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Don't Let Anybody Define You!

I live my life outside of the box because when I die they're going to put me into one!

Many times in this life, people will try to tell you what you can and cannot do. They will also try to tell you who you are and who you are not. DON’T LET ANYBODY DEFINE YOU! When I was a kid, I had a teacher tell me that I would never be a millionaire because I was black and the system was set up to keep me down. This was a TEACHER! Can you believe that? I’m so glad that my little boy mind didn’t accept that. I have often been told that I wouldn’t make it because I was poor or because of the color of my skin. I had family members tell me I would never make it and my dreams would never come true for one reason or another... boy were they wrong. If I had listened to any of those voices I wouldn’t be here writing this to you. Hear me when I say this to you: no matter what anyone says to you, LIVE YOUR LIFE!! Follow that still small voice inside of you. That is GOD’s Holy Spirit and I think we all have the capacity to hear that voice. We just need to still ourselves to hear it. You must silence all the outside voices in order to hear THE voice. I try to stay as clear as I can so that I can hear it. It’s not always easy, but necessary.
 
This is your life. Make decisions based on your own path. Let no one define it for you!

If you live the life everyone else wants you to live and you never live the life you want to live, then are you really living??
 
Life is so short... Live it to the fullest!!
 
Tell me what your life’s dreams are. Talk to me on the message board at tylerperry.com/talk

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  • Tonia Evart, MI

    Hello Tyler, I am so glad I checked my email this morning, when life gets you down it's the body of Christ that needs to s**** together. I was driving home from work this morning with my brother and we were talking about the state of the company that we work for, they are currently laying off 49 people and in the process of doing this they are doing some restructuring, so there is a possibiliy that I may have to re-adjust my whole schedule. Now I am greatful to have a job, please don't misunderstand, however I am not trying to stay there any longer than I have to, I was telling my brother that maybe I should take the voluntary layoff they are offering, and I had not yet told any of my family that I am moving when I graduate, so talking about taking the layoff was probably not the best idea. They think that pursing an acting career in a joke, and that I am never goign to make it, they say that going to school for Theatre was a waste of my time. So when my brother statred to lecture me this morning about what a good job I have and how stupid he thought I was being, I said you know we are not guaranteed a long life on earth, I was diagnosed with stage 2 colon cancer at the age of 34, Thank God I am today cancer free, but that put a whole lot into perspective. That is a cancer they do not even check for until you are 50, I told him I am not just going to continue to sit here and go to a job that I hate and never do the things that God has for me, Im May I will graduate with an Associate in Arts Degree: Theatre and I am moving. My whole life all I ever wanted to do was entertain, when I was little I swore that someday I was moving to New York and I was going to be on Guiding Light, we you can imagine my disappointement when the show was cancelled, however I have put my life and my dreams on hold for to long because I was doing what everyone else told me to do, never wanting anyone to be mad at me. Well enough is enough, next summer I am on my way to California, I am going to write a screen play, I am going to achieve all the dreams and goals that God has set before me, and I want to thank you for being so inspirational, your words have confirmed my thoughts, and that is how the body of Christ is supposed to be. All on one accord Thank You again. Tonia

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    • Tonia Evart, MI #1722789

      I just want to clarify that the second line in my comment was supposed to say "stick together" my computer must have auto corrected, I am so sorry about that.

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  • Pristine Parr Atlanta

    I have to comment on this. Thanks for sharing. Tyler you are either loved or hated and I'm glad you're alright with that because the people who love you love you for you- not an image you project. My higher purpose is to educate people about clean energy. The unemployment rate in the black community and among young people are in the double digits. If they knew that there was technology that can power a car without polluting and that they could find employment and offer a valuable service that will help people save thousands of dollars I believe they'll be inspired to learn this skill and educate and empower themselves and their community. But I am constantly being told that the oil companies and car companies will not allow new energy to take hold and that I should not look for it to happen because this-that-and the other! Enough! I know we are moving towards our greater selves, and that is what keep me going. I will find people who are ready to do this now, just like I am. Lotusmovement.weebly.com

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  • Rochelle Maclear, South Africa

    Just what I needed to hear, Thanks!!!! The simplest things I want is for a cosy little home and a reliable vehicle and in 2016 to be able to send my son for Tertiary Education, but you cannot believe that there is people out there telling me it wont happen. I'm a hardworker, and with the little I have I will make it happen. Tyler, you were the voice(your message) I needed. Thank you so much. And I will try and hear HIS(Our Almighty)VOICE.

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  • Rene Ann Rhoda South Africa

    Hi there TP community, my name is Rene, I live in South Africa. Thank you for this inspirational message, it was exactly what I needed to hear. I am currently unemployed and have been off and on for the past 3 or so years. I know it and I feel it, that little person in me, my God tells me daily that it is time for him plan to materialise in my life. But I keep setting up job interviews going and failing, I know God does allow certain things to take place so we can grow and learnt, but boy! the trauma I go through daily, people telling me how to conduct myself, what to say, how to say it, lie about this and that, exaggerate when going for interviews, but my spirit becomes so unsettled, and that is why I am not successful. But this world does not understand this, yet I still go on ans ask God daily to lead me, to not to fill my cup, but to fill the humagus giant of a huge pool, by spliting oceans and moving universes for me, because he is a huge good and nothing is to big for him. But according to his will and wish for me, not mine and exactly where he needs me to be. Of late I have had visions (postulates) of me working in our church, being a director in the training education field, bringing scripture and educate together with questions and knowledge alive, teaching people why work is important, helping people to find work, what this world looks at, how God looks at it... that is just one area! I have asked him of late to put me in a job, so as to support and surviuve financially, but also on a gradient to allow me to work at church so this vision can materialise. But my God is a patient Lord and it is a year now and I am still waiting on Gods time and not mine. Am I holding back my dream? I want to make a difference in people's lives, help then understand why they go through what they, and then help with solutions through scripture, that is and has always been my dream. I think this is why I cannot find a job and hold it, as it is now time for this dream to materialise. This past year been unemployed and financially stricken, God has moulded and shaped and tested me in so many ways, that I am amaized I am still here and still going strong :)

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  • helpme cobb

    For everyone who is stuck, like I feel sometimes just keep going. All I have left is a voice saying that God knows where I am and he won't leave my dreams on the cutting room floor. I know its hard, but we gotta fight on....

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    • Tami Baton Rouge, LA and Baltimore, MD #1724510

      I was praying the other day and heard God say, "Your dreams are in my hands." There is no better place for our dreams to be! At just the right time, He will bring then to pass if we remain faithful and obedient to Him. God is so good! All glory, honor, and praise belongs to Him!

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  • gloria decatur

    DEAR TYLER. HI,, GLORY TO GOD. MAY BE AM RIGHT MAY BE AM WRONG. GOD KNOWS, SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME, THANK YOU. I LOVE YOU AND FROM DAY ONE THIS PROCESS, IS NOT MY STYLE, SPIRIT OR MIND, NEED A NEW FAVOR, NEWNESS, NEW EXPERANCE, IF THIS IS HOW, THEN TAKE THE ONE SEED, I BELIVE GOD. AND I DON'T BELIVE HE WANT ME TO GO THOUGHT THIS KIND OF PROCESS, MAY BE THIS IS NOT FOR YOU . I OPEN THE BIBLE AT JER.45 I ASK SOME ONE WHAT IT MEAN AND THEY DO NOT ANSWER ME..IF YOU ARE TAKEN NOTES FROM V.C. I HEAR HIS WORDS IN SOUNDS. AND I DO NOT WANT TO BE APART OF THAT KIND OF LIFE STYLE. GOD WILL, HE HAVE THE BEST FOR ME,,IF I DON'T GET THIS WORLD RICHES. AND IF I GET MORE GLORY TO GOD, HE HAVE SOME ONE THAT WILL RESPECT ME, LOVE ME FOR ME NOT WANTING ME TO DO SOMETHING TO BE LOVE ARE GET SOME THING, I WANT A ONE MAN ONE WOMAN,RELATIONSHIP, NO TELL ME ONE, HAVE THERE PART TO PLAY, IS IT WRITTEN,? YES AS A MEMBER A BRANCH OF THE FAMILY, NOT INTIMACEY, FROM MY HEART TO YOURS I WOULD SAY MORE, "BUT AM," LET THEM DEFINE ME, THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT THEM SELF.TAKE ONE TO KNOW THE OTHER SEE AM BIGGER SO THEY HAVE TO TRY TO DEFINE ME TO THERE LEVEL. IT'S A GREAT DAY. MAKE IT GREAT IF WE CAN NOT AGREE TO AGREE MEET BUILT A RAPPORT,THEM I STILL LOVE YOU,YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT THIS IS WHAT I WANT BEFORE I MEET YOU AT THE ALTER I WOULD LIKE TO MEET YOU, UP CLOSE, TALK TO ME AM A LADY, THEY SAY A LOT ABOUT ME, I KNOW WHO I AM, AM NOT FOR SALE.G R

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  • Starlette D. Guillory Maurice, LA, 70555

    Mr. Perry, I don't know why I feel compelled to tell you how I define myself or my dreams. I have been reading your messages and each one touches me in a different way. But when I opened this one and you asked for a response, I felt compelled to respond. I have taken a sabbatical this year to complete my coursework for my doctorate in educational leadership. I have been teaching 15 years and needed a break. What is ironic is that the state of Louisiana rated me as 91% Highly Effective for the 2 school year. I say ironic because I am scared that when I return I won't be effective. Other than my dream to complete my doctorate, I would like the two books I have self-published to become known to a greater audience. I believe the one I co-wrote with my son would be a wonderful addition to anyone's library because it is written for a younger audience. It is entitled, Kristos, Did You Know the Sun and Moon are Married?. My last dream is to co-star in a Lifetime Movie. My mother watches that channel continuosly and I believe she would be tickled pink to see me on television if only for five minutes. Anyway, my motto is to reach for the moon and to settle amongst the stars. If my dreams do not come true at least I know I tried. After all, that is the key to success. To keep trying and if you fall, dust yourself off and try again. From your postings, I know you understand this philosophy. May God continue to bless you and yours. My family and I enjoy all your movies. May Madea have a long life. Also, too bad Mr. Redd Foxx is not living, I would have loved to see how Madea would have interacted with him. I guess I am showing my age. Sincerely, Starlette D. Guillory

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  • Bethany Greensboro, N.C.

    Mr. Perry, This is so true. Let me take it a step further. I lost 120lbs; praise God!!! I REFUSED to let anybody define me and I didn't try to compete with anybody but myself. Meaning, I did not look at what the next person was doing. I was not in the "I have to do what they do, but do it better" frame of mind. I created my own pathway and stayed focused on my goals from start to finish. I let God define me and that's why I was successful.

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  • Bethany Greensboro, N.C.

    Mr. Perry, This is so true. Let me take it a step further. I lost 120lbs; praise God!!! I REFUSED to let anybody define me and I didn't try to compete with anybody but myself. Meaning, I did not look at what the next person was doing. I was not in the "I have to do what they do, but do it better" frame of mind. I created my own pathway and stayed focused on my goals from start to finish. I let God define me and that's why I was successful.

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  • Karen Tulsa, OK

    Hello Tyler Perry, I am sorry it has been a while since I've been able to comment; but I'm here now. I always enjoy reading your messages because they bring joy to my heart. You are a very inspirational manwhen I was in college my professor thought so too. With that said I wanted to also let you know what the desires of my heart are for the future to be the best me that Christ had in mind for me when he created me. I have specifics in mind but I'd rather not broad cast them at this time. I love you and wish you much continued success all my love, Karen.

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  • Belinda New Haven, CT

    Hi Tyler, thank you so much for that message. I soooooo needed to hear that to help me with some things I was juggling in my mind. I think we all thank God that you did not listen to those doubters (wonder what they are saying now???). My goal in life is to be the best in any/everything that I do. I have many talents and am juggling which talent I want to focus on so I'm kind of dipping and dabbing in all of them (don't ask me how, as I'm sure you know...lol), but whichever I choose to focus on, it will be God driven and I only hope that it ministers to all to help make a difference in someone's life as you do. Thank God for you!

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  • Priscella Thompson Charlotte NC

    Hi Tyler I can definetly relate to those voices of people saying that I'd never amount to much. I was raised in foster care from the age of 7 till 21. I quess you can say that I'm a late bloomer but thank God for the blooming. I just recently graduated with an associates degree in early childhood education. I have hopes of writing a book about my upbringing in the system.

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