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If you can get this, this will change your life… I was out taking my morning run. I love how still it is when I’m running. I can hear clearly and really commune with God. I wanted to share this with you. It’s a lesson I had to learn.

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although that is important (as long as you don’t go overboard... but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak. Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift, don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually, you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this, lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. Most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.


Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart.

Tyler

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  • Francina Johnson Columbia, SC

    WOW! I really needed to read this. I am going through this with a couple of people in my life and one is a special someone to me. It seems as if I'm always the giver and never receive. I care for them deeply and in the beginning it didn't matter much if they gave me anything or not. I just wanted to show them that I cared & had love for them in my heart. I have been mistreated so many times that I started telling myself not to keep giving to this person because they are only using me. Not sure if this is true or not, and I know only time will tell but I am glad to know if that it is in my heart to give that there is nothing wrong with doing just that. Thank you Tyler!

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  • Belinda McDonough

    Thank You for that message.... When i say on time. You were on time with that wrd. Some one was just about to see the ugly side of me. But GOD, made me check my email an ended up seeing your message. Even tho you don't knw me, in my head you're a big brother to me. One day, don't know when or how, I will appreciate you. One day when I'm getting a Oscar, you will be in my acceptance speech. Thank You...

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  • Jennifer Lewis Plantation, Fl

    Tyler, Your heart is the mirror of mine... Jennifer J <:><

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  • Diane Decatur

    Hello Tyler, I have not written you in awhile. I enjoy reading the emails you send. I had to comment on this one because it is a lesson I did learn awhile back. God does look at the heart of men and women. He looks at the intent of heart when you did what you did be it good or bad He looks at the heart of people. And yes He does bless when He sees your heart was right when people wronged you. There are some folks in my life that know they did me wrong, I don't bother them or call or anything yet they still from time to time call me because I think their conscience bothers them. So just instead of saying I am sorry and moving on they call and talk like we are still best friends or something. They are trying to see if I have changed toward them. I think they would be able to deal with me better if I were mean toward them, they would feel bette, but I don't treat them mean. Now I am not a fool, I have know desire to be around them and they should realize that now by the constant invitations I have declined. I do treat them with a long handle spoon but no I will not let them change my heart. Yes the key is to move on to the next one that will receive the love, the kindness.

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  • dee

    have you listened to "the heart of the matter' by don henley? it's worth a listen

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  • Jennifer Lewis Plantation, Fl

    I love you Tyler! Man! Tears have welled up in my eyes.... I have to give God quality time at the moment, I 'll write you around 11 pm Florida Time. <:>< Jennifer J.

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  • Patricia South Africa

    Wow, praise the Lord. I am completely another person. Bad things that happened to me destroyed the good in me. I now believe that I needed to hear this and make new positive changes in my life. Thank you Mr Tyler and God bless you more.

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  • Janetta Bessemer

    Thanks for confirmation....right on time!!! Still waiting on that call:) God continue to bless all that you do!

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  • Trenniece Atlanta

    I NEVER respond to posts. I normally read them and comment to myself or a friend. This post however was meant for me. Within the past month I have had some challenges as it relates to giving and being there for someone and I told myself not any more. I also prayed about this and was waiting for God to answer and He did....through this post. Thank you for sharing and I am thankful that you followed your heart and shared this with us. May blessings continue to follow you and those who read these words. Peace and blessings, Trenniece

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  • Mrs. Tammy Phila, PA

    "You know what I love about you Tyler, your willingness to share the core of your being with us". Thank you for being the Brother, Friend, Father,Family member to us all. Love you much and I so appreaciate your conversations. I feel like family....

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  • Kameka Ft. Worth, Texas

    Thanks Tyler, I really needed that confirmation this morning. Sometimes it gets exhausting but I have to remain who I am...

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  • anna swift-perry altanta,ga

    Love is heart felt emotion,it the most difficult because it requires you drop all of barriers and let someone in. that is reason why it hurt so much.But some in you come someone that past your pain and allow you to love again, one you find that do want to let it come because it become an addiction, it is in your smile it in you spirit, it daily attitude about life. Love is not something that you go bank or the store and buy love comes natural and when God helps you to find love again you wonder how can you be so lucky to find unconditional love despite all of your flaws this person loves you for who you and want nothing but the best for you.Funny things unconditional does not only applies to lover it applies to all of god children because that is how God love us.God is a God of Love not hate. He asks us love one another as he loved us he sent his only to die for us that is how much he loves us. but love for husband,lover,best friend he says faith hope love but the greatest love. Lover conquer all but if their no love then you are poorest person because have nothing to give of your.To be blessing with christian has come from the heart or the that is receiving it will not see God in you. I Love Tyler Perry from Dreamer and loving wife Anna Swift-Perry 10/06/12

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