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Have You Ever Been Cheated On? Have You Ever Cheated or Thought About It?

OK, so one time I had an accident in my car. I was so upset. I had the car towed to the shop and had it repaired. They tried their best to make it like new again. They fixed the damage and repainted the area where the car had been hit. But no matter how they tried to match the paint to the original color, they couldn’t. So every day after that, when I would go to the car, I would always notice that the paint didn’t match. Every time I got into the car I would see that area where the paint was different and it would always remind me of the wreck. And even though the car had been repaired it never rode or drove the same again. 

Later, I found out that because the car had been damaged it was worth less than it was before the damage. I thought about this the other day when I was thinking about people who cheat in relationships. When someone cheats, or you have been cheated on, the relationship is never the same. Sure, you can stay together, work on it and repair it, but every time you take a hard look at your relationship you will be reminded of it. I know many of you reading this understand what I’m talking about. The relationship was once so amazing and new and now has lost its value. You have tried to move on but it’s difficult to trust again. I get it, I SO GET IT!

That’s why I wrote Temptation, my new movie that opens this Friday. I WANT YOU TO SEE IT THIS WEEKEND! In this movie I talk about being tempted, I talk about how to forgive, I talk about how to move on from it, and I also talk about how sometimes the decisions you make when you decide to cheat can stay with you for the rest of your life. This movie is powerful. I showed it to several hundred pastors, then had them over to my house to talk about it and the sentiment was the same. This movie has the power to save relationships. So please go see it this weekend if you can. Bring your husband or your wife, your girlfriends and boyfriends, single's ministries and church groups. The subject matter is too strong for kids but it’s perfect for young adults and older. I can’t wait for you to see it. TEMPTATION OPENS EVERYWHERE THIS FRIDAY. 

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  • JN CA

    Thank you Tyler! I will make sure I go see this movie. I have been cheated on and didn’t find out until 6 years later. And the reason I found out was because by me being in the military I have to take a DNA test to prove that my 2 girls were mine before they can be put on my insurance. Came to find out that im not the biological father of my oldest daughter. If it wasn’t for that who knows how long she would have keep this secret from me. Lord knows I wanted to kill her after I found out. Im still trying to deal with this but like u said the relationship has never been the same. I always get reminded of it and its very difficult to trust again. So I can really relate to your message.

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  • Fee Fee Texas

    Yup and yes. I had an emotional affair when I was married. He cheated on me. Cheating is a deal breaker for me. Im so glad you went back to helping others. I wish you would have recorded your meeting with the pastors. I would like to hear what they had to say. Alex cross, no sir...we need to walk away with something positive. Stay away from hollywood. If I marry I hope I will never cheat. The foundation must be strong. Foundations can be repaired too but at what cost? Can we afford to repair? I am single because I figure all men cheat so what is the point? I will see the movie next friday. I will not see it opening weekend. Good night.

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  • Stephanie Oxon Hill, MD

    Hello Tyler: It has been a while since my last post. I can't wait to see your new movie Temptations. It seems like it will be "HOT". As always, I congratulate you again on your strength, courage, and challenges you face in writing, directing, producing, etc., movies and plays for your fans to enjoy. I am sure this movie will be successful as well. I will write you after I see the movie on Friday. Take care , and God Bless you and your staff!

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  • stephanie j. holmond GA

    Yes, will be there fRIDAY. But I would like to know-have you even been cheating on Tyler Perry. How recently, if so, how did you deal with it??? And is this the real reason you wrote TEMPTATIONS- THE MOVIE?

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  • Life Changing Lonliness United States

    I am going through this situation at this very moment. We had been together for 15 yrs. He has cheated before and continues to lie about it. It's sad that he just expect me to forgive, forget and say it's all in the past when he keeps repeating the same action. I did all I could to give him trust again during the relationship. This time he says I was the issue, that I didn't treat him as if I loved him. I almost have to agree! After I loved him so many years, the right way, I felt so broken down, being lied to and cheated on once again. I had to let it go. Alcohol played a big part in his life for way too long. Now he's 4 months clean, and not hanging with his buddies anymore. When he had nowhere to go, they had nothing to say. Of course now he's on the right track to being the man he should have been all along and I can't let go of the hurt. He's back in church, the only place to be "fixed". I say this is one of the situations where if it was meant to be, we will be together again. I just PRAY.

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  • ADEOLA Ajax, Canada

    I think people cheat on their partners mostly because they lack discipline or their will power is weak. Most of them will tell you they don't really want to do it but they can just help it. It is better not to cheat than for you to be asking for pardon from the other partner. Once the deed is done it takes Gods grace to forgive, to forget and move on may take Gods SPECIAL GRACE. Is like having a friend that is not trustworthy, why would I keep that kind of friend, it's better I keep the person at arms length and relate when I know it is safe to do so. Relationship should be handled with extra care if really we want to keep and enjoy it. By the time cheating issue is showing up in a relationship, then there is going to be problem. For some its their live and really there is nothing anyone can do about it that's why marriage is no more working and be what God really designed it to be.

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  • Annette Hibbler-Wells

    I know that feeling too well. My husband cheated on me and when I found out he lied, which made the situation worse. My husband is deceased now and although I grieved his death. It wasn't the grief of a wife who deeply loved her husband. It was more like grief for a the man I once knew. The betrayal is unexplainable and the trust is gone no matter how hard you try.

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  • sunshine south africa

    I have been cheated on so many times by my partner but we still dating even now.recently he cheated on me not with 1 but 4different women,it breaks my heart that even after I caught him cheating the first time that he still continues doing so.I love this man so much & for the past two weeks I've been an emotional wreck because of the thought I have about him with another woman.he keep saying he's sorry but I don't trust him anymore though I still got plenty of love for him.I pray every night that God may change him.I'm a leo & his a cancer,so me & him are fire & water & according to star sign we won't work out but I've got faith in the Lord.

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  • Charlene Lane St Louis, Mo

    Hey Tyler! I can't wait to see your movie, Temptation, this weekend. Being cheated on can give you the feeling that you have been violated in some way. I pray that I will never cheat on anyone that I am involved with but I have been cheated on before and it's not a good feeling. Like you said, even after things get repaired and patched up, it's still not the same. But, you know we are all going to be offended and we are all going to offend someone. We don't want these things to happen and we don't want to do the offending. But, it takes the spirit of God to keep you from offending and to cleanse you of these hurt feelings when it happens to you. God can do anything! But, we have to give it over to the Holy Spirit. I know your movie, Temptation, is going to do well. God bless you, and keep on keeping on! Charlene

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  • BW

    I have been the one to cheat and have been cheated on. I can say the message in this article is true, we do not count the people our cheating will and can hurt. It's not about YOU, when you get married and decide to have children, it is about your FAMILY! The one's you decide to cheat without have their own selfish agendas and too often you listen to their counsel (How d*** is that, LOL) to justify your actions. We have to remember the devil is in the details, we get shown what appears to be better, feel good, look good and seem right at the moment. On an emotional high no different than an addict looking for their next fix. We want a quick fix to our problems rather than WORKING at what is wrong and getting back to the place in our relationship that brought us to the alter. Honesty will save a lot of heart ache and pain for everyone in our lives, best solution be true to who you are. Show you love the other persons in your life by giving them an option to either except the real you or move on.

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  • Irene Franklin Williamsburg, VA

    I have been on both sides. The side that kills the soul is being the cheater. The cheater pays great consequences for the sin committed and it's not pretty. God in His awesome mercy extends His grace because you ask for forgiveness.

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  • Marie New York

    I have been cheated on in every relationship I have ever been in. I don't hate men or down men as a result. I just seek to have the question answered in my mind as to why I have attracted the unfaithfuls into my world and heart? I look forward to watching this movie... hoping to find some answers and keep persevering to brighter days without giving up on true love.

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