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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • Brooke United States

    Very Powerful words. I'm obviously reading this a little late Mr. Perry, but inspiration can never come too late. Growing up my parents weren't bad or cruel to us, instead they were awful to each other. Which can sometimes damage a kid more. My father would punch my mother in the face and my sisters and I would all jump in front of her to stop my dad, because he wouldn't lay a hand on us. At the age of 6 I knew they shouldn't be together, and I would constantly pray they would divorce. My father was not a one woman man and my mother only wanted a husband so she could get insurance. Sometimes it's sad to know people prefer security over happiness and love. I would wake up every morning hoping CPS would take us away, but even after all the visits they never came back to whisk me into the world I made up in my head. Sadly social services seems to have a tendency to show up when its too late or not at all. Instead it was the same every night my mother would make my father a beautiful steak dinner paid for with the money that was supposed to feed us. After eating he would get dressed to go on his usual "trip" to see a girlfriend or something with his brand new car and jordans. My sisters and I would sit there and wait for the fighting to begin and then I would run into the kitchen to steal the leftovers so I could eat. Finally by the time my father would leave my mother would have us search the house for money so we could go to the store and buy a chicken so we could eat. Instead it would go toward a pack of cigs for her. On a regular basis coming home sucked and going to school was worse constantly picked on because my clothes were gross and we had no money. Sadly the teachers at the school I went to preferred to look the other way instead of seeing their was a kid who needed help. Finally the most amazing thing happened. My parents sat us down and said we're getting divorced! I was beyond happy I even jumped up and said THANK GOD! Of course I got sent to therapy for that comment. lol what child gets excited about divorce. I thought this is it a fresh start at the age of 10. No more watching my mom get punched in the face. No more scavenging for food or money for my moms cigarettes. No more watching my mom care more about my father than us, and finally no more getting picked on in school for being well a mess. Boy was I wrong things just got worse we moved into my nanas house and I didn't really understand alcoholism drug abuse and predators til we lived with my nana and her husband. I shared a room with my mom and sisters in a small town house I got the floor because I was the youngest and my sisters would share the bed..........there is a moral to this story and currently the morals are up so I will say to be continued until after I help fuel the minds of our future :)

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    • lynn #2017939

      Can't wait to hear the rest!

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  • Pamela Blackwell

    Will you please (help me ) 5 kids involved, Father is Michael fowler is father he works on your set in Atlanta. They are in state custody.it is take all or none. Please get in touch with me. Will explain more. My husband and I only have,2br double wide.he has remarried.. With new baby. Both him and new wife, have been have been charged with child cruelty in 1&2nd degree. Please help me . Ages 5-14 please help me. Will you please give me feedback please don't let me wonder. If you really read these messages.I have taken care of them all there lives.please thank you Pamela Blackwell. Again

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    • Ty! Peace #2013177

      You should really look into this situation!

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  • sonia United States

    thanks for this posting. this brought tears to my eyes. at times i get fusterated with my little boy, he is such a handful, motherhood is hard. but now when i go home , i will see my son in new light. for i have just realized the love god has for me. thank you. god bless always

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  • Delphia Tyus Cincinnati, Ohio

    Thank you so much for those inspiring words about "Mary's Baby. Being an ignorant mother back in the day when my children were adolescents, I said some harsh words to them. I came from abusive relationships and in my stupidity I took things out on my children. No excuses, they were rebellious because of my ignorance. Not throwing a pity party either. My son is 40 and my daughter is 36. And I am so proud of their accomplishments. And I make sure I let them know it. I have apologized for my ignorance and yelling, and I except my faults. As children they never knew why I showed anger and it hurt them. At this time in my life I realized it was because me being abused mentally and sexually. They bring up hurtful words and it hurts to hear it, but I thank God for the strength to bare their venting. It's a slow process but we are healing through God's Mercy and Grace. My son and I have a great relationship even when he vents. My daughter is another story, but God is working with her too. I know she loves me, she just don't like me. And its okay, but i will not allow her to disrespect me. especially when I have bent over backwards to amend fences with her by helping her raise her 4 children from her abusing them physically when 241-kids puts them in my protective custody. I guess my love for her and her children pulls at my heart strings. She tells me i go overboard being a grandmother, Duh! Didn't mean to go on, but its such a delicate subject. That's another Oprah Show. Be blessed! And Yey! Thanks for bringing that out of me. You Brilliant Man! Maya was totally right! Much love to you Sir!

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  • Nicole NC

    Mr. Perry that was something I needed to hear. Since I separated from my spouse I worked so hard to give her what she needed and since the divorce I feel like I can't do enough. Sometimes the guilt of taking away her family is overwhelming. But thanks be to God she dances through all our struggles. She is a thriving eight year old, who inspires me to love hard and tells me we will get through this. I will embrace this gift that I have been given, thank you for the reminder.

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  • Victoria Nigeria

    Thank u for ur comment.tyler pls I want consider my letters pi hv posted to ur online family pls go through it nd tell m wat u think cos right now in Africa (Nigeria)things are vry tough vry day ,pls I beg to send m an invitation letter.God bless u

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  • Noni Warner Robins

    In my heart I really believe that the American Special Forces could rescue those girls. Why haven't we?

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  • Emma Young Lake Charles, LA 70607

    Inside a development, a mixture gradually occurs from all of those severe storms, and intense sufferings you had to endure. Never don't allow Satan to convince you to believe that you are going through because you are being punished. God know how to take everything we go through and do something good with it. Then turn around and allow us to become the giant he has assigned for us to be. So just hang in there your rewards are about to happen!

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  • Cecilia

    Hi, I'm truly touched by your prayer for the 200 Nigerian girls that were kidnapped in Northern Nigeria. I often think of them and wonder what must be happening to them right this minute. Some of them have already lost their lives. It's amazing that they are the minority who have even made it to school in a continent where only 1/3 of school children are girls. Being from Kenya, I don't take for granted what opportunities an education can provide to a girl, but even that is now at threat. Keep praying for the families of these girls, that they would be strengthened and one day see their daughters. I pray that the world will not forget these future life givers. Thank you for using your platform to shine the light on this. Always inspirational Mr. Perry. Gods speed.

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  • Sistah Pat Atlanta, Georgia

    The very best day of my life was when I became a parent and I absolutely cherish my son. It is amazing how as the years pass by how our relationship has evolved. People who contemplate like you do make excellent parents. You are concerned beforehand and God will supply all the wisdom that you need to do a terrific job. In my quiet time with my daddy, I frequently break into a tearful praise for him allowing me to be a parent...yes we have no idea who we are carrying and caring for. It is simply amazing. By the way, I love that song too and (shhhhhh) I play it all year long. Have a beautiful day too!!

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  • William Philadelphia, Pa

    Thank you

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  • Teresa United States

    I was upset by what happened to Trayvon, And This Is What I Feel GOD Gave Me. TRAIN UP A CHILD IN THE WAY THAT THEY SHOULD GO AND WHEN THEY GET OLD THEY SHALL NOT DEPART FROM IT. TEACH THEM If they don't know where they came from, how will they know where their going? TEACH THEM; Teach Them, They are KINGS KIDS, Let them know that they are Royalty, A Royal People. Not Monkeys and Apes. TEACH THEM; Teach Them, what the white man might, do to them. Teach Them, what the black man might, do to them. Teach Them, what the white woman might, do to them. Teach Them, what the black woman might, do to them. TEACH THEM; Teach Them, if anyone tells them different, because they desire to put them down. They are all true liars, and the truth be not in them. Jealousy is as cruel as the grave. TEACH THEM; Teach Them, how we were a strong people until (Sin entered in). Teach Them, that ALL unrightness is sin, ALL no matter what it maybe. Teach Them, wrong from right. Teach Them, how not to be KILLED, But how to live. Teach Them, that the wages of sin is DEATH. Teach Them, so they will know, that If they should have to fight, to fight for their life. But of course they DID NOT, because You Taught Them. TEACH THEM, TEACH THEM. By Teresa Vogel-Jones (GODS CHILD)

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