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Here’s a thought (I DON'T WANT YOU TO DO THIS, JUST THINK ABOUT IT). Get into the front seat of your car, then turn your body around. Knees on the front seat with your back on the steering wheel, your face looking toward the trunk. Stay in that position and try to drive the car forward. It’s impossible, right? If by some miracle you do manage to go forward I guarantee you won't get very far. If the car represents our lives then the way we are sitting in the driver's seat represents the way we approach it. It’s really hard to move on when you’re looking the wrong way. There is nothing wrong with the car... what is wrong is the position some of us are sitting in, meaning there is nothing wrong with your life, and you’re just facing the wrong direction.

There are many things that can cause you to be out of alignment with life, but instead of focusing on the many, I’d like to talk about one thing in particular... And that is GUILT.

I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday. He was telling me about all the guilt that he feels. Guilt that his marriage fell apart. Guilt that he doesn’t get to see his kids very often. Guilt that he’s not in a financial position to do more for them. Guilt over the mistakes he’s made in his past. Guilt over lots of money that he wasted doing the wrong things. So much guilt about everything.

I had to stop him and remind him of a few things. What I know about guilt is this: guilt is a tool that is used to destroy you. We all make mistakes. We all have fallen short. We have all disappointed someone, including ourselves at some point. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. It's done. Instead of beating yourself up about it, how about putting that same energy into making sure that it doesn’t happen again and healing anyone who may have been hurt by it?

You can’t let guilt win or consume you. You can’t let it take over your thoughts because if you do, you will start a downward spiral. It’s like this... guilt is the trick that makes you feel that you’re unworthy, and if you feel that you’re unworthy then you will feel that you don’t deserve any good thing to happen to you. And so, as a man thinks so is he. If you think you don’t deserve good things you will never have good things. And when things are falling apart you will feel guilty that they are falling apart. Do you see the cycle? There is no winning here. In order to be free and be lifted you must let go of the guilt or it will keep you bound.

How do you do that? Well, it’s a process, but you start by asking forgiveness of whomever you hurt, ask forgiveness of God, and most of all ask forgiveness of yourself. Although God forgives us most easily, we sometimes can't forgive ourselves. You can’t get to great things ahead if you're always looking behind you. It’s like trying to drive your car in that awkward position.

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  • Tamara Smith Cleveland, Ohio

    So true! I appreciate your nuggets of wisdom #MovingForward

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  • Brian Pitt Atlanta,Ga

    AWESOME MESSAGE TYLER!!#THANK YOU!!

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  • Elizabeth Tupelo Ms

    Tyler, you have no idea how much I needed that word today! You have truly blessed my soul! God bless you! Enjoy your day!

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  • Mariah California

    Good word, Mr. Perry. I enjoy reading your posts and appreciate the time and passion you pour into them. Thank God the devil couldn't take you out (Lord knows he tries). Your presence in our cultural landscape is golden.

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  • Aisha_MAY london

    Thanks for this much needed right now. God bless and keep u always Aisha

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  • Maureen Williams Washington

    I appreciate those words. I recently let go of guilt for a lot of different reasons and I feel so much better.

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  • Carol Fessler Orlando

    Awesome word Tyler and so very true!

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    • Enrique Baugh Little rock ,ar #1762486

      Love this what I needed.

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