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This Is For Frustrated Dreamers

I was driving in to work this morning and I started thinking about all the days I dreaded going to work. I was so sick of it… the job, my boss, the people I worked with, the traffic… I would wake up angry every morning. I didn’t want to deal with the crap of the job, but I was forced to go. I had been homeless, I was broke, living paycheck to hopefully the next paycheck. I couldn’t take a day off for fear I would get fired. I was just frustrated. I thought I hated my life and the job.

It was so aggravating because God had placed all these dreams and hopes in my soul and mind and I had no idea how they were going to come to pass. To have a dream of being something better and living better than the way I was at that moment and to not see a way of getting there felt like death to me. I thought, “Dear God, why would you give me so much hope and not make a way?” But what I learned through prayer was, with no path in front of you and no road map… this is where true faith begins. With faith I realized that I wasn’t frustrated with my life or the job, I was frustrated because I was a person who had dreams for myself, a person who had visions for my life and I wasn’t living it. Have you ever been there, where you felt so strongly that there was more to this life than what you see in front of you?

One of the most difficult things about being a dreamer is the fear that the dream will never happen. I’m here as a living witness to tell you your dreams can come true. You can’t give up. And I am here to let you know that everything can work together for your good. The time that you are spending on that job that you think is a dead end is not. You’re being prepared just like I was. I was a shoeshine boy, I worked as a bill collector, a used car salesman, in housekeeping in a hotel, and they all were preparation for where I am now.

What do these things have to do with where I am now? I’m glad you asked. I am able to use skills that I learned. I shined shoes, so I know how to shine my shoes if I need them to look nice. Selling used cars was a great way to learn how to close a deal. Bill collecting taught me great negotiation skills. Working at that 5-star hotel taught me a lot about travel. Every experience in your life is here to teach you something.

Today, while you’re at work, don’t be frustrated. Look around you and ask God what are you there to learn and how will it be a part of your future dream. Honor that job, do the best you can at it, because God will bless you for honoring something that belongs to another. 

I hope this inspires you today. If you need a little more inspiration then watch my first sit-down interview in years with Oprah on Oprah's Next Chapter. It airs this Sunday on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network at 9/8c. I talk a little about not giving up. I know it will move you.

Here’s a prayer for today: “God help me hold on, help me to get to what I dream of, help me to honor where I am today so that I can appreciate where I will be tomorrow. In Jesus' name.”

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  • Not gonna say. Just a fan. Texas

    Coach, the day you posted this, it helped me because that was the same day the sheriff came with the eviction notice. Now here I am nearly a month and 1/2 later and I'm reading it again. (That's the beauty of putting things in writing.LOL!) I had to come back to it because I needs me some mo' good old coach TP 'couragment. LOL! I feel like I can spill my guts to you and you can relate and not judge me. It also helps that you have no clue who I am. Lol! ...At any rate...I was off work for months because of Lupus. I eventually got evicted after living off my savings for 5 + 1/2 months. One of my law school professors from my 1st yr of law school called out of the blue to see if I was excited about my last yr of law school. It was the first day I was sleeping in my car. She graciously has allowed me and my 2 children to stay with her for a while. I took a job at my neighborhood doughnut shop when I started physically feeling better just before i got evicted. I started off in the kitchen and moved my way up to helping front counter on my 2nd day. Last week I got promoted to filling the jelly and cream filled doughnuts. Yeee haaaa! (Texas style yell) ....I am being sarcastic. The owner's daughter asked me why am I doing this if I'm in law school. I said my mama taught me to pray and to work hard. The avg person with my resume would probably say the job is beneath them, but my momma taught me better than that...I had to come read your story again because after cutting my workweek down to 1 day, saturday she told me she would not need me until business picks up in Oct. Just on Friday, my job packing medifast only had 3 hours of work for me and sent me home. I had a job cleaning an office building at night and the owners contracts got cancelled.....My dream was frustrated again. I asked God why was this happening when He was the one who told me to leave ATL and come to HOU for law school. I was being obedient and I felt like life was kicking me when i was already down....Then I read your msg again. Then God spoke to me and said for me to read Mark 11:24 and then I remembered John Gray talked briefly at church last night on Psalms 5:12. Between your message, John Gray's sermon, and most importantly, listening to the voice of God, I am more convinced that no matter what happens God will still do the supernatural in my life. Thanks Coach, Because I care, T

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  • Shayla Hines duluth ga

    Hi! Tyler Perry that was exactly what l needed.Although l may not have alot of the things l want but l do have what l need thats my family, true love,happiness and the fact that we still have breath in our bodies is more than enough.God is great and no matter what l keep my faith because l know god has better things in store for me.I know one day ill get to be free of financial struggles,living paycheck to paycheck wanting badly to beable to give my son all the things he needs.I am a strong young lady,this fight l know im not fighting it alone.Thanks

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  • Anna

    Wow...I don't now what to say, I'm just "INSPIRED"! I guess good effort is not in vain because God sees this and rewards, at His own perfect time. I not gonna make a detour now! Hallelujah!

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  • Kara Denise Lindsey Jackson, MS

    *Typing in haste my mind was going faster than my fingers. I realized I had many typos so I'm reposting my message* MR. TYLER PERRY! Just when I think I am at the end I see this. Thank you... The thing that bothers me the most is THIS. This post of yours.... I promise you that I have said numerous of times to close friends and family that this cannot be what God has for me. I want to be great! I want to do something great and I want to be great at it! I want to see people smile. I want to make people happy. I want to make a difference and I want people to be proud of me! It's funny that I saw this email because I was having a conversation with my mother recently and she asked why don't I write you a letter because my dream is to be an actress....but I don't want to be in just any movie I want to audition for a Tyler Perry production. She said I should send that letter every week until I get some type of response either a yes or a no. Either way it doesn't hurt to try. I have nothing to lose but a dream and a chance to gain. This is a dream of mine that I have had for a very long time, I just would not tell anyone because people make me think that it is so far fetched for me to want what I want. I know that you have millions of people chasing after you and want to be a part of the great things that you do. I guess this makes me one of them. I don't know what makes me different from all these other people besides the fact that my name is Kara Denise Lindsey and I am me. God has truly worked on my heart and I thank Him for all that He has brought me through and I thank Him for what He's going to do with me. Thank you for coming into my life and I pray that you will be willing to give me a chance to audition for you and live out my dream. If I never get this chance I will thank God anyway and continue to ask Him to show me His purpose for my life.. Thank you for being you. Love Kara

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  • Kara Lindsey Jackson,MS

    MR. TYLER PERRY! Just when I think I am at the end I see this. thank you... the thing that bothers me the most is THIS. This post of yours. I promise you that I have said numerous of times too close friends and family that this cannot be what God has for me I want to be great! I want to do something great I want to be great at it! I want to see people smile I want to make people happy I want to make a difference and I want people to be proud of me! Its funny that I saw this email because I was having a conversation with my mother and she told me why don't I write you a letter because my dream is to be an actress..but I don't want to be in just any movie I want to audition for a Tyler Perry production. and to send that letter every week until I get some type of response either a yes or a no it doesn't hurt to try I have nothing to lose but a dream and a chance to gain. This is a dream of mine that I have had for a very long time I just would not tell anyone because people make me think that it is so far fetched for me to want what I want. I know that you have millions of people chasing after you and want to be a part of the great things that you do. and I guess that makes me one of them I don't know what makes m then all these other people besides the fact that my name is Kara Denise Lindsey and I am me. god has truly worked on my heart and I thank him for all that He is brought me through and I thank Him for what he's going to do with me. thank you for coming into my life and I pray that you find it it will be willing to give me a chance to audition for you and live at my dream. if I never get this chance I will thank God anyway and continue to ask him what his purpose you for my life.. Thank you for being you. Love Kara

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  • Lori Ann Christian Maryland

    Dear Tyler, I looked on your website for inspiration because I knew you had been homeless before, and to email you for I feel so despondant and feel like giving up on my dreams I believe are from God! How awesome your message posted was to frustrated dreamers! It has given me a ray of hope! For I said "God I can't continue living like this!" . I find myself homeless from pursuing my hearts desire , vision and dream that I have had since a young adult even a child, and that is to relocate to an awesome place (Cali) because I had lived in so much dysfunction, get a BS for I have an AA and pursue a Phd. I did just so in 2009 to my surprise and everyone else's. I had not been on an airplane since highscool in 1982! After 2 weeks of being there I toke ill from something in my apartment and couldn't get in school or get employment! My life has been threatened several times, and I have lost much, down to my baby brother this April! I am in sooo much pain and bewidered at the fact that no one will give me the help I need, not family, not even the church! I returned to my home state just knowing that my family, friends or aquaintences would help me for I know a lot of people, but if they didn't I knew for certain the Body had my back for I've been walking with God since 1987 and a free giver! Giver of time, prayer, housed others, etc...! My son, who is pirsuing his own dream, has supported me as much as he can, while my other child who is older and capable has turned her back to my constant cry for help! And she won't let me see my grandkids! There's much more but I try with all my heart, by the enlighting through the Holy Ghost, to focus on the good, great experiences through this, and still help others where I can with the little I have! I have not been as outgoing as I used to for I have very little oil left! But I do my best to smile, for I've been told it warms others hearts! Please pray for me, my son who is trying to play professional football, my grandkids who one has special needs, my brother from my mom, and all those who have used me and turned their backs on me and not help me at my time of great need! I have reminded God I am to reap what I've sowed for I have willingly loved on and helped sooo many through out my life!!! And please send me any information that could possibly help me. Thank you in advance. By Lori Ann

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  • Jasmine KC,MO

    Thank you Tyler for sharing!I needed this I felt stuck for a while now and I know that I want more for my family other than paycheck to pay check. Sometimes,I feel God plants these plans in my head and at times I can be the problem but, then I feel like my current situation just won't allow it. So I appreciate your openness and encouragement!

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  • Chanelle

    i feel a emotion of relief by this post. i recently just graduated with my MBA. I HAVE BEEN TRULY DISAPPOINTED WITH LIFE. being in my mid twenties i am starting to see thr harsh reality of how my generation is in huge debt from student loans, less work experience than other generations and stuck in jobs that could have been obtsined with a high school diploma. i am in this situation like many others and im starting to be a victim of depression but a survivor of several suicide attempts due to my frustration and anger of lost hope of even being able to begin my career. i have recently just started treatment with a mental health professional and slowly starting to regain my hope and self esteem back. i have been trying non stop to be hired at a start to my career and with no luck my spirits have crushed. when your younger people dismiss your frustrations with saying things like well you have the rest of your life to find success. which could be true.. but when your constanly dreaming and waking up to nightmares i often question what is the point of my life. this posting was very uplifting. thank you

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  • Pat Currently in Columbus, OH

    Some have me labeled as a baby boomer...hint...hint...gives you an idea of my age. With age comes wisdom. This message made me think about my very humble beginnings and thinking during those times when I didn't have enough bus fare to get to work in NYC or to have enough to pay rent and the list goes on. Those experiences make you stronger, not to mention, helps to keep you leaner. You then appreciate what you do have later on in life. Now the funny thing is when you get what you thought would make you happy, you realize it doesn't really mean that much later on in life...what really matters is having your health, family and friends part of your life. The rest is just not that important. When you get older, those who shared a part of your life may not be around anymore. What I've learned to do is in the worse of times, share a SMILE, because whatever is happening in your life or to others around you, it's all in God's plan for you and to help you carry out the mission you are born into this world for and we are all here to help each other. If you're in a challenging position right now, start Smiling...because you will then know this is a test from God' to help you move to the next level.

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  • Sheila Kenya

    Tyler this story has just uplifted my spirit because am in a position right now where all doors seems to be closed. I have been called into ministry but ministering to people without money is not easy. I enjoy ministering to the youth because i never had anyone to show me the way of the Lord when i was young. i use my testimony to encourage many but i have reached that point am asking the Lord who will encourage me at this point where all doors are closed. I read your life story and the abuse you went through as a child and i realized its similar to mine and more. May God continue using you to lead many to the way of the cross because its the best that has ever happened to me. when all seems blurrr, JESUS CHRIST is my present help in times of need.

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  • Carla cleveland,oh and a dime

    Tyler , I feel ya.... I worked for a company for three years alheimers facility, we were overworked and underpaid the residents would beat us up and down LOL it was a journey as well as and adventure, my hours was six thirty until three pm , I loved that I adjusted to the time , because I love the early morning for meditation and praying, any who , the only thing I was concern bout was the leadership the HR, Admin. ect. they wanted a paycheck that it that is all we had so many residents died from neglect from so call leadership, I am aware of most protocol in nursing I have over ten years of experience, anyway , a patient fell on me and I was fired any way , I had made up in my mind to be the best caregiver , I know what you send out returns back, also I do have compassion for people who needs care, we never know what position we are going to be in , due to trails and testing?

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  • ELLIE W. Collinswood, NJ 08107

    WOW, Mr. Perry. You totally spoke to my heart today in your comment "this for frustrated dreamers". I have had the same sentimemts in my heart. God has given me ideas for movie theaters yet i dont know where to go with or what to do. I went to "invent help" but they want too much money that i dont have. So God what do i do? Thanks for sharing your heart with me. It helped alot. May the Lord continue to use you and bless you. Looking forward to what Hes going to do in my life. Your sister in Christ, Ellie

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