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Don't Let Anybody Define You!

I live my life outside of the box because when I die they're going to put me into one!

Many times in this life, people will try to tell you what you can and cannot do. They will also try to tell you who you are and who you are not. DON’T LET ANYBODY DEFINE YOU! When I was a kid, I had a teacher tell me that I would never be a millionaire because I was black and the system was set up to keep me down. This was a TEACHER! Can you believe that? I’m so glad that my little boy mind didn’t accept that. I have often been told that I wouldn’t make it because I was poor or because of the color of my skin. I had family members tell me I would never make it and my dreams would never come true for one reason or another... boy were they wrong. If I had listened to any of those voices I wouldn’t be here writing this to you. Hear me when I say this to you: no matter what anyone says to you, LIVE YOUR LIFE!! Follow that still small voice inside of you. That is GOD’s Holy Spirit and I think we all have the capacity to hear that voice. We just need to still ourselves to hear it. You must silence all the outside voices in order to hear THE voice. I try to stay as clear as I can so that I can hear it. It’s not always easy, but necessary.
 
This is your life. Make decisions based on your own path. Let no one define it for you!

If you live the life everyone else wants you to live and you never live the life you want to live, then are you really living??
 
Life is so short... Live it to the fullest!!
 
Tell me what your life’s dreams are. Talk to me on the message board at tylerperry.com/talk

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  • migdalia ortiz Bronx, New York

    Hi Tyler Perry, I read your message "Don't Let Anybody Define You" yesterday and I had to read it again today. I am an avid reader of inspirational books and I like to read notes from inspiring people. I'm told I am an inspirational person. But ever since I went thru a mental trauma last year, I lost my self determination to ignore those that have define me because of my mental disease; even though I have two post graduate degrees and raise my son as a single person who turned out great as an adult. I had to go on Social Security Disability because my depression was unstable, but during these past 10 years, I wrote my memoir to share my experience of what it has been like to suffer from this disease, the lack of support from my family, the treatment I received from several psychiatrist in/out of hospitals and the medicines prescribed to me. The outcome for writing my manuscript has been painful. I have been outcast by my whole family and my friends have alienate me because they believe I was crazy when I told them the truth about their fantasy life. I finished my manuscript last April and I had a few people read it, and I've been told the manuscript is great, but I made no attempt to do the necessary steps to publish it. Maybe because after my trauma last year, I could not take out of my head what your message said to your fans: Don't let Anybody Define You." I'm sure you've heard - You can get a million compliments, but when one person tells you something negative - it is that negative message you pay attention to. So thank you for telling me this message today. I know I have to take these negative messages out of my head and get this manuscript publish. I look forward for another positive message from you. Take care, Migdalia

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    • Bethany BartlettQUEEN32 Winter Garden, FLORIDA 34787 #1721944

      migdalia ortiz, +++GOD+++BLESS! I HAVE A VERY SIMILAR TESTIMONY BUT I PUT ALL MY TRUST IN+++GOD+++AND HE SENT HIS DIVINE POWER AND NOW I'M ABLE TO DO ALL THINGS THROUGH+++CHRIST JESUS+++WHO STRENGTHEN ME! A SPECIAL THANKS TO TYLER PERRY FOR HELPING US TO BE ABLE TO TALK ABOUT OUR PROBLEMS AND HOW+++GOD+++HAS BROUGHT US THROUGH THEM! IN+++JESUS+++NAME I DO PRAY!AMAN +++GOD+++Daughter+QUEEN+

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  • satara williams MIAMI FLA

    HI MY LIFE DREAM IS TO TELL MY LIFE STORY. TEAR OF A WOMAN. I HAVE BOOK COMINING OUT SOON. I HOPE YOU ARE ABLE TO HELP ME, TO DO PLAY ON THAT. I LOVE YOUR WORK. AND HOPE TO WORK WITH YOU ONE DAY, A LIVING ROSE.

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  • Mama Sabine Southgate, MI

    Please check out my message to Madea:

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  • Lolade Leigh-Thompson Toronto, Canada

    Tyler, you are so right about not letting others define you, it is the most limiting and unhappiest way to live. I have wasted enough time with the "I can't do this because... they said" thinking. I am done with that, I am embracing myself and stepping into the what God has for me. My dream is to become an independent Film maker and Entertainer to the glory of God and I have started working towards that. Thank you for being such a great example of what God can do with anyone who dares to dream, believe and step out of the box. Thank you for the inspiration messages you post, the wholesome great entertainment you provide. Its such a relieve to know I can go to the movies with my kids to watch something decent, funny, educative and life changing. I know God has more for you. Go Tyler go:)

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  • Alicia Praska St. Paul, MN

    I think you are so right. Plenty of times that I listened to other people, and was not happy. But now I try to make myslf happy. Life is short and we only have one round at it. So be happy and honest with yourself.

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  • Shevis Harris Kennesaw Georgia

    My dreams are to become an interior designer, get married and just enjoy life. I'm not trying to become rich just want to live comfortable. I have came across people who have tried to tell me how to live my life. And that just did not work for me. I thank you so much Tyler Perry for the wonderful emails that you send especially this topic. Because I was kind of facing that lately, and this morning G0d spoke and told me what my purpose is and what I am to do while still here. I plan to do exactly that and I ask that you just keep me in prayer. Love you Mr. Tyler Perry Thanks again for your wisdom and encouragement

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  • S Jones Riverdale,GA

    Thanks so much for that! People in my family and workplace have always told me that I would never be successful because I was either too quiet or too humble. I can remember my grandmother telling me that I would never achieve anything worthwhile because I was too quiet since I was 6 years old! Even though I accomplished a lot academically, I have always felt those comments coming up in one form or the other by someone to discourage me. On my last job, I did not get promoted even though I was qualified. Sometimes I felt as if I was cursed by those messages. Nevertheless, my dream is to open a Zaxby's or Subway franchise. I had this dream since 2006 and remain focused. It seems so for far away but because of you I keep believing!

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  • Diane Overland Park, Kansas

    One of my most ultimate goal in life is to join your team, and to become one of your Future Film Editor ;-)

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  • Angela Kenlow Sacramento, CA 95827

    Hello Mr. Perry, Thank you so much for your message. I tell you what it was just what I needed to hear. My life dream has been to sing and to be used by God how ever he chooses to use me. I love singing for the Lord, he has shown me dreams of doing just that but sometimes I feel like it will never happen. I know that if he said it, it is a done deal, I have music that he has given me but no one to put the music to the lyrics so I sing without it. I try not to get discouraged but sometimes it creeps in and I have to remember to bring it under submission to what God has said. I just graduated from college with my Masters in Biblical Studies "Praise Him" :-) so now I'm being still listening and waiting to hear that still small voice to tell me my next step. I know God is SOOOOO good and I never what to get ahead of him. Thank you so much for your encouraging words, continue doing what you do, you are turly a blessing and a mighty warrior for God. ~Blessings Angela~

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  • Bruce DAvis hIGHLAND PARK, mi

    hELLO THERE TRY MY CUSTOM MADE BEAU TIES .........RIGHT OUT OF MOTOWN I DESIGN THEM AND MAKE THEM MYSELF......THEY ARE GONNA BE THE NEW WAVE OF NEACK WEAR. CUSTOM BOW TIES , CUSTOM SHIRTS, ETC MADE BY BRUCE DAVIS FOR BEAU DILLION " NOT JUST YOUR AVERAGE BEAU"

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  • Monique Wheeler Lubbock Tx

    Hello Mr. Perry, I just recived your e-mail. I have many dreams and goals in life that I want to come true. But here lately my life has been turned upside down. Im not complaining because GOD has been so good to me and my family. In January I lost my job of 12 years due to me being ill and having several surgeries. Im also a single mother of one amazing 5 year old little girl. Since December I have been caring for my 84 year old grandmother who has demintia. At times caring for her can be very overwheming. My dreams are to become a gospel singer and a actress. I want to go back to school and earn a degree in family studies &Music education. I have been so downfrom being ill & living off of unemployment checks,not being able to find a job. I use to be a "go getter" Somewhere along the way I have lost my wheel. I pray and I trust GOD, I want better for my daughter and I. Even though it's hard I still "Count it all Joy" I keep going, GOD is still working and around. I try to stay positive and keep pushing my way to a better life. I still claim that all of my dreams are coming true threw GOD, someday. P.S thanks for your ear I needed someone else to vent my problems to.May GOD bless you and keep you ALWAYS!!!!

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  • JANNIFER WHITE Chicago

    Life for the first time has gotten out of control. On the brink of finally producing my first movie everything fell apart. I'm slowly trying to piece everything back together and it has been very difficult. Just feeling so lost.......

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