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Don't Let Anybody Define You!

I live my life outside of the box because when I die they're going to put me into one!

Many times in this life, people will try to tell you what you can and cannot do. They will also try to tell you who you are and who you are not. DON’T LET ANYBODY DEFINE YOU! When I was a kid, I had a teacher tell me that I would never be a millionaire because I was black and the system was set up to keep me down. This was a TEACHER! Can you believe that? I’m so glad that my little boy mind didn’t accept that. I have often been told that I wouldn’t make it because I was poor or because of the color of my skin. I had family members tell me I would never make it and my dreams would never come true for one reason or another... boy were they wrong. If I had listened to any of those voices I wouldn’t be here writing this to you. Hear me when I say this to you: no matter what anyone says to you, LIVE YOUR LIFE!! Follow that still small voice inside of you. That is GOD’s Holy Spirit and I think we all have the capacity to hear that voice. We just need to still ourselves to hear it. You must silence all the outside voices in order to hear THE voice. I try to stay as clear as I can so that I can hear it. It’s not always easy, but necessary.
 
This is your life. Make decisions based on your own path. Let no one define it for you!

If you live the life everyone else wants you to live and you never live the life you want to live, then are you really living??
 
Life is so short... Live it to the fullest!!
 
Tell me what your life’s dreams are. Talk to me on the message board at tylerperry.com/talk

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  • Linda Ermon Chicago, IL

    Dear Mr. Perry, My brother is abusing my mother. Can you help me put her in a better place. Forgive me Sir, I'm despert for help only for my mother.

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  • Areonia Kennedy St. Louis, Mo

    For so long I've let others define until i realize im better than that. My dreams are to start at a job nomatter type just to get me started. I plan to get my own place so i could turn a key to a door that i can call my own and sleeep in my own bed without having to wait for someone to tell me where i can sleep. Plan to graduate from college and get a good welding job. i have alot of dreams but i go for the little ones. Im 22 trying to reach for mars but cant seem to get my feet off the ground. I keep thinkn maybe if i dream enough r pray enough i can reach my dream maybe one day i can. tryning to figure out where i went wrong or what im doing wrong. Still dont know so maybe uy can help me out

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  • Teresa Renae Taylorsville, Ga, 45 miles NW of Atl. God's country

    Forgive me Tyler, I did not read your last few sentences saying tell you my dreams.... My dreams are simple ... to over come ... enjoy life, thankful for the gift God has given me -- a 2nd chance at living. To smile again.. I had a great smile and well surgery took it and now waiting on a bridge.. simple but not unreachable just being patient and I know it will happen. I have had my share of disapointments, and I have always found the way thru with a positive attitude. I know what doesnt kill us makes us stronger. I have been blessed to , experience diff fields of work, secretary, medical, vet assistant, legal secretary, extra on In the Heat of the Night for two years, owner of our own business, and met people from all over and my dreams are as big as the world but as simple as simple can be, I have loved , raised 3 daughters and helped raise 2 granddaughters,I have lost both parents, first husband, and have lived mainly for everyone else. I am 52 and not sure what my time is ..was given 3-5 yrs and Im on the 3yr April 2013 will be 4yrs.. I love travel, meeting people of all walks of life, sharing my testimony and just being loved and enjoy day to day life. My dream is to get into a gym, get back the health I lost to cancer and the meds that went along with it, get my smile back and teach others how to believe in their selves that with God nothing is impossible. being loved is the most sought after gift but without filling up first its impossible to obtain .. we cant love without loving out self.. so I have loved everyone and now its my time to love me... sleep well my friend keep the faith and stay positive.. dont let anyone steal that joy from your day. much <3 T

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  • Teresa Renae Taylorsville Ga. 45 miles nw of atl.

    Hi Tyler, thank you for all the post of encouragement and uplifting. I prefer to be positive always, sometimes its all we have. I enjoy reading your post they give bits of who you are inside and I am very drawn to positive people. I have over come so many things in my life and I know God is going to let the tidalwave of blessings flow and those ripple effects I pray will touch people far away... I am a survivor of one of the rarest cancers in the world and I give him the glory for it. paying it forward daily is living. Love all the talent you show in everything you do, and especially your stand for God... Im a CASA Volunteer and love what I do, I know loneliness and sorry but I know Gods opinion of me and I cant loose with that...:) enjoy this blessed life he gave you and never stop giving people bits and tiny pieces of yourself...Im a root and have many branches and they are sturdy bc my tree is grounded in faith, water by the word, and never falters... peace b with you always... much <3 T-

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  • Jannie Fort Wayne, Indiana

    Hello Tyler Perry, How are you, bless, I know. I really enjoy your posts. They always encourage me, and they give me a lot to think about in my life. Thank you for your encouragement and wisdom. No matter what I go though in life, all I need is to read your post, and I say to myself, thank you, because it be what I needed to hear at that time.You helps me a lot. I thank God for you. My hopes and my dreams are to see you in real life, during one of your plays. You are so funny in your movies. You are amazing. I can listen and watch your movies or plays, forever. In them, you have a way in showing how life is today, you are a for real person. Thank you for keeping it real, in whatever you do. I wish I can meet someone like you..A for real person, you are not fake. God bless and keep you..you will always be my friend.

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  • Zion H. Mukisa Kampala, UGANDA

    No matter how old your messages are they always manage to speak to me. Thank you.

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  • rosa oklahoma

    strong words as i seat here i can understand what i must do

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  • LadyAnn Elizabeth Graham-Gilreath United States

    Today is my birthday and I would like to share that I will not let anyone define who I am!

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  • Vickie M. Frm Mich Dearborn Mich... Ford Motor City..

    Yiu said "Dont let others define you". I hve lived 58 yrs of my life doin so. I cant get out of that place... Much Love /blessings Vickie

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  • Toni lynn White United States

    I need some help calling all angels

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  • Gigi Michigan

    Hi Mr PerryI love your comment on life and even though my financial sucess is no where close to yours I still believe that you should always live life and not let life live you!!!!!!

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    • faboulua@100 det, mi #1739848

      hey ilove tylerperry's movies there so appealing

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    • michael nig #1742094

      Over the years, many People have defined what I cannot be buh today I have come to realise I can become anything. I'm quite young(24) but I started a business PartnershIp at 19 which thrived but many rose up to tell me I can't succeed in the business cos. I was yOung,immature,inexperienced and unexposed and when the slightest challenge came I cringed and folded into sheets at its approach.......but tanks to God and people like you whO engineer us to rechannel our thoughts so. I find this Piece wonderful

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  • Beverly hall Savannah

    Hello Tyler, Amen to that. I have lived a life where I use to listen to everything my family told me to do when it came to how to live my life. Now, I am 47 years old and I just learned a few years ago, that I'm not going to listen to what they tell me or suggest things that I should do to better my life. I'm living life the way I want. They still try and tell me things I should do but all I do now is put my hand up and say I and that's the end of it. I think they got it now. Some of my family say that I'm high minded, which mean I have high exspectations, which I do and always have, and I may not have reached the exspectations that they think I should have, but to me I am reaching them, because I had to "change" inside so I could start to change my outside, which is my outlook on life because of where I am. I've been reading Oprah's life classes and it has helped me so much. I may not have much now, but I am Grateful everyday for what I do have. That's why I'm able to smile everyday even through my situation. That smile or that Thank you to someone else, may help someones else that is going through worse things than me have a better day. One thing I am also Grateful for is, I have my own home base business that I am trying to build, so how many people can say that they have their own business. Thank you Tyler for all you do. You and Oprah are two people who are my admirers!

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