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This Is For Frustrated Dreamers

I was driving in to work this morning and I started thinking about all the days I dreaded going to work. I was so sick of it… the job, my boss, the people I worked with, the traffic… I would wake up angry every morning. I didn’t want to deal with the crap of the job, but I was forced to go. I had been homeless, I was broke, living paycheck to hopefully the next paycheck. I couldn’t take a day off for fear I would get fired. I was just frustrated. I thought I hated my life and the job.

It was so aggravating because God had placed all these dreams and hopes in my soul and mind and I had no idea how they were going to come to pass. To have a dream of being something better and living better than the way I was at that moment and to not see a way of getting there felt like death to me. I thought, “Dear God, why would you give me so much hope and not make a way?” But what I learned through prayer was, with no path in front of you and no road map… this is where true faith begins. With faith I realized that I wasn’t frustrated with my life or the job, I was frustrated because I was a person who had dreams for myself, a person who had visions for my life and I wasn’t living it. Have you ever been there, where you felt so strongly that there was more to this life than what you see in front of you?

One of the most difficult things about being a dreamer is the fear that the dream will never happen. I’m here as a living witness to tell you your dreams can come true. You can’t give up. And I am here to let you know that everything can work together for your good. The time that you are spending on that job that you think is a dead end is not. You’re being prepared just like I was. I was a shoeshine boy, I worked as a bill collector, a used car salesman, in housekeeping in a hotel, and they all were preparation for where I am now.

What do these things have to do with where I am now? I’m glad you asked. I am able to use skills that I learned. I shined shoes, so I know how to shine my shoes if I need them to look nice. Selling used cars was a great way to learn how to close a deal. Bill collecting taught me great negotiation skills. Working at that 5-star hotel taught me a lot about travel. Every experience in your life is here to teach you something.

Today, while you’re at work, don’t be frustrated. Look around you and ask God what are you there to learn and how will it be a part of your future dream. Honor that job, do the best you can at it, because God will bless you for honoring something that belongs to another. 

I hope this inspires you today. If you need a little more inspiration then watch my first sit-down interview in years with Oprah on Oprah's Next Chapter. It airs this Sunday on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network at 9/8c. I talk a little about not giving up. I know it will move you.

Here’s a prayer for today: “God help me hold on, help me to get to what I dream of, help me to honor where I am today so that I can appreciate where I will be tomorrow. In Jesus' name.”

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  • Merranda Houston, TX

    Dear Tyler, Please allow me to encourage others around the world. My name is Merranda Hanks. I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and my hands are deformed. I am a survivor of molestation and rape. I was molested at the tender age of 9. When I lived in Shreveport, LA I was brutally raped in my own home by a person that I considered a friend. Long story short, I was dealing with unemployment, foreclosure, repossession, lack of food and I barely had utilities in my home. I was so poor that I cut a potato and had to place it under my arm pits to get rid of the musk because I lacked deodorant. With everything going on at the same time literally, I wanted to give up and die. I asked Jesus to take my life and spare me from this. I was accustomed to making over $100K per year. I went from that to the maximum in LA unemployment ($13,000). But God had a plan for me. He wanted me to depend on him and become a better & stronger being. He wanted to use me as a living testimony. I changed after everything. I moved to Texas in 2013, I have a $250K house and a $100K career that uses my Masters degree and experience. My mental state is strong and wiser. I plan on writing a book to encourage others. I was delivered from the trauma. I was counseled by ministers and professional doctors. But the one being that saved me was Jesus. I just had to let God "do him". I ujst wanted to tell everyone to keep your focus on God. He spared my life on many days and he can spare yours as well. We are here for his purpose and one day, you will understand "why you". I know there may be days that you want to give up but Jesus will hold you up, walk with you and be there every step of the way. Stay focused. Have a blessed day. Warm Regards, Merranda Hanks, M.S.

  • Nancy Conner Conyers GA

    Dear Tyler, I want to tell you what a big impact your show, The Haves and The Have Nots has had on me and my relationship with my son-law. He has been married to my daughter for nine years and we never had much in common to talk about, due mostly to our generation gap. I am 76 an he is 38. Since we both love the show so much we can't wait until Tuesday so we can talk about it. We love to analyze the characters and debate over where you are going to take them next. Even when we disagree about why a character did a certain thing, we have fun agreeing to disagree. Because of your show, I feel that our relationship has really grown and I want to thank you for it. The actors are so good that we were sort of disappointed to see the reunion because it brought us back to reality. We love the fantasy and seeing them all together getting along put a little damper on our fantasy world (LOL), but we still love it!

  • Selina Ruan brooklyn new york

    Hi.My name is Selina. I am 25. I have been living a very bad life for the past ten years. I have been a prostitute since I was 15 years old. The Lord spoke to me so I have turned my life over about 1 week ago.This is still a very fresh wound.I am currently living in the shelter.I am struggling so hard not to go back to that life. Please help me.I want to tell you my story. Hear my cries. Please do not ignore me.Thank you.Blessings. :)

  • Lizzie walker Jackson,ms

    Dear mr.perry My name is Lizzie we are a family of 9. I recently went to Decatur,Illinois to attend my third child of my sister funeral. She is the mother of 5 children's and she has buried 3. She is 69 years old. She wont me to move close to her, and I very much wont to because she to me like my mom. Our mom passed in 1999.but I have a seriou money problem. I am asking you for a donation to help me move there I now live in Jackson,Mississippi we need money for a home and fur inane furniture. My sister do not have much and her home is small. If I can get help with the house and furniture I believe with gods help I can handle the rest. Please find it in your heart to help me. I am afraid that she will get deeply sick from the burial off her third child, she has seizures,nerve problems, and ashamed.please help me. I long to be near her zoo badly but I am not financially able need your help ASAP my address is 918 south valley falls road. Jackson,ms 39212. This is my address if you find it in your heart to help me,which I pray that you do. I love you and May god bless you Tyler I really do mean this. Thank you for taking the time to read my message.

  • alison williams trenton NJ

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  • Sharon montgomery Indianapolis, IN

    Mr. Perry, I really enjoyed reading this post. It seems as if my life has been rough even in my mothers womb. I'm a twin... well was a twin; she died a couple of years December 5th....I graduated twice from college, one from Indiana Business College now called Harrison College and from Med-tech...I'm a school drop out, but returned back to school to graduate with two of my children. I didn't want my children to graduate before their mom..What kind of example is that. I have also been abuse mentally, physically, sexually, and emotion in my child hood. I went though changes having babies by different men. (searching for love in all the wrong places) don't get me wrong...I love my 7 doves...all have graduated from school except one. Right now I'm at home on disability after having 5 strokes and two heart surgery...All my education down the drain for disability. Someone told me I should write about my life..I feel ..if I do that alot of people will get hurt. It's not a pretty picture. Mr. Perry I need some advice because I lose my car when our apartment caught on fire and me and my daughter was looking for a place to live until we found another place. (The Springhill Apartment in Indianapolis, Indiana....) I can't even get back to church now. What would be my next step after that? My faith is still strong, but I feel I'm wasting away doing nothing...Any advice would and will be a blessing. Thank you in advance...Love Sharon D. Montgomery......

  • Hope Ligon Orlando, FL

    Good morning Mr. Perry, I pray that all is well with you and your family. I wanted to share my family's story with you. January 2012 was the most painful month of my life. On January 7, 2012, my cousin Karen died from complications of diabetes. Four days later on January 11th my beloved mother Laura died as well from the complications of diabetes. My grief was beyond words. I was diagnosed with diabetes in 2007. Two months after my mother and cousin died, my husband Anthony and I formed the LFW Foundation to honor them yet I was too grief stricken to do anything. For two years, I was numb and I didn't know what I was going to do. I watched my beautiful mother suffer at the hands of this disease, going to dialysis 3 times a week until she said she was ready to go home to be with the Lord. My mother was 69 years and my cousin Karen was 49 years. My mother was the baby of 21 siblings. All have died except for 1 from either diabetes & congestive heart failure. 2 months ago I was told by my doctor if I didn't change my life I would die as well. So I have done exactly that. My husband and I change our entire diet and we are working out 2 times a day. :) So far I have lost a total of 15 pounds with 30 more to lose. Through this life changing event, God has birthed my purpose through our foundation. We are committed to raising awareness about diabetes to other families by sharing the story of our family, The Thomas Family. We are having our first Spring Forth Community Prayer Walk on May 3rd here in Orlando to encourage families to leave a legacy of not just wealth but a legacy of health & wellness. We will be walking 2.5 miles around Lake Baldwin to pay tribute to our family and others who have lost love ones to the deadly disease. We are also organizing a community prayer walk in my hometown of Valdosta, GA in October 2014. I understand that your mother passed away from diabetes so we will be releasing balloons in her honor. I just wanted to share our story to encourage you as you continue to grieve for your mother. This foundation has allowed me to channel my grief and keep the memory of my mother, my cousin and my family alive. I apologize that this post is so long but just wanted to say to you that we are praying for you and to ask if its ok that we release balloons in your mother's honor as we celebrate family. May God Bless you and forever keep you. Live in Expectation Hope Ligon

    • The Shadow 14 Fla. #1977295

      I was raised in the projects in Queens, N.Y. I never realized that at a young age I missed my calling. The women in the building would sit on the bench B.S.ing all day so..Like a leader of the pack I would line all the kids up on the bench & see what each kid could do or would want to do I would arrange to put on a show for the women. Who would sing, dance, tell a story. I would put notes in all the mail boxes where there were kids & they would all come to my home & I'd put on a puppet show. My mom told me how I'd have all the kids doing things is was great! I loved that part of my life. We were so happy with nothing just the company of other kids my age. Now living in Florida I had a bad accident which left me disabled I have to walk w/a cane, any walking in length I use a scooter. All my life I wanted to act and or sing. Thank God I can get around one nurse said how I lived is beyond a miracle. And she said I never thought you'd walk again.

  • karl lindsey chicagoill

    mr perry how are you hope fine am 54 and i need a whole dental job done on my mouth could u fine it your heart to help cant eat mouth always bleedin dont smile no more not bad lookin at all and i have talet no knows about please help me am poor

  • Shondreania Bradford Detroit Michigan

    Hello Tyler my name is Shondreania Bradford. I just wanted you to know this has been the toughest time I'm my life right now but watching your plays and movies and you are so inspiring. My mom has taken care of basically her while family since she has been able to, and now that she is down and has hit this tough stage it seems like they can't help her. I cry everyday I try to help her but I know it's not enough but she is grateful for it. You help me make it through the day and think positive, and i just really want to say thank you so much. I would also like a shot to pay in one of your movies it plays I believe I can do it, my little brother and I are always acting out one of your movies. That would be a dream come true. But if not I want to still thank you



  • Hope Texarkana

    Just when I felt like giving up, I come across this. Perfect timing. I envision my life being sooooo much further than where I am now, I literally eat, sleep and breathe acting and wanting young girls to see that they don't have to look a certain way to get a role in a movie. I'm only 18 and who knows what God has in store, but I hope and pray some day my dreams will come true. I hope all is well with you!!!

  • Doris Bibbs Lawrenceville, Ga.

    Hi...making correction!Not that I wouldn't love to have your last name. That was a mistake... An accident. I was to erase Perry. Because I had Perry once too many! SORRY! Mr. Perry! Have a blessed day. Doris ...