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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • Lynn United States

    I'm 52 years old, growing up a life of sorrow. Abuse, kidnap and betrayed by my own family. did the drugs did the therapy even when I got saved still in so much pain. when I finally gave up and surrender to Jesus any help me forgive that's when my healing came. was not treated good at all from my mother. Bad example of being a mother she gave me. But i got a daughter, God showed me how to love her and treat her the way she needs to be treated regardless of the way I was treated.my life felt like h*** but because of God I was able to be a good parent and to forgive. 700 club testimony, Manley.

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  • Curtis Reno Nevada

    Thank you Mr. Perry I just found your website and this was the first message of yours I expanded to read it in it entirety. My life is very complicated yet I have my ten year old living with me full time and yes I am a single father even though I do not feel that way cuz my family helps me out beyond belief. I am truly blessed :). And of course I could say we both grew up the same yet, that would not be true due to the fact that every person has a unique set of circumstances and tribulations. They must face and endure through out their entire life span. I have been having a hard time lately trying to get steady work and at the same time make sure my daughter gets good quality time with me. And I also implement the same basics as your quote and treat her with the opposite actions I grew up knowing. I do believe that God is and has been using you in order to get his message to others in need:). It's funny cuz it seems like every time, I am in a crossroad, or I am in need of some type of enlightenment I read or see a sketch of yours! I just want to thank you for being who you are god bless. Curtis S.

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  • Traci Dionne Wells From South Africa

    You know what the bible say train up a child in the way that he should go and when he gets old he will not depart. It also say treat others like you want to be treated. My personal belief about the treatment of children is you put in what you get out. That means for example if you decide to invest in your kid then the outcome of that will be a better chance of your family, spouce, wildlife, country, race, church, and eveything that the child of yours put his/her hands on will succeed. Everything that that child hand touches will prosper. If you leave your child negelected, abused, uncared for and unloved, that will be the price your future generations will have to pay.

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  • Gerry New York

    Wow it is so wonderful to know that someone who has been through so much canbe so at peace, as a Christian I admire you deeply, keep on having a relationship with God, he will give you your heart desire. Real men serve God you are a real man Tyler.

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  • Nikki

    Please pray for me in your quiet time at 5 AM. With the things that are happening in my life right now I feel like I've been hit by a train and dragged for a mile. I know that this too shall past, but I feel so shattered that it's hard to see the other side! Please pray for me Tyler!

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    • Curtis Reno nevada #1972051

      Hey Nikki hope all is well, I just read your comment and wanted u to know that you are special and that God would never give you more then you can handle :) be safe and if u ever need to talk to a stranger my email is free to vent or whatever there are people in this world that do care . God bless curtis

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  • Andrea ks

    Thank you so very much for the message and song about Mary and child and what a blessing children are... I try to be so mindful and in the moment with my daughter cherishing what a precious gift from God she is and what a blessing that I get to be her mother. It is hard sometimes with the myriad of challenges, but must keep the end goal in mind -- there's nothing more important than being a good mom, and if you fail at that nothing else matters. Love you for keeping it real, Perry! Thanks for making the world a better place for children and families! Cause really, what else even matters?

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  • M. MD

    Hey TeaPea! AMEN! I wanted twelve babies -- LHM -- what was I thinking? What you WANT and what you NEED are two different things, wouldn't you agree? Gotta go. your sister, M.

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  • B Davilus Urbana, Illinois

    Oh wow, thank you so much for this message Mr. Perry. This is my third powerful message from you. I receive it in Jesus name. Thank you.

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  • Alicia Robertson

    Thank you Tyler Perry you are an inspiration to me. I needed to see this im goin threw this storm

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  • Babs McAllen, Tx

    Mr. Tyler Perry, Love what you wrote about the children and Thank you for your prayer. May God continue to Bless you and yours. I also love and support what Christa wrote in the comments section of this site on Nov. 18, 2011. I believe this applies to everyone, not just Kim K. Please, let us be Kind, Caring, Forgiving, Respect, and most of all, Love each other. Thank you.

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  • Darlene Bennett Suitland, Maryland

    Hi Tyler, I stand by what you said. I have always told my children those exact words. I have a daughter who is very outspoken. I had her at age 17 in 1987 on Dec. 7. I truly believe those numbers are very important. She has always been gifted and talented and graduated from college on time. I told her I do not know what the Lord has in store for her but I know that it is great. I said to her that I want the Lord to allow me to see it come to pass. She is a world changer. Each one of my children and I have 3 are treated as my favorite. My background was very similar to yours Tyler. I was often told I was not wanted etc. I have risen up and overcame many odds. Now the publisher of 3 books and working on more. My daughter who I spoke of born to me at age 17 has now started her own business and is now a household name. Her business is Prissy Sweet Treat Cake. Check her out on Instagram. Continue to put out your great work. I have all of your movies and plays and often put them in when I need a word and laugh at the same time. Thank you.

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  • Ms. M Atlanta

    You are absolutely correct. Lord knows I do my best with this subject. Hey, it would be nice to hear what you have to say about how parents should be treated by their children.

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