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This Is For Frustrated Dreamers

I was driving in to work this morning and I started thinking about all the days I dreaded going to work. I was so sick of it… the job, my boss, the people I worked with, the traffic… I would wake up angry every morning. I didn’t want to deal with the crap of the job, but I was forced to go. I had been homeless, I was broke, living paycheck to hopefully the next paycheck. I couldn’t take a day off for fear I would get fired. I was just frustrated. I thought I hated my life and the job.

It was so aggravating because God had placed all these dreams and hopes in my soul and mind and I had no idea how they were going to come to pass. To have a dream of being something better and living better than the way I was at that moment and to not see a way of getting there felt like death to me. I thought, “Dear God, why would you give me so much hope and not make a way?” But what I learned through prayer was, with no path in front of you and no road map… this is where true faith begins. With faith I realized that I wasn’t frustrated with my life or the job, I was frustrated because I was a person who had dreams for myself, a person who had visions for my life and I wasn’t living it. Have you ever been there, where you felt so strongly that there was more to this life than what you see in front of you?

One of the most difficult things about being a dreamer is the fear that the dream will never happen. I’m here as a living witness to tell you your dreams can come true. You can’t give up. And I am here to let you know that everything can work together for your good. The time that you are spending on that job that you think is a dead end is not. You’re being prepared just like I was. I was a shoeshine boy, I worked as a bill collector, a used car salesman, in housekeeping in a hotel, and they all were preparation for where I am now.

What do these things have to do with where I am now? I’m glad you asked. I am able to use skills that I learned. I shined shoes, so I know how to shine my shoes if I need them to look nice. Selling used cars was a great way to learn how to close a deal. Bill collecting taught me great negotiation skills. Working at that 5-star hotel taught me a lot about travel. Every experience in your life is here to teach you something.

Today, while you’re at work, don’t be frustrated. Look around you and ask God what are you there to learn and how will it be a part of your future dream. Honor that job, do the best you can at it, because God will bless you for honoring something that belongs to another. 

I hope this inspires you today. If you need a little more inspiration then watch my first sit-down interview in years with Oprah on Oprah's Next Chapter. It airs this Sunday on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network at 9/8c. I talk a little about not giving up. I know it will move you.

Here’s a prayer for today: “God help me hold on, help me to get to what I dream of, help me to honor where I am today so that I can appreciate where I will be tomorrow. In Jesus' name.”

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  • Winnie Nairobi

    Hi Tyler, thanks a lot for sharing this with us. I feel very encouraged. I know how frustrating it can be to wake up in the morning feeling very demoralized just because you have a dream which is not coming through.I believe that whatever the circumstance and the dreams we have, God will always hold our hands and see us through them. Thank you

  • Sadia Kenya

    Hi Tyler thanks for that inspiring message cause that is what iam going through.I feel frustrated by this life,i got a job but there are salary arrears-we are not being paid, not being able to start a business on the side,my efforts of searching for another job have not beared any fruit yet, and dealing with a landlord who doesnt understand that we have not been paid.But in all this my Salvation keeps me going and hoping that one day there will be a light at the end of the tunnel and that God will supply my needs according to His riches in glory.May God bless you in all that you do and thanks for the nice plays and series you produce.

  • Milton Portmore, Jamaica

    I read this and found words one can live by. Honor God and God will honour you, seek ye the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added unto you, all the good dreams.

  • Vanessa F. Aurora, CO

    This message was not only inspiring but confirmation. From the class I'm taking at my church, the message Dr. Cindy Trimm preached this past Sunday to tonight's service...truly encouraged is how I'm feeling right now. Thank you for sharing this with us.

  • Freddie gavin Augusta georgia

    I am a frustrated father. I'm frustrated not because of my dreams but for my sons dream. You try to teach your kids that they can do anything they want to if they work hard. My son is a gifted actor and although he is only 16 years old I know that if given a chance he could be the actor that he always dreamed of being. I see less talented young adults on film and tv and think WOW--really--why not My son Kyle. I hadn't gave up because I know that's what he really wants to do. He attended Stagedoor Manor where he performed very well. In fact, many parents, and attendees can't believe he hasn't been given a chance. I know this is his dream and not mine. Acting is all he wants to do. His mother and I tell him he needs to write his own plays. He's smart and intelligent and although his opportunity hadn't happened yet, he is prepared. Like your good friend once said, "luck is perpetration plus opportunity ." We'll, Oprah said something to that affect. Anyway thanks for your story. I know he want give up. Maybe one day you will get a chance to see him and hire him in one of your plays, movies or tv shows. Until then keep representing because we know we are not really represented in Hollywood. Freddie G

  • Nikki

    Thank you Tyler!!! I really needed this as I am at the point of giving up with my job.. I love you for sharing this with me! Take care always.

  • Janet Pittsburgh, PA

    Crying until my stomach ached after my father died was a common occurrence. He lived to a wonderful age of 93. Everyone said that too, "Well, you had him a long time and he lived a good life." YES, that was the point, I had him a long time and so it was that much harder to be without him. In the last few months my father was on hospice services. I am a registered nurse and watching him wither and waste away was gut wrenching. I thought, "How could anyone be a hospice nurse?" I was very disgruntled at my job and don't you know, a few months later the hospice agency who took care of my dad called me and asked if I wanted to work for them. I did not hesitate to say yes. It was God's will. My grief was comforted by my ability to share my pain by helping others. God is good.

  • Rhonda Griffin guntersville al

    i just want to thank you for this message i was just sitting here thinking the same thing why am i work in this place and when am i going to be able to do what i want and i was going through my email and come across this god does work through others i just started to live right through god and im new at this i feel so much lefted off me i just need to trust god and he will show me the way but some times it is so hard just pray for me that i live for him and trust in him foe everything thanks again for the message keep up the good things you are doing god bless new in god

  • Not gonna say. Just a fan. Texas

    Yesterday when you posted your message about the frustrated dreamer I could barely breathe. I literally felt on that dayand in that moment that my dream was being stifled. It was later in the afternoon when I read your message because I was at school. I had gone to my car to try to make some phone calls because my neighbor texted me and said the constable was at my door with an eviction notice. I was so frustrated because here I was with a book out now, but my family and a few friends have started tripping with me already because they aren't in the book and I'm not even famous yet, my cellphone is about to be cut off, my storage in ATL is in pre-lien and about to be auctioned off, I have to sell my TV to pay for my doctor visit this week and gas in my car, my car note is 2 months behind, AND TO TOP IT OFF, now I have an eviction notice? My life is not reflective of the gifts and dreams God placed in my spirit. I was overwhelmed and just said, "God did I hear you wrong? Was I mistaken at what I feel in my spirit? .... I was so "out-there" mentally that I needed to get a grip so I put in Bishop Jakes CD entitled "And Ye Shall Have It." It was given to me mother's day weekend by a lady at the Potter's House on mother's day. I drove up there because I needed to be in the presence of some REAL anointing because that's a hard day for me to get through too. It was no accident that in that particular message, Bishop Jakes talked about 2 key things that helped me. He said, 'unrealized passion is painful" and " what's in your spirit will make you seem crazy to others because your dream has not manifested yet." I don't believe in coincidences, but I do believe in God's impeccable timing and I believe God sends "The Comforter' just when we need him. ...After I finished listening to the CD, I read your email. As I read it, I was balling (crying)!!! People were walking by and looking at me in my car, but I didn't care. I was praising and thanking God for the reassurance through your words of the dream he placed in my heart, in my soul, and in my spirit. Bishop Jakes was right. When you KNOW that you KNOW, that you KNOOOOOOW that what God has placed in your heart is real, the pain from that unrealized passion and dream is almost unbearable. Thank you for letting God use you at the appropriate time.

  • L.I.F.E. US

    "I live the same old dream day and night......." those lyrics song in 1986 by Billy Ocean was the same year I started my occupation. Twenty six years later, I retired. I've worked all three shifts at one time or other. Fridays couldn't come soon enough, but when it's all said and done I gave my best. In return, I get to inspire others to stay in there and run the race set before them.

  • Jherica R. Miami,FL

    Wow....felt similar this morning!! Smiling :)

  • Tara Agnew Starkville, MS

    This is so inspirational; you have no idea how much God used you with these words. He used you to speak into my spirit, because these have been my feelings for so long. He has been dealing with me and I have been asking for a word. Thank you for being the bearer of this word at this moment!!