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Guard Your Heart and Mind

If you can get this, this will change your life… I was out taking my morning run. I love how still it is when I’m running. I can hear clearly and really commune with God. I wanted to share this with you. It’s a lesson I had to learn.

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although that is important (as long as you don’t go overboard... but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak. Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift, don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually, you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this, lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. Most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.

Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart.


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  • vanessa radcliff, kenucky

    yes that is so true mr.perry and i do understand that whole phrase you are saying and that was very powerful as well. i felt the spirit move in me and my soul after i read that and it was meant for me to read that after what i had been going though. love you tyler perry.

  • Kansy

    Thank You

  • Terri Wichita Falls, Texas

    You are right. God does Bless you according to what is in your heart. It pleases Him when you can forgive. You should never close your spirit when someone hurts you instead pray about it.

  • LaShawn Laurel, MD

    Well said Tyler!!!!! I've been ministering to my girlfriend all week and this is the perfect conclusion to her broken heart and relationship. Keep sending encouraging words to your readers/fans. We truly appreciate it! May the Lord continue to bless you to be a bigger blessing to others. It's evident in the comments from your readers. The Lord has started the healing process in their lives by using you and this format. Stay true to your gift and purpose in this life!

  • Prophetess Miranda Jackson Chicago, Illinois

    Tyler thanks for a wonderful message. On the road in ministry, so many people try to negatively affect my heart. Sometimes I wonder if church folks realize that God sends ministers to help them not hurt them. They pray (with tears) for the Lord's help, but when he sends it, they hurt the very people called to give them assistance. Thank you for the encouragement. I will not continue to allow people to be indifferent to my heart. By the leading of the Holy Spirit, I will make a decision to share this giving heart of servanthood with others. Be blessed and know that you are always before me as I interceed for your success. Again, thank you Ty. Know that you are loved completely.

  • Denise Mondowney Maryland

    Tyler, you hit a home run often times we need to hear and listen to someone's heart. I have learn when people are cruel and this includes family I just smile and pray for them and look up and say thank you God for giving me control.

  • Kamye Salyards USA

    Tyler, I cannot even express how much this spoke to me. I have been bound by some deep hurt feelings against a woman in my church for the last year or so. It has been a very difficult situation because our children are close friends. She had been in marriage problems and decided that my husband who is a minister would be her best confidant. They began a friendship which turned into lots of texting at all hours of the day and night. I confronted my husband about it because I didn't feel good about what I had observed. He assured me that it was nothing time and time again. It eventually started to cause jealousy in me, many fights between my husband and I and we have had a very strong marriage bonds for the last 10 years. Finally, my husband did admit that their relationship had taken an inappropriate turn. He had begun to feel uncomfortable with their closeness and he started to see some red flags. He did end all contact with her in February of this year, but our families are still connected since my husband is youth pastor to her two kids and our boys are very close friends. This relationship had sparked such anger in me that it has been at times hard for me to interact with her and go on smiling and being nice as us Christians are supposed to do in the ministry. I have struggled at church in my worship and with my everyday walk with God. After I read your email on Friday talking about choosing how your heart will be affected and not letting the things that have happened you keep you form being blessed, tears just flowed and I felt the forgiving touch of God flow through me that I haven't felt since this ordeal started. Thank you for those words! They have spoken to me and I am still thinking about it. I want my heart to be one that God is able to bless. God Bless You and Thank You!!! Kamye

  • Anonymous

    Mr. Perry, I agree with some of your points in your "Guard Your Heart", you mention God Blesses you according to what is in your heart, God also teaches you valuable lessons also. I have always been a giving person, gave my last as well and still through the trials and tribulations still give thanks to God, loving HIM and embracing the strength that keeps me standing in the face of harsh realities and circumstance. I advocate against Domestic Violence, it is hitting even those in high school, young adults in life and so on. It sickens me when a husband can douse his spouse with gasoline and set her on fire or shoot a pregnant young woman with no sense of regard for the life inside she is carrying... I try to network and advocate and even started a petition because I care, because despite my own trials and tribulations I can still show love, empathy and compassion as Christ would want us to in our walk of life. We have to guard our hearts in many ways in life, but we also must share that christlike love that God has blessed each one of us with. To those still encountering Domestic Violence, please know you are valued and get out to protect and preserve your life as well as your offspring if you have any and to those who haven't come forward, know that the precious heart you have can heal from wounds that are undescribable for many. Be empowered and know there is a way out! I will continue to advocate as there is a drive within me to do so. Your heart is a precious gift that should develop in a positive way and not let any negative aspects destroy that precious gift he gave his, after all that is where He is! Blessings!

  • Cynthia SC

    AMEN!!!! you said what my heart feels and I could never find the correct words to say it for myself and that's the truth. Thanks for giving my heart the words.

  • Miss Taj Rotterdam, The Netherlands

    Tyler, may the Lord bless you for sharing this with people 'all over the world' that still need to learn this lesson. This is a lesson I've learned at an early age. I was a teenager and I didn't totaly get it the first time it happened. But I kept moving, trying and praying for the persons who have hurt me. God created us all with a pure heart and a journey we need to complete before we get to be with Him. The lessons we learn on our journey will keep on repeating itself untill the lesson is learned. Frustrating at sometimes, cause as a teenager you tend to think. Why is this happening to me again, arggggh! At the ages of 16 I figured out that when something bad happens you can either let it define you, let it destroy you or let it strengthen you. Since I already experienced the define and 'almost' destroy part I took a different route and chose to let it strengthen me. And wow! Inside me there may be a weak heart, but behind it there is a strong God. I've been finding out more and more about myself and who God made me to be. I would like to share one of my favorite quotes by Eckhart Tolle: Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment, for validation, security, or love - you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer. In your shared story you are talking about the same treasure, the heart given to us by God. Tyler, I want to thank you for being you and reaching out to all of us over the world! I hope to meet you someday and pray that the Lord may bless you in a way you've never known before. With love, Miss Taj

  • Olivia Alabama,Klerksdorp, North-West, South Africa

    Thank you, Thank you for reminding me to guard my heart and most of all, not to change as a person(my heart) because of what my family and people do and say about me. My uncle actually said on Saturday that he sees the good I'm doing and so do God. Sometimes we all need someone to remind us not to loose track, Thank You For Being an Inspiration.....and a Reminder on all the good that is out there, may God Bless You more and more each day!!

  • Mary Ann Taylor Ohio

    I sent this to my boyfriend because we both are good giving kind people who were hurt in our marriages by people who didn't appreciate us. Now we have each other and I truly believe God let us find each other because we didn't change our giving hearts. Thank you Tyler. You inspire so many.

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