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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • Shaivon Va.

    Dear Tyler, Tonight I cried. I haven't done that in awhile. Actually I thought I was done with that. Today really hasn't been a a good day for me. Have you ever had a day, that it seems as if everything you try to do goes wrong. Or if there is bad news to be heard, you here it all about the same time. It seems as if no matter how hard you try.. Well really storm after storm comes and in between those storms the sun don't come out to shine. Tyler I know God.. Most important, I believe that I have a true relationship with him..However tonight I just feel as if I'm alone.. Through my years on this earth, I have been through a lot. Each storm I have been through has made me stronger and stronger, but I just feel a little weak tonight. I thank God that I don't have it as bad as others.. But I've been praying that it doesn't get worst. I believe that I'm a good person. I've been told that often. I am a giver. I give my love , I give my advise, I mentor to kids. A lot of kids in my neighborhood looks up to me. A lot of them call me mom or tell me that I'm their second mom. I make others happy.. But deep down inside Tyler I'm searching for my happiness. Life has thrown me a lot of punches.. I get knocked down..but with God's Grace and Mercy I get back up. I know that with out God I couldn't make it. I really love the Lord. I'm going through some rough time. I've been told so many times that your a wonderful person. god is going to bless u. Should I feel bad because I keep wondering when is that going to happen.. I'm getting a Lil tired. I pray and I pray.. Should I feel bad because I believe I God and I know that God will answer my prayers but I often wonder how much longer I have to go thru before they are truly answered..Should I feel bad because I want some of my riches here on earth..Tyler I know that I'm blessed in many many ways. However I also want some of the desires of my heart..To make this clear I'm not talking about a man.

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  • Kendra Gully Zion, IL

    I was treated badly as a child and discard like trash... I'm so protective over my children because I'm afraid someone will treat them the way I was treated as a child. Even though I hurt when I think on my past and how my mom wanted only my 2 sisters, and my son but left me in foster care. It hurt and tore me apart. She took me away from the only person I knew that loved me, which was my infant child. At the time I was only 14 years old. Even today It's the same. But what's crazy about this situation is; Despise how she treated me back then and now, She don't know I prayed for her deliverance from drugs since I was 12, I respected her more than my sisters do, regardless of her doing me the way she do today. I still love and respect her. I know I will be the one to take care of her.....

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  • Kendra Gully Zion, IL

    I needed that, Thanks....

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  • jenny lawrenceville ga

    Dear Mr Perry first let me bless you continuously for all you have done for yourself and others. i am a 45 yr old disabled separated mother of 3. i recently came back to ga a little over a month after being homeless with my kids 23 13 and 3. a very stressful time in my life separating with my husband as well although sometimes i just felt like giving up your movies always cheer me up and motivate me to keep going along with my God who knows i am a strong woman and just want my kids to be in a stable home. sometimes i think i failed my kids because of all the trials we have been through but their laughter their i love u mom makes me realize that now where we are we have nothing no furniture not enough beds clothes or dont know how long we will be in this home due to it going through a short sale i dont have any monies to relocate i support my kids off my social security disability my oldest wants to go to school and work to help his daughter back in pa but its hard when we have no vehicle to mobilize but yet they are happy and that makes me somewhat happy to know we can laugh at each other sit down and eat together and talk about anythings. Basically Mr Perry my kids have been through alot and im not too healthy and just want to know that if i pass they will be ok and have a stable home to live for as long as they live. i am asking if you can possibly help me to just acquire this home as is i can work on it little by little to make it what i want it to be if i know its mine and my childrens home. i only know that so far appraisers have given a number of 70,000 being that it needs work in would work for you and my son would too if given the opportunity i am not asking for charity because i believe and was taught to work for whatever i get and so with that i would work we would work hard to repay you if we had too. my address is 2483 chablis ct lawrenceville ga 30043 if anything i would love for you to visit and give more words of encouragement to my kids if nothing else they love your movies especially my 13 yr old she loves all the madea movies and loves the good deeds movie i always cry at that movie because i know whats its like living from place to place trying to maintain your children i am blessed to just have all my kids with me and with my income of social security support all our needs not all our wants a little i do they smile they smile they smile and its a others happiness to just see that. you are an inspiration to me and many and i just wanted to thank you and to always know we are watching your work. hope to hear and see you one day soon thank you blessed jenny melenciano

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  • Tasha FL

    Dear Tyler, The song "Mary Did You Know" is MY favorite song as well!!! I finally got a version of Ceelo Green's on my Ipod. I wish they would play it ALL day on a radio station around the holidays. Love to you and yours, Tasha

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  • Maria M United States

    I understand not having an example to follow. I'm the oldest of three and my mother favored/s my younger siblings. We have different fathers and I believe it played a part somehow. I wasn't allowed to see my dad but they were. I could go on about the physical mental abuse that I endured but I won't. I remember feeling so alone unwanted. I was filled with so much anger content that I was on a path of self destruction then God allowed me to be a mother. Doctors said my body was going through an abnormal abortion. My body was treating my child like an infection and was trying to kill him.. God said otherwise. I can remember saying I will not allow my past to be the floor plan of my future. I chose to make it like a story in the bible, learn and grow from it. I can remember looking at my first child and feeling delivered from the hurt that was still a major part of my life. I felt delivered from the ignorance of allowing that past hurt to subconsciously dictate my life. I have two children, different fathers and I have a cousin that applauds me as a mother because of what I went through. They are God fearing terrific children. I praise God and applaud my kids because without I believe I would still be wallowing in the past.

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  • LaDella Robles Charlotte, NC

    Mr. Perry this post and prayer you shared absolutely MOVED ME. I'm sitting here at work in tears. My boys(3) are MOST DEFINITELY special. And I KNOW that one day they will "deliver" me and take care of me. I always tell them that they can be WHATEVER they want to be. They are smart funny and VERY INTELLIGENT. I try to teach them not to "follow the crowd" or get jealous of what others have or do because as long and they pray GOD will bless them as he has blessed me with them, and when their time come it will be GREATER AND MORE POWERFUL than the people that got there before them. My mother always told me to reach for the moon because if you just happen to miss it you can still grab hold of a star. This is what i teach my boys. I dont care how "out there" or beyond my knowledge or capabilities their dreams are. I will do my BEST to find out and help them get there. God placed me on this earth to help others and i wont let him down. My kids will get there. Im not their gifts, for they are mines and my blessings and i will cherish and nurture them to the fullest. I say all this just to say thank you. Thank you for those words. I know it was written some months ago, but God put it in front of my eyes today for a reason. My oldest son wrote you a letter 2 days ago and ask me to send it to you. I have no idea how to, but believe me i will find a way some how. Thanks again for the encouragement and encouraging words. I will not let my son down. I really hope you get this message and that if it doesn't do anything else, i hope it puts a smile on your face and let you know that heaven is watching over you and that your blessings are a blessing to others. A warm spirit to spirit hello and thanks to you. You just made my day, months, and years to come. LaDella Robles

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  • Ricky l Miller Raleigh, NC

    I am a single father raising my 2 yr old daughter. I work a "9 to 5" with no assistance from any local, State, or Federal programs. No food stamps, Childcare Assistance or Housing Vouchers. I am raising my daughter the best I can with plenty of Love and Attention. I cannot Provide everything that I would like for her.Also I am trying to help break the stereotype of African-American Men not being in our children's lives. I want to Start a Single Fathers Society any Money Donated will go directly towards my daughter's well being and early education. Also help me build this platform for single fathers. Im sure we've all heard the saying "It takes a Village to raise a Child" Children are Our Future. Any donation or consideration is greatly appreciated more than I can possibly express.

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  • Carol Donaldson Dayton, Ohio

    Hello!Mr. Perry hope you read the poem I wrote especially for you on being a father.

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  • Brooke United States

    Very Powerful words. I'm obviously reading this a little late Mr. Perry, but inspiration can never come too late. Growing up my parents weren't bad or cruel to us, instead they were awful to each other. Which can sometimes damage a kid more. My father would punch my mother in the face and my sisters and I would all jump in front of her to stop my dad, because he wouldn't lay a hand on us. At the age of 6 I knew they shouldn't be together, and I would constantly pray they would divorce. My father was not a one woman man and my mother only wanted a husband so she could get insurance. Sometimes it's sad to know people prefer security over happiness and love. I would wake up every morning hoping CPS would take us away, but even after all the visits they never came back to whisk me into the world I made up in my head. Sadly social services seems to have a tendency to show up when its too late or not at all. Instead it was the same every night my mother would make my father a beautiful steak dinner paid for with the money that was supposed to feed us. After eating he would get dressed to go on his usual "trip" to see a girlfriend or something with his brand new car and jordans. My sisters and I would sit there and wait for the fighting to begin and then I would run into the kitchen to steal the leftovers so I could eat. Finally by the time my father would leave my mother would have us search the house for money so we could go to the store and buy a chicken so we could eat. Instead it would go toward a pack of cigs for her. On a regular basis coming home sucked and going to school was worse constantly picked on because my clothes were gross and we had no money. Sadly the teachers at the school I went to preferred to look the other way instead of seeing their was a kid who needed help. Finally the most amazing thing happened. My parents sat us down and said we're getting divorced! I was beyond happy I even jumped up and said THANK GOD! Of course I got sent to therapy for that comment. lol what child gets excited about divorce. I thought this is it a fresh start at the age of 10. No more watching my mom get punched in the face. No more scavenging for food or money for my moms cigarettes. No more watching my mom care more about my father than us, and finally no more getting picked on in school for being well a mess. Boy was I wrong things just got worse we moved into my nanas house and I didn't really understand alcoholism drug abuse and predators til we lived with my nana and her husband. I shared a room with my mom and sisters in a small town house I got the floor because I was the youngest and my sisters would share the bed..........there is a moral to this story and currently the morals are up so I will say to be continued until after I help fuel the minds of our future :)

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    • lynn #2017939

      Can't wait to hear the rest!

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  • Pamela Blackwell

    Will you please (help me ) 5 kids involved, Father is Michael fowler is father he works on your set in Atlanta. They are in state custody.it is take all or none. Please get in touch with me. Will explain more. My husband and I only have,2br double wide.he has remarried.. With new baby. Both him and new wife, have been have been charged with child cruelty in 1&2nd degree. Please help me . Ages 5-14 please help me. Will you please give me feedback please don't let me wonder. If you really read these messages.I have taken care of them all there lives.please thank you Pamela Blackwell. Again

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    • Ty! Peace #2013177

      You should really look into this situation!

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  • sonia United States

    thanks for this posting. this brought tears to my eyes. at times i get fusterated with my little boy, he is such a handful, motherhood is hard. but now when i go home , i will see my son in new light. for i have just realized the love god has for me. thank you. god bless always

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