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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • AG177 LA

    Oh Tyler, it took away my smile when I read you may become sad thinking of those horrible things. Yet, all resulted in the great father you'll be for your child. Not only him, but a huge blessing for us, me at least. You love The Lord, have been called for His purpose, I know, so all I can see is Romans 8:28 - working together for the good. Well, let's just say I trust God's Word. For when my only child died of cancer in my arms recently, Tyler Perry's work was the only thing that made me laugh as I watched her waste away with the excruciating pain of bone cancer. The Potter did an awesome job molding you. Everything played a part. Even the cross you bare. Tyler, it brought healing. I thank The Lord AND You! Blessings galore, His chosen.

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  • Thomese Hollins Beaumont Texas

    What a beautiful post very touching Tyler Perry God Bless You..

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  • Arlisha Trotter Athens

    AMEN! Speechless!

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  • Julie Russell Harlem NY

    I just want to say I love you Tyler and all you stand for...

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  • Heather G United States

    What a beautiful post. Though you wrote it months ago, now you're dad. Humbling isn't it? God was just showing me the other day and this post is another reminder, to treat my children as SACRED. I don't know how else to describe it. They're sacred to HIM and I want to be a better steward of that gift, when my 6 year old is back-talking and my 2 year old is learning to test boundaries. Take deep breath and remember they're sacred to God; they're HIS children too. Love you Tyler! Bountiful Blessings pour over your new family!

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  • Sherrel Ky

    I could have written the prequel to your childhood was exactly like mine

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  • wilma burns humble tx 77338

    This is so true. I don't know what I would do without my 3 wonderful children. Thank you God.

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  • jazmin Francois Hampton ga

    Yes you should watch how you treat them because I know how it feels because my adopted parent called me names and hit me and made me take care of the other foster children while she did nothing i was mommy and she just bought the cood and payed the bills i did there hair for school i cooked cleaned the house i washed there clothes and gave them baths put them to sleep and i was locked up because she told the police officer that she was my legal guardian until I turned 21 but turns out she wasn't and when i was released i went to live with a friend of mine and i have no legal documents providing who i am still working on getting them well God bless you and your work that you do for him you are one amazing man of God

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  • shonna varnville sc

    I always knew that the father of my child would be awsome because of his situation but I was wrong. His childhood wasn't the best but he used to always say he wanted better for his child. Now our daughter is about to turn 7 and he havent been there for her but the up about our situation is she is a straight A student and have been since she's been in school "4 yesrs" she's at the top of her class. She is well known in our county and she meets no strangers everyone loves her and she has been blessed from day one by others besides her father. They call her the local town celebrity. I pray often that he get it together before its to late because I know God has bless me with something extra special I can just fell. I needed to read this passage. Thanks

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  • Kiara Staggs South Carolina

    Mr. Perry!! Yes!! I love this here!! As a child advocate I am very passionate when it comes to children!! I have a child of my own!! My son is my world and I knew that at his young age that he is someone special, very musically inclined and at the age of four, his relationship with God is what I would never expect from a four year old. How he engages in worship and praise and understands Gods love for him and his love for God. As his mother it is important that I cover him and help him maintain that relationship with God, not just maintain but help enhance it as he grows into a man!! I know that he is a gift that God has placed in my life and it's my responsibility to handle him with much care!! I think often times parents forget that children are a gift from God, precious jewels that we must handle with care!! If we mishandle that gift there will be consequences or a reaping that we will have to go through! On another note, I work with children who are less fortunate and may have been in abused or neglect situations so I see parents who struggle with there own issues and don't realize the negative effects it has on their children!! Sad situations!! Anytime I come in contact with another child other than my own, I'm always speaking positive things into their lives and pray Gods favor!! As I do my own!! Thank you for this post Tyler! It really blessed me!! Child's advocate, my hearts desire.... Kiara

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  • GMB United States

    GMB, I grew up without a father but was taught the best values one could ever have. I was raised by my mother and grandmother and brag about the wonderful job they did with me. It would have been wonderful to have my father in my life, but my fathers mother thought it best that since my mother was darker than he was that they should surely not be together, the sadness of our black families and how they think....I never met him and now he has passed, I've never met the siblings I may have and probably never will. I was blessed with a stepfather who is the most wonderful man I know as a father. He came into my life when I was 16, and was the absolute greatest man my mother could have met. He and my mother had other children and I know that fatherhood comes with love....you have that and I know it because you want to be a father, no one has to tell you how to be a father. The key is love, once you know you are a father, you should automatically love your child, God allowed you to conceive this child so it was meant to be. Never expect life to be perfect with you and the mother of your child, but never take side between the two, mother came before the child so your love for her was undoubtedly first....teaching your child is the next thing and as a father who cares and loves his child would only want to teach him/her the right things in life. God will teach you the rest if you get the first things in life right the first time around. Good luck, GMB

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  • Calitta Suitland, MD

    This is so true thank you for sharing that, sometimes when dealing with life and the issues that come with it we can forget about the little things that God has done for us, and our children look to us to be there examples. Growing up I had to witness some terrible things in my home with my parents, being the baby girl of two brothers my dad was extra hard on me. Now that i'm married with three kids I try not to allow them to see or hear the things I had to its not always easy, I ask God for guidance and wisdom everyday. Now I am trying my best to encourage my kids to chase their dreams I see there talent and I believe God will make a way for them and allow me to help them persue it. So thanks for the reminder I do try not to be as tough on them as my dad was on me.

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