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Don't Let Anybody Define You!

I live my life outside of the box because when I die they're going to put me into one!

Many times in this life, people will try to tell you what you can and cannot do. They will also try to tell you who you are and who you are not. DON’T LET ANYBODY DEFINE YOU! When I was a kid, I had a teacher tell me that I would never be a millionaire because I was black and the system was set up to keep me down. This was a TEACHER! Can you believe that? I’m so glad that my little boy mind didn’t accept that. I have often been told that I wouldn’t make it because I was poor or because of the color of my skin. I had family members tell me I would never make it and my dreams would never come true for one reason or another... boy were they wrong. If I had listened to any of those voices I wouldn’t be here writing this to you. Hear me when I say this to you: no matter what anyone says to you, LIVE YOUR LIFE!! Follow that still small voice inside of you. That is GOD’s Holy Spirit and I think we all have the capacity to hear that voice. We just need to still ourselves to hear it. You must silence all the outside voices in order to hear THE voice. I try to stay as clear as I can so that I can hear it. It’s not always easy, but necessary.
This is your life. Make decisions based on your own path. Let no one define it for you!

If you live the life everyone else wants you to live and you never live the life you want to live, then are you really living??
Life is so short... Live it to the fullest!!
Tell me what your life’s dreams are. Talk to me on the message board at tylerperry.com/talk

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  • Elaine HD Chicago, IL

    Unfortunately, in our country, race continues to be an issue in 2012. Everyone deserves a chance to show themselves without being pre-judged for foolish reasons. I learned this lesson after meeting a man back in 1973, and we fell in love. We talked about having a future together after college. He had been raised by his loving grandparents on the East coast. Suddenly, his birth mother came back into his life. Although his grandparents loved me, his mother did not; she hated me on sight. I would constantly catch her rolling her eyes and making faces at me behind my back. I was very shy, but I tried to talk and be as friendly as possible. As time went on, she seemed to accept me, at least, I thought she did. So, her son and I tried to make the long distance relationship work. There were no cell phones or internet back then, and within six months, all of his letters and phone calls suddenly stopped. I was devastated. I locked myself in my bedroom, and dropped out of college. A girlfriend told me years later that he had married, had two sons, and that his wife left him to raise the children alone. I eventually returned to college and recieved my Master's degree in education. I recently retired after 34 years of teaching. Although I worked in a predominantly white school, I was very well loved by my students and rated "superior" by administration. I recently saw this man for the first time in over thirty years. He said that his mother did like me, but she thought I was "too old" for him ( 11 m0nths). My reply to him was that "was the biggest piece of crap" for the following reasons: I was 11 months older, but his "wife" was 4 years older. I wasn't "pretty enough" to her ( skin too dark and I was too fat). I would end up on welfare with too many kids. I would ruin his life. By the way, NONE of those things happened! Over the years, I taught my students to look "beyond the outside package" and my two favorite mottos: "Don't let the past predict your future" and, "Don't judge a book by it's cover; you'll never know what is hiding inside the pages".

  • La'Kaila Daley Detroit

    I have a dream of being a professional movie writer, I want to be this person who inspires the world in so many ways and I want to make people believe that it can get better, that we can change the world. I want to be the person to help the world and heal it, that it also my dream.

  • prophet thelma francis 3312 curtis drive # 301

    from the desk of the prophet, greetings in the name of jesus.i lost my mother ethel perry,a few months ago she put me in charge of her ,i want the lord to bless you , andi for the father to send his holy comforter to comfort you,and my baby in time of greavement.i will al ways love you. i thank god for you, i see god in every play in everymovie. we will take soon.

  • cynthiaLynn Brookline Mass

    flying over fear. Tyler You know what’s so special about one is that I am not that fearful about anything rather it is the fear elicite around her presence, because of the selfishness and wrongdoing of a more than a few there is fear of being exposed while in the middle of being acessed. Its the strangest thing you would think when you as a race of people or a gender of creatures there would be a tone of nurturing and care and a strong realm of love amongst the town folks but quite the contrary. You see I have been exploited in a nec essary way to move or stimulate the economy, thus the intention turned into a selfish, vindictive, distracting , 6 tons of hatred piled up on top of itself, a week focus upon the exploited, one so strong that she has functioned in a painful body for over thirty years. As the tragedy of exploitation grew thicker so did the aggression of physical pain. I do not know what it feels to be in a pain free body. But strength avails herself. Jehovah insist on carrying her for she is needed in so many dimensions . There is fear in this realm that I sometimes get a feeling that I'll never.......what’s that song by fire I get a feeling? Knot, as Diana Ross says My Love Is Here To stay. So you see the fear is the unjust at hindering her, blocking her forecast, ect. This is not to say that there is no love but I need more And here's something to think of There was so much more love in a natural setting without the uninvited invitation to ones life. Well I have my work cut out for me, April flowers will bring May"s flowers. Peace......Defining Me tomorrow Tyler. Much love

  • Miss P. USA

    Good Morning Tyler: Sorry I am so late writing to you...I'm sorry to hear there will be no further episodes of House of Payne. I found the shows very enjoyable for everyone. I will really miss viewing them. I look forward to following your life to see what will occur next. The previews of the movie coming out was very interesting. I guess you wondering why I'm up so early. Will you please permit me to talk..someone must be very angry with me because they keep trying to poison me...putting it through a h*** they placed in the car...etc. Be careful because nowdays people will try to poison you...they throw it at you..put it in chairs, on floors, in clothing, probably in food and drink too...don't turn your back....and keep aware of your surroundings...no matter how comfortable you may feel...times have changed and poeple seem to be losing it...im praying for you and really enjoy your work...it has brought me much joy...for that thanks very much...Bobby Kristina did a good job again tonight...tell her good luck with whatever she wants out of this life...be blessed, love you so much, will write to you later.

  • Cassandra Bolds Alpharetta, GA.

    Hello Tyler, I just saw house of payne's for the last time. No tell me that's not true. That was a very good show, what happen? Were is meet the Brown's show? Are you making any new shows for the Brown's or the Payne's? I will miss those shows if you are not. God Bless You in your new thing what ever you are doing! A friend from New Orleans!

  • Don't Let Anybody Define You! USA

    Hi Tyler....It felt heart breaking that a (teacher) who is suppose to be an inspiration, caring, loving, supportive, encouraging, loving, understanding, compassionate and the other go through with parents to make sure each child have the best possible chance there is in preparation on their life journey proceeding school. Flashing back: we know there is some ignorance and lack of knowledge in every phase of work hood in the world. Thanks to 'OUR LORD AND SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST' that flows through you and a determination not to take what she said and just let it earthquake your self esteem, but you took what she said and created an enormous GENIUS WAVES OF TALENT. To (everyone) reading this comment....please please believe (GOD GAVE TALENT AND VISIONS TO US ALL) You might have to get out your comfort zones, even maybe relocate, but it's there! FAST AND PRAY......PETITION GOD IN SINCERITY WHAT HE WANTS YOU TO DO.....and get busy! Take criticism...turn it into a positive, hold your head high even if you're down and out. WEEPING MAY ENDURETH FOR A NIGHT....BUT, JOY COMES IN THE MORNING!

  • Brandy Georgia

    I finally decided to give For Better or Worse a try and can't watch it. What's the deal that you have to have a username and password to a TV service to watch online? I don't have any TV service in my home, just too much toxic c*** comes through TV. When I wanna watch something, I rent a DVD or find it online. I'm not gonna worry about it, I don't like TV all that much anyway. I just wanted to see how you are maturing in your craft. Still proud of you though

  • cynthialynn jamaicaplain

    flying over fear: Here for you tyler and the rest of america is a creed to live by ...Author unknown:Do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself to others, It is because we all different that each one of us is special,do not set ypur goal by what ithers deem important, Onlu you know whats important and best for you, Do not take for granted the things closest to your heart, Cling to that which is important for without them life is not that important, Do not let your life s*** through your hands by living in the Past or the Future, Do not give up when you still have something to Give, Nothin is really over until the moment you stop trying, Do not be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect, It is the fragile threads that Binds us to each Other, Do not be afraid to Encounter Risk, It by taking chances we learn to be Brave, The quickest way to receive love is to Give love, The quickest way to loose love is to hold to tightly, And the best way to keep love is tto give it Wings, Do not dismiss your Dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope, To be without hope is to be withjout purpose, Do not run through life tso fast YOU forget where you have been, But aslo know where you are going. Life is not a race, but a journey to be Savored every step of the way. Peace my earthlings. Cynthia Lynn. We will chat tommorow Tyler.

  • Garcia Michigan

    Hello Mr. Perry, I will be watching tonight. What are my life’s dreams? I have a few, but will share two briefly. One is to open up my business that will inspire and encourage others. I work on that goal daily. Two is to purchase a motorcycle! I have had my endorsement for some time now but I don’t have a bike to ride. I love Harley-Davidson motorcycles! They are also a wonderful organization. Truth is I will probably never get one because it is an expensive selfish desire that would only benefit myself. Other things are more important right now. But, I can dream! I hope you follow up with telling us what your dreams and desires are too.

  • Angela Brooks Fayetteville, North Carolina

    I have often felt as though the system is set up that way to watch you fall as you fall down. My biggest concern is that my children don't except that just because you are who you are you are doomed to fail. I have prayed and asked God for help with being a good parent and mother and also father if I have to fit into those shoes. Throughout my life I have had people put me down belittle me and make fun of me and things that they saw wrong with me but, I am a single mother in college looking for work and taking care of my children. I was determined to prove everyone who said negative and belittling remarks about me wrong. I am who I am because of Gods Mercy and His Grace... He has protected me on many different levels and all throughout my life.

  • bethany thomas Beaumont, Teaxas

    I have this dream that i want to make a reality, I want to be a choreographer. ever since i was little i use to teach my niece routines and make dances for myself. i was in dance and twirling in my high school. i've always had the passion for dance and i want to give back to the community and open up my own studio. i want everyone to be able to express themselves threw dance. i volunteer at my old elementary school and teach the kids there how to dance. since i've been teaching them we have won alot of trophies for there school. we even went to a disney world competition for twirling where we won third place internationally. and now i am trying to take it to the next level i want to start my own business. but all we have been getting is a turn around and my mother has been working so hard to get everything we need. but all everyone has been saying to me is that we can't do it. The negative remarks that we got did nothing but make my mother want to try harder even when i started to give up she wouldn't, all she would say is we just have to pray. so thats what i did. we are just keeping the faith and praying that everything works out in our favor. as long as we keep god first( one of the main things i got from your plays). but i have a big dream and alot of ambitions i want to open the studio and i really want to act. i have the drive for it and the brains we need to make it. I write my own screen plays. i've been writing ever since i was in middle school. ( i'm holding back tears writing this). my dreams i know pretty much is what everyone wants to do but i'm not them i have the faith in god and know that as long as i keep worshiping Him, He will see me threw. even though nothing has come in yet i know it will because i have god in my life. my mother e-mailed you i don't know if you got it but if you did please read it it would mean so much to me and my mother. God bless

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