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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • Jamika Peoria, IL

    This is a response to your recent email Re: WARNING! Be careful how you treat your children! I don't know if you are going to read this but I just wanted you to know that this post came right on time. I am a single mother of two girls,5 and 9, that I did not give birth to. Lately its been hard for me to look at them as blessings (just being real here). I have been dealing with some major generational curses with both my girls, and I am finding it harder and harder every day to maintain my sanity. I have one suffering from ADHD/depression(my 9 yr. old) and the other explosive mood disorder(my 5 yr. old). I'm not rich, and only have a Medicaid card, so as you might guess, the resources we need are not readily available to us and the school is finding it easier to suspend my five year old instead of helping me attack the problem head on. I keep asking myself, what did I get myself into. Had I not made the decision to adopt, I would be a single woman with no kids right now. I do believe my girls are special, but right now, I don't know who God has placed in my care or why. Last night, a young lady I know posted on FB how tired she was raising her two year old by herself. She had come to the conclusion that the next time she dropped her off at the daycare, she was going to let them know that she could no longer be trusted to parent her little girl and that she would not be back to pick her up. I brought this up to say this...I don't understand how someone who carried a child for 9 mos., can just drop them off like dry cleaning and decide not to pick them up. Right now... I'm tired, I'm overwhelmed, and I am stressed beyond measure; and lately I question...Did I make the right decision bringing these girls into my life? But one thing I am sure of is....what's done is done and it can't be undone....I can't see myself calling the agency and reneging on my responsibilities. I'm not giving up on my kids or my family. Thank you for reminding me to count my blessings what ever shape or form they come in. Please keep us in your prayers!

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    • genevieve cannon bronx ny 10453 #1958861

      thank you for sending these messages. i miss you

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  • Mayelyb Bronx, NY

    I like that song too. It shows that through adversity, and struggle, and even heartache, a mother can be blessed. Dispite the circumstances that Mary became eased, there was a lesson to be learned through her anguish and pain. She became the example of what a mother should be. Sometimes we face things on life that hinder our ability as mothers to continue on. But through God we get through it. That is something to rejoice and smile about each morning. Thank you Tyler for the continued support to the people. Even though we don't personally know you, you help us get through. That is why God has blessed you :)!

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  • Eusheeka Lewis Jamaica

    Hello Mr.Perry. I have never done this before .I wish there was a message button(but i know how that would go)so only you could see this because i am a very private person. *I NEED YOUR HELP*. I'm not trying to get or give out your information.I will not start any scam neither am i planning to do anything crazy.I am not an over board fan and i'm all the way in Jamaica.I know you pay attention to your message board so i really hope you see this.Why you? You can help and i feel led to ask you. *REMEMBER A GOOD DEED CAN CHANGE A PERSONS LIFE*. Email:@hotmail.com really really hope to hear from you. nac i evah na liame sserdda ot edivorp rehtruf sliated. knaht uoy.

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  • Patricia GA

    Hello Mr. Tyler Perry! I am so happy to here your message today. There is no doubt that you will be the BEST FATHER EVER. Just the other day (Sunday, May 11,- Mother's Day) I was in prayer and some how I started praying for you. True story.. I knew that this day would remind you of your wonderful mother so I prayed for you and I also mention to God that I have not received any of your wonderful, kindness, words of wisdom, messages lately. This morning God answered my prayer. I know that you are a very, very, very busy man and don't have time to post comments or just write your thoughts out loud for us to read everyday but I look forward to reading anything that you post from time to time. Thank You for doing so. I am a single mother of one and I know just what you mean to be the best father (one day) for your child\children. In my case, I have to be the best mother and father. But I don't mind one bit. My daughter is truly a blessing and a wonderful gift from God. So just as God has answered a small prayer, that he seen from my heart, he will surely answer yours. MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU! My prayer for you: Our Father, I come right now in agreement with Tyler Perry and ask for your guidance and wisdom to show him your way to become the best father at the appointed time. May his heart continue to be open to allow you to move through him, in Jesus name. Amen. Have a bless day!!!!!

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  • Joyce A.S. Manitoba, Canada.

    Dear Tyler, Thank you so much for sharing your heart. I always look forward to reading your messages because I find them thought provoking, inspiring and funny as well, thank you for taking the time to write them and for having the courage to be vulnerable. God bless you Tyler and may God grant you all the desires of your heart in Jesus Name. Amen. By the way, I got my landlady to subscribe to OWN just so I could watch 'The Haves and Have Not'...all I can say right now is I am pleasantly surprised at how you are able to bring out the Godly in the sensual. You're right too, OWN is too serious...but so is 'The Haves & Have Not'!

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  • Angel Yvonne www.angelyvonne.com

    Tyler, hello to you my friend. Thank you for publically acknowledging the Nigerian girls means a lot to everyone that you care. You will be an excellent dad, I don't see how you could not, even though I don't you personally, and you don't know me from Adam, I feel like I know you somewhat from how you present yourself and engage your self with others on tv. Feel like I've know you for years bruh. :) Can't wait to work with you in the future. Speaking it into existence, even if God is the only one who is listening. Love you always, Angel Yvonne. www.angelyvonne.com Keep all of us aspiring actors inspired!

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  • Veno Kauaria Windhoek, Namibia

    It is so funny how people mistreat children. It's as if they think that children don't grow up and remember who was kind and mean to them. An adult family member of mine burned my arm with an iron when I was 6 years old. I am now 53 years old. I remember that day clearly and have a scar to remind me. She apparently doesn't remember! I vowed not to be mean to kids, mine or other people's. Kids grow up and they remember!

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  • Theresa Reels Smyrna

    Hi Tyler I am with about how we treat the children . My daughter was kicked off of her dancing team because I couldn't afford the payments . We were stuck in California and only one team mom paid for us to return home. The rest of the moms talked about me and my daughter to their friends . However they did not keep the gossip apart from theier children . Now my daughter has to deal with the same issues abut not having money for her school but they don't care.You would think the child maybe thiss is a child and the adults took her dream from her . The only thing she ask me to do is to find a sponsor so she can return back on team . She said the doctors said I have to contiue dancing to keep my legs strong . I Will Find Her A Sponsor Before G O D calls me home

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  • faith

    This message was a heads-up, i have a 1yr old son and i do my very best to love and teach him the right things in life.... although i was brought up in a good home with my dad and grandma, i try to do the same for my son,,,, Mr Perry you are an inspiration, thank you.... Keep doing what you do best,,,,

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  • Karen United States

    "As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result..." Genesis 50:20 "And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God..." Romans 8:28 There is nothing the nearness of Christ can't overcome. If I focus on my problems, they get me. If I focus on Jesus, my problems don't go away, but they are put in a proper perspective.

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  • Gillian Patella United States

    Tyler what a powerful message, thank you for sharing:)

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  • Life Intuitions Detroit,Mi

    Children are a precious gift from GOD. Sometimes parents don't realize this as well as the children who are birthed by these people. One thing I've learned is sometimes your parent may be the person GOD has assigned you for the good qualities that person has. A lot of times we go through life saying I wonder how my life could've been IF I were born to someone else. A lot of times, your blessings come from that person such as your good looks, height, wisdom and overall spiritual and healthy well being. So instead of looking at being a victim of circumstance, realize you a a victor over the circumstance.

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