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Move On!

Here’s a thought (I DON'T WANT YOU TO DO THIS, JUST THINK ABOUT IT). Get into the front seat of your car, then turn your body around. Knees on the front seat with your back on the steering wheel, your face looking toward the trunk. Stay in that position and try to drive the car forward. It’s impossible, right? If by some miracle you do manage to go forward I guarantee you won't get very far. If the car represents our lives then the way we are sitting in the driver's seat represents the way we approach it. It’s really hard to move on when you’re looking the wrong way. There is nothing wrong with the car... what is wrong is the position some of us are sitting in, meaning there is nothing wrong with your life, and you’re just facing the wrong direction.

There are many things that can cause you to be out of alignment with life, but instead of focusing on the many, I’d like to talk about one thing in particular... And that is GUILT.

I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday. He was telling me about all the guilt that he feels. Guilt that his marriage fell apart. Guilt that he doesn’t get to see his kids very often. Guilt that he’s not in a financial position to do more for them. Guilt over the mistakes he’s made in his past. Guilt over lots of money that he wasted doing the wrong things. So much guilt about everything.

I had to stop him and remind him of a few things. What I know about guilt is this: guilt is a tool that is used to destroy you. We all make mistakes. We all have fallen short. We have all disappointed someone, including ourselves at some point. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. It's done. Instead of beating yourself up about it, how about putting that same energy into making sure that it doesn’t happen again and healing anyone who may have been hurt by it?

You can’t let guilt win or consume you. You can’t let it take over your thoughts because if you do, you will start a downward spiral. It’s like this... guilt is the trick that makes you feel that you’re unworthy, and if you feel that you’re unworthy then you will feel that you don’t deserve any good thing to happen to you. And so, as a man thinks so is he. If you think you don’t deserve good things you will never have good things. And when things are falling apart you will feel guilty that they are falling apart. Do you see the cycle? There is no winning here. In order to be free and be lifted you must let go of the guilt or it will keep you bound.

How do you do that? Well, it’s a process, but you start by asking forgiveness of whomever you hurt, ask forgiveness of God, and most of all ask forgiveness of yourself. Although God forgives us most easily, we sometimes can't forgive ourselves. You can’t get to great things ahead if you're always looking behind you. It’s like trying to drive your car in that awkward position.

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  • Bongi Jhb, South Africa

    Greetings T, Thanks for such profound words of wisdom... I am currently having a very heavy heart because of my past that I didn't realise I was still carrying around for so long until I was in a situation that forced me to talk about it. I can relate tothe cause of my temper sometimes and I think I have to start working on myself more than I ever did. I am in such pain because I have been putting on a brave face and the image that I've got it together but deep down, I find it hard to truly celebrate my success because I have been through so much and am really scared to look at my soul and face what is really a cause of hurt inside me. I am touched by this and Thank You,

  • Junell Kaywood Marrrro, La 70072

    There is power in that message. Thank you!

  • Elle-Murrae Chesapeake,VA

    Hi Mr. Perry, How are you doing? I hope you have had a blessed productive day. Just wanted to stop by and say I enjoy all your work . I loved your new movie,Alex Cross. I'm a huge fan and I plan on working with you in the future. I din't say HOPE...because I'm speaking it in existence. Have a blessed day!!;-)

  • Rhonda Houston, TX

    Tyler I was told that For Better or Worse was concelled, is this true? I love that show. I can't be true. I await your reply.

  • Alana CA

    Hey T.P., Wow, I just read your "Move on" email and boy is it on point. I love how you talk and paint the picture. I so needed to hear that, guilt was eating me alive, but not anymore. I have enough people badgering me, so I don't need to come down on myself anymore. I am having such a hard time trying to find a place to live because of one eviction on my credit. I traveled 3,000 miles to California to stay with friends and start anew and so I wouldn't have to go into a shelter in MA; now I may have to go back. The boyfriend is sick of me being here and does not want to give me time to find a place. I tried staying in a shelter and I could not sleep. The 2 women in the room with me were snoring so loud, and they reeked of alcohol so bad, I was gaging because I didn't eat all day. Then I had to leave at 7am and walk the streets, it's almost like they want you to become and alcoholic or drug dependent. I am having health issues and that's all I need. Sorry, I was suppose to be just thanking you for sending your wonderful message, not venting. (smile) Your messages ALWAYS come right on time, I am feeling I need to give up, but then I get a message from you, so Thank You again! Take Care and God Bless, Your #1 fan....Alana

  • Ebony Cincinncti, Ohio

    Something I have to practice daily. Making conscious decisions to not talk myself down, to not believe my own and others criticisms. Everyday you get hit several times with moments where you have to make an effort to not allow yourself to do what you are comfortable or used to doing. Slowly you feel as if you are becoming a better lighter more free person. Turn those habits around. Don't even speak negativity. When you think it, reverse it. Speak into the atmosphere what you want and desire, never what you don't want or desire. Even if you're saying I don't want to break people's hearts... don't. Say I want to mend peoples heart. Negative energy reinforces more negativity, like it or not. It's hard to do a mind set change, but it's a daily task you have to be aware of.

  • Karen Brown Marion IL

    Just stop by your site to say hello...and looking forward to whatever you have in the works in the near future. Blessings Karen

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    when are u tyler coin made and is made gets a job coming out on dvd

  • Maya P Marietta, GA

    Would you be able to be that guidance for me? My life is not the way I planned or envisioned it and I feel like I am in a rut. I need assistance, someone to take a chance on me. I am a transplant from New York and one person gave me a chance which I truly appreciate, but I need more. It was for a part time position which was more than a year ago and am still in, no one else has taken the chance on me. I would like more for myself. I know I can do more. I just would like someone else to believe in me as much as I believe in myself. Any assistance you can provide would greatly be appreciated.

  • Fredonia Graham Southern Pines,NC

    Hi, Tyler,

  • Tasha

    Did you call?

  • Harriet kampala Uganda.

    Wow wow Tyler, this is so inspiring. Thank you and God bless you.

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