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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • Nicole NC

    Mr. Perry that was something I needed to hear. Since I separated from my spouse I worked so hard to give her what she needed and since the divorce I feel like I can't do enough. Sometimes the guilt of taking away her family is overwhelming. But thanks be to God she dances through all our struggles. She is a thriving eight year old, who inspires me to love hard and tells me we will get through this. I will embrace this gift that I have been given, thank you for the reminder.

  • Victoria Nigeria

    Thank u for ur comment.tyler pls I want consider my letters pi hv posted to ur online family pls go through it nd tell m wat u think cos right now in Africa (Nigeria)things are vry tough vry day ,pls I beg to send m an invitation letter.God bless u

  • Noni Warner Robins

    In my heart I really believe that the American Special Forces could rescue those girls. Why haven't we?

  • Emma Young Lake Charles, LA 70607

    Inside a development, a mixture gradually occurs from all of those severe storms, and intense sufferings you had to endure. Never don't allow Satan to convince you to believe that you are going through because you are being punished. God know how to take everything we go through and do something good with it. Then turn around and allow us to become the giant he has assigned for us to be. So just hang in there your rewards are about to happen!

  • Cecilia

    Hi, I'm truly touched by your prayer for the 200 Nigerian girls that were kidnapped in Northern Nigeria. I often think of them and wonder what must be happening to them right this minute. Some of them have already lost their lives. It's amazing that they are the minority who have even made it to school in a continent where only 1/3 of school children are girls. Being from Kenya, I don't take for granted what opportunities an education can provide to a girl, but even that is now at threat. Keep praying for the families of these girls, that they would be strengthened and one day see their daughters. I pray that the world will not forget these future life givers. Thank you for using your platform to shine the light on this. Always inspirational Mr. Perry. Gods speed.

  • Sistah Pat Atlanta, Georgia

    The very best day of my life was when I became a parent and I absolutely cherish my son. It is amazing how as the years pass by how our relationship has evolved. People who contemplate like you do make excellent parents. You are concerned beforehand and God will supply all the wisdom that you need to do a terrific job. In my quiet time with my daddy, I frequently break into a tearful praise for him allowing me to be a parent...yes we have no idea who we are carrying and caring for. It is simply amazing. By the way, I love that song too and (shhhhhh) I play it all year long. Have a beautiful day too!!

  • William Philadelphia, Pa

    Thank you

  • Teresa United States

    I was upset by what happened to Trayvon, And This Is What I Feel GOD Gave Me. TRAIN UP A CHILD IN THE WAY THAT THEY SHOULD GO AND WHEN THEY GET OLD THEY SHALL NOT DEPART FROM IT. TEACH THEM If they don't know where they came from, how will they know where their going? TEACH THEM; Teach Them, They are KINGS KIDS, Let them know that they are Royalty, A Royal People. Not Monkeys and Apes. TEACH THEM; Teach Them, what the white man might, do to them. Teach Them, what the black man might, do to them. Teach Them, what the white woman might, do to them. Teach Them, what the black woman might, do to them. TEACH THEM; Teach Them, if anyone tells them different, because they desire to put them down. They are all true liars, and the truth be not in them. Jealousy is as cruel as the grave. TEACH THEM; Teach Them, how we were a strong people until (Sin entered in). Teach Them, that ALL unrightness is sin, ALL no matter what it maybe. Teach Them, wrong from right. Teach Them, how not to be KILLED, But how to live. Teach Them, that the wages of sin is DEATH. Teach Them, so they will know, that If they should have to fight, to fight for their life. But of course they DID NOT, because You Taught Them. TEACH THEM, TEACH THEM. By Teresa Vogel-Jones (GODS CHILD)

  • Anna Nyanjura Uganda

    Thank you Tyler

  • Shannon Marie Agyeman Houston, Texas

    Thanks you Mr Perry, I find your statement to be so true about growing up.And that the negative that may have happened you should learn to do the postive.I was blessed to give birth to 3 boys and 2girls.being that growing up it seemed that I was put on this earth to suffer. So I found myself hating me.It was only by God's grace that I was left here because many times I wanted to just end it all.But God had a plan for my life.I can't tell you that I became a lawyer or anything thing like that .But I did become someone's mother.God gave me my own children to raise and protect and put positive into their lives.I was a stay at home mother, and a wife .I had to see my kids grow, I had to push them to make to be better than I was to become something in life.Even though my mother had her mistakes It gave me something to learn from.of what not to do .It's like if you study the bible and you go to church and something is said that your spirit don't agree with you don't receive it.thats how I learned how to become the best mother I could be.My kids didn't grow up with designer clothes but they were always clean.When we would go out people use to tell me how well behaved my kids were.and a they were very polite.We raised them to say yes ma'am and no sir.and to always be kind to others .Thank you for your time.

  • Barbara Commerce, GA

    "Many people will fly in and out of our lives. What glorious feathers they share and leave behind." Courage of Fear, me. I grew up in a somewhat dysfunctional home, yet there were many good memories to be had. I lost both my parents when i was young... in through the foster system, then indeed a teen pregnancy. I remember having the same thoughts more than once. A few huge blessings came from this. First, what you spoke about as reverse learning. The love and blessings of a child, put in the highest of regards, never ceases to create the good of a parent's soul. It is an impossibility and indeed an inevitability. It is the truest form of love; like the Father to myself. Second, the Creator sure sent me some beautiful birds. Some to mentor me, some to live me, some to guide me, some to inspire me, some to hold me, to motivate me, to laugh with me... and indeed some to restrain me. The list so vast... Some walked the journey with me for miles, while others continued on--always leaving those feathers. Third, through that love of my child, I was able to better get to know, understand, love, and most importantly forgive my own parents at a level that could have only been achieved through Jenny. I truly do not know much about you sir. (It was purely by happenstance I found myself here.) A few interviews here or there. Indeed times of your youth. Trust in this, from a mere observers perspective, with her own youth filled tragedies, the True Father obviously did His job just fine... and there is no true desire for REVERSE in that. Rest assured as a parent, it will be the Creator you call on far many more times than the physical parent themselves. You can ask any grandparent. Many Blessings... quit thinking about it and get busy! There is nothing like it!

  • Monica Moniz Sweden

    Being a parent is the most challenging , rewarding , responsible , life changing experience that any human being can go true . You will be responsible for someone's life in this world. It's your job to care for them , protected them ,love them , make them smile when they cry. The best thing you can give a child it's a safe place to come home to. If I was given I wish , that would be mine . Wishing you all a wonderful day .

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