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Guard Your Heart and Mind

If you can get this, this will change your life… I was out taking my morning run. I love how still it is when I’m running. I can hear clearly and really commune with God. I wanted to share this with you. It’s a lesson I had to learn.

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although that is important (as long as you don’t go overboard... but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak. Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift, don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually, you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this, lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. Most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.

Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart.


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  • Yolanda Williams Marietta

    Wow I need this message, and it is so true. We need to stay true to our own heart no matter what. Thanks for the word, helped solve a problem. God is amazing.

  • Michele A Chicago suburb

    Dear Mr. Perry, I just stumbled on this note through twitter, and I must say this has been the most disappointing 4 days I've had in awhile. I don't know what's next, but I thank you for telling me no matter what happens to guard my heart. I appreciate you so much. Thanks for all you do.

  • Kahlil White

    Yes sir,i receive that in Jesus name.....You really spoke to me and I'd like to say thank you so much!!!

  • Lorraine South Africa

    Thank you Mr Perry! This are the words I needed after a week I've had. Stay blessed

  • Debra Little staten island New York

    Thank you for sharing ur thoughts to us....Tyler I've be a giver all of my life to my faily, friends, I got sick had to stop working after 33 yrs, noone came to me and said can I help u, if it wasn't for my daughters don't know what I would have dne,,but now things are better for me got back money and I'm ok, I'm the same giving person but now I guard my heart, so I know where u are coming from.

    • Gwen Hargett New Bern, NC #1738105

      Tyler, You are truly a gifted man and I'm soooo glad that your life has touched mine in so many ways that has been very enlighten in my life. God bless you my friend!!!

  • Kim Chicago, IL

    Thank u so much Mr. Perry! You have actually put what I have been feeling/going thru this past week into words for me and I now see clearly! To actually hear you say this makes me feel so much better about how I feel and what I have actually decided to do for myself after being in a situation for so many years. I must move on and protect my heart before I allow someone to change me because of their own problems and selfish ways. I know I'm a good person but now I realize I'm just not the right person for them. And I know that that is ok because I am/can be the right person for someone else. Thank you and God Bless!

  • Asabe J. Toronto, ON. Canada.

    Dear Tyler, In my case I wanted to change my heart because I felt I was being mocked for being conscientious and gentle, so I wanted to prove that I am not a fool, I can be tough, mean and 'sensible'. But I made a surprising discovery: being mean and unkind is relatively easy, it takes strength to be loving, gentle, kind, forgiving, etc. It is a blessing to be so strong that it feels like second nature to show kindness and consideration for others. I have accepted my strength and the value that God places on such things. There is a passage in the Bible that says 'guard your heart for out of it are the issues of life'. We see life and live according to our perception or beliefs or convictions...and these are all matters informed by our hearts. Afterall, as a man thinketh in his heart...so is he. I also found out that the people who least appreciate these virtues are usually in need of it the most. For instance, people who mock kindness need people to show them kindness. people who despise patience need people to be patient with them. I am grateful for who I am. I see now that it is not a weakness to believe in people and give them the benefit of doubt, generosity is not a defect and a simple child-like faith and confidence/reliance on God is not an abnormality. It is truly believing that God loves me, it is enjoying the freedom of His love and agreeing with His perspective on life. This life is very short whereas eternity is not, I'll rather sacrifice the short for the eternal...worse case scenario. I love that you remind me of these important and fundamental truths, I find refreshment in such reminders. Thank you Tyler.

  • kimberly Alexander Houston, Tx6

    Thank you Mr. Perry for your endless efforts to always encourage ya as people to better ourselves, God has truly blessed you w** the gift of love and inspiration, I love you, continue with God's work and favor will follow you the rest of your days

  • Faith Armstrong Philadelphia

    This was truly needed! I felt very good after I read this :-)


    Tyler, Thank you very much for sharing Guard Your Heart and Mind!!!! I needed to read this on Friday morning. God Bless You.

  • Frances Zayas East Hartford, CT

    Thank you so much for the lesson god & you give me this morning , god work is in everyone ...

  • S. Hawkins WDC

    Mr. Perry, wonderful words of encouragement! I absolutely love it! I took these words to heart.....tears falling as I read your message because I can absolutely relate. I love that you have a heart for people to rise above their negative circumstances and defeats in life. God has given you a gift (not just acting, but wisdom and a compassion for others and ) to share with others to bless them. Thank you for caring and continue to allow God to use you. God bless you!

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