pity! I've had to make some serious adjustments in my life sure. But even with the adjustments, I realize that I am BLESSED! I am blessed because even in the mdst of my suffering, at least I have arms, I have legs, and I have feet! Now mind you, they might not always work the way I wan them to, but at least I have them. That my friends I call being Blessed! You see it's not about what I can't do, it's about what can I do with what I have. God allows things to happen to certain ones because He knows we can handle it. Not without His help of course, but He knows our attitude towards it will be what I always say, "I have RA, but RA doesn't have me. Instead of focusing on the "what if's", I continued to push towards the "yes I can's". Early in my diagnosis I learned this scriptrue; Phil 4:13, "I can do all things in Christ who strenthens me". In Him I know nothing is impossible. So the next time you start to complain about the things that life has dealt you, think how blessed you are even in the midst of! I know I may be hurting and in pain one day, but if God allows me to live to see another day, the apin may only be a whisper of what it was the day before! For truly "God's Grace is Sufficient", and He will take care of YOU!! Amen!!!! "My Testimony"

  • Maya Jessica Williams United States

    Speechless. I absolutely agree. I'm never letting anyone define me or let rejection or persecution define my path. It is pushing me harder towards my future. I believe in myself. Maya

  • Nichelle Canada

    Hello Mr. Perry, Thank you I needed to read this right now at this time in my life!

  • miss p. usa

    hello... just getting ready to go to bed...just wanted to write you and let you know how much I appreciate your work...when is the new movie coming out? Mr. Perry I need a job...could you please help me accerate to the next level...it involves more schooling but at present I cannot afford it...love to you...take care...

  • Kia South Carolina

    Hello Mr. Perry, Yes, you are correct life is too short and I am working on my dream right now. I prepared some food for a friend in one of my networking groups and she loved it. So when I went back to clean up another friend was still there and I asked her did she like the salad. She said at first I was looking for the dressing but when I tasted it "Oh my God it had so many flavors." She then asked me why I wasn't promoting the catering so that is part of my dream I am doing little jobs for my group to brand myself. The Big Picture is to open my restaurant and build it into a franchise. To accomplish this would be great with all I am dealing with at the moment but I know as long as I keep GOD in the Front of all I do I know I will be blessed.

  • Trolonda Sellers st.rose,La

    What is this about House Of Payne going off that is my favorite show WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU TAKE IT OFF....IM SO MAD

  • Cynthia P. Okla. City OK

    Hello Mr. Perry. I want to thank you for the chance to speek back to you. My life long dream is to get to the point of buying me a house i'm on my way. Just want to be happy and cozy in something i can call mine. Keep up the good work.


    Hello Mr. Perry Thank you for this message. I am so happy that you wrote this message. I have been wanting to persue my acting career for years. I took acting at Texas Weslleyan University but was unable to complete because my children were in school and i had to work to get them through. Well here we are 10 years later and I have yet to get back into it. As of Friday I made a change I enrolled in KD Studio to assit me in my dream. I am 44 years of age and I use to feel that I am getting to old I may as well give up but I can't do that. I have a grandchild age 5 who was born without a left arm and she is the most inspiring child I have know. She does not allow that to stop here because when she was born as she got older we (my daughter and I) told her you are not handicapped. So she does things people would not believe she can. She recently told us she wants to go to the Olympics as she watched it on TV being the chid she is I have no doubt she will do just that. So I have to show here that your dreams can come true. Even though I am older than the norm its all in God's timing and I am going to make it. My dream is to work with you Mr. Perry and I know one day I will do just that because you inspire me to continue. I am going to work hard and learn all Ecan about my craft. I know there will be some NaySayers but that will only motivate me even more. Please never stop your mesassage because they are so motivational. Each time I read your twitter messages and your message board I know that I will make it because God is real. I see him in you. I know what he has for me no man can take from me. I have a story to tell and someone needs to hear it. I when I look back and where I have been and where I am now I know that it was only by the grace of God. I could go on so I will stop now and just say thank you for being a blessing to so many in the world. May God continue to strenghten you and give you the wisdom to empower, Be blessed. CClater.

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