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Don't Let Anybody Define You!

I live my life outside of the box because when I die they're going to put me into one!

Many times in this life, people will try to tell you what you can and cannot do. They will also try to tell you who you are and who you are not. DON’T LET ANYBODY DEFINE YOU! When I was a kid, I had a teacher tell me that I would never be a millionaire because I was black and the system was set up to keep me down. This was a TEACHER! Can you believe that? I’m so glad that my little boy mind didn’t accept that. I have often been told that I wouldn’t make it because I was poor or because of the color of my skin. I had family members tell me I would never make it and my dreams would never come true for one reason or another... boy were they wrong. If I had listened to any of those voices I wouldn’t be here writing this to you. Hear me when I say this to you: no matter what anyone says to you, LIVE YOUR LIFE!! Follow that still small voice inside of you. That is GOD’s Holy Spirit and I think we all have the capacity to hear that voice. We just need to still ourselves to hear it. You must silence all the outside voices in order to hear THE voice. I try to stay as clear as I can so that I can hear it. It’s not always easy, but necessary.
 
This is your life. Make decisions based on your own path. Let no one define it for you!

If you live the life everyone else wants you to live and you never live the life you want to live, then are you really living??
 
Life is so short... Live it to the fullest!!
 
Tell me what your life’s dreams are. Talk to me on the message board at tylerperry.com/talk

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  • tina anthony hopkinsville ky

    My goal is to put out awareness about childhood cancer, my 3 year old daughter has cancer and she's my only child. Its scary as a single mom. I am active duty military and I'm getting out by the end of this year. My dream is to open up a daycare center with cheap affordable prices. I know I can do it...I'm 15 credits away from a bachelors degree. I love your messages Tyler, I'm honored to be a die hard small entity in you huge fan database. I stayed up all last night reading your messages from your very first post. Well gotta go mommy duty calls.

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  • Kim South Carolina

    When I received the message, my first thought was, ok, Tyler is sending us more encouragement to keep us moving in the right direction. But, when I had a chance to actually read the message and got to the end, I cried. I can’t remember anyone every asking me that, anyone being interested in me enough to want to know. Everyday life is so hectic and so fast paced that we lose track and our dreams. They get pushed to the side and as a parent just trying to make it to tomorrow my dreams are forgotten and our children’s dreams become our dreams. After you have children your focus becomes more about them and not about you. My life’s dream’s for me is for God’s continued grace and blessings, for good health and peace for all. My dream is to continue to be able to provide for my child and mother. I would love to open my own business. To live and not just exist; to be able to travel and walk on beaches with black sand. My dream is to know LOVE, meet my soul mate. Last, I dream for all my daughter's dreams to come true. As Oprah has said many times, “God can dream a bigger dream for you, than you can ever dream for yourself.” I can’t wait to see what He has in store for me. Thank you so much Mr. Perry for asking and listening. Talk to you soon… K

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  • Sandra J. Edwards new york, ny

    My dreams are to get my ideas/inventions to market and establishing the success of my business If you can dream it, and then believe it, place your intentions and let God handle the rest.

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  • Nicole Chicago

    It is my dream to be financially stable enough to help others. Do charity work full time. I cant right now because that wont pay the bills.

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  • Keira King Belzoni,Mississippi

    Awesome Nd Inspirational Message, Keep Doing What You Do N This World To Make Us All Think Better And Hav Higher Expectations For Ourselves.

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  • Lisa Helvey-Poole SC

    To write books, articles, plays, to act and sing...have not used those gifts since college....they are God given and hardwired into my being by the divine creator....you are inspiring me to step out and work on these dreams while working, instead of giving up and listening to the enemy saying, you can't ever do that NOW......thank you Tyler...what an exciting time in America and the world as the economy changed for all people to look inside and say, who am I really in terms of what would I do if there was no fear.....the stable jobs, as we saw them, have not proved to be stable after all, so now there is a new unleashed potential to say, why not try, what do we have to lose to try to be what we feel inside are our true gifts, passions, borne out in a path forged by that still small voice....the one wishing fear was not pushing it back down....as others say...Hello Fear.....I am going to start facing the fear and trying without fear of failure....God Bless you Tyler Perry!!!!!!!

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  • Bethany BartlettQUEEN32 Winter Garden, FLORIDA 34787

    HI, TYLER WHAT A WONDERFUL MESSAGE I JUST WANT TO SAY, YOU ENCOURAGES ME SO MUCH AND YOU ALWAYS MAKE ME LAUGH I CAN TELL YOU ARE KINDRED TO+++GOD++!SMILE HALLELUJAHER! IN+++JESUS+++NAME I DO PRAY!AMAN +++GOD+++Daughter+QUEEN+

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  • argelena sanders plano tx 75025

    one of my dream is to meet you & get ahome with a meda room in it so i can watch all my madea & other movies on my dvd player with a big wide screen. i have all your movies & many more.

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  • Mina

    My dream is to work with you. Some people kept asking me "are you crazzy, you are a smart PhD, lecturer, ... can't you do something better with your experience?" and i answer, it is not about the experience ... it is about the person. I feel very connected to you and I believe that even a day before my death, I will at least shake your hand to prove people wrong. Actually, it is a challenge to overcome. I am not in hurry but will make it and better.

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  • Brinda Pensacola

    Hi I agree about what you posted. I tell my daughter this all the time. She is a very shy young lady. People try to take your quiet as you are weak and that they can run over you. I always tell her to seek God like never before and always let God direct her path. She 's in college and when she tell people what her major is they seem to fine all kinds of ways to discourage her. She tried to opt out of her major when she went to talk to her advisor she could not get out. I told her to hold on to her dreams and don't let no one tell her what she can and can not do. If God be for you who can be against you. Walk in the Spirit of God. Don't let nothing separate you from the love of JESUS. Be Blessed and Be a Blessing. I thank God for you sharing.

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    • S Jones Riverdale, ga #1721883

      People always seem to equate being quiet as weak in our society. I think quiet people are very strong. Tell your daughter to stay focused on her goal and accept herself the way God has made her. I had the same type of personality and did very well in college. Just keep praying and seeking God.

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  • Deirdre Rockledge, Fl.

    Mr. Perry u are sooooo right. I USE to be like that......living my life how others wanted me to or how others expected me to, but not any more. I want to be a graphic designer. I received my BS 7 years ago, but i currently work as a teller (never thought that i would be doing this for this amount of time). But im grateful i have a job and good benefits. I still have not given up on my dream to be a graphic designer. I believe God helps those who help themselves, so im taking some refresher courses at the local community college......I know God will make a way

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  • migdalia ortiz Bronx, New York

    Hi Tyler Perry, I read your message "Don't Let Anybody Define You" yesterday and I had to read it again today. I am an avid reader of inspirational books and I like to read notes from inspiring people. I'm told I am an inspirational person. But ever since I went thru a mental trauma last year, I lost my self determination to ignore those that have define me because of my mental disease; even though I have two post graduate degrees and raise my son as a single person who turned out great as an adult. I had to go on Social Security Disability because my depression was unstable, but during these past 10 years, I wrote my memoir to share my experience of what it has been like to suffer from this disease, the lack of support from my family, the treatment I received from several psychiatrist in/out of hospitals and the medicines prescribed to me. The outcome for writing my manuscript has been painful. I have been outcast by my whole family and my friends have alienate me because they believe I was crazy when I told them the truth about their fantasy life. I finished my manuscript last April and I had a few people read it, and I've been told the manuscript is great, but I made no attempt to do the necessary steps to publish it. Maybe because after my trauma last year, I could not take out of my head what your message said to your fans: Don't let Anybody Define You." I'm sure you've heard - You can get a million compliments, but when one person tells you something negative - it is that negative message you pay attention to. So thank you for telling me this message today. I know I have to take these negative messages out of my head and get this manuscript publish. I look forward for another positive message from you. Take care, Migdalia

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    • Bethany BartlettQUEEN32 Winter Garden, FLORIDA 34787 #1721944

      migdalia ortiz, +++GOD+++BLESS! I HAVE A VERY SIMILAR TESTIMONY BUT I PUT ALL MY TRUST IN+++GOD+++AND HE SENT HIS DIVINE POWER AND NOW I'M ABLE TO DO ALL THINGS THROUGH+++CHRIST JESUS+++WHO STRENGTHEN ME! A SPECIAL THANKS TO TYLER PERRY FOR HELPING US TO BE ABLE TO TALK ABOUT OUR PROBLEMS AND HOW+++GOD+++HAS BROUGHT US THROUGH THEM! IN+++JESUS+++NAME I DO PRAY!AMAN +++GOD+++Daughter+QUEEN+

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