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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • Coralia Wolfe Osage Beach, Mo

    Good Morning and blessed day for all!!! I could not agree with you more ... our children and all the children of the world... who had been us at one past time and continue to be until we returne to our Father in Heaven and for ever... But those that come into this world and are in their early lifes...have been placed in our lifes...as a blessing to teach us... if we diligently seek our Father's wisdom in prayer we will begin to understand the purpose of this life... while taking care of my children as they grew up... I realized... that all this time that I thought I was teaching them...they were teaching me as well...but the most amazing thing is the realization... That yes... this are my children ...and any children of this world are my children...but they are God's children as well... and I am responsible to returned HOME with them...How can I do this ... Like you said... we need to cut with the transgenerational cicle...( in reverse) and guide and lead with prayer and love... let us seek the wisdom that lies within the margins of His love... I wish I new this...before my children were born...I had to suffer my parents ignorance, and those that helped rear me as well...without leaving society behind...we are all in this together... but... we have choices...and I can not blame others for what I lack...because I can change it...ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH HIM... Today I am blessed with 3 amazing children and grand children...and we are still learning with one another...standing in love... One thing I can say is that evil can make you believe that spanking is good... but I am here to testify to you... that we do not have to spank... for a child to respect and choose right... I unite my prayer to yours...and pray that we may be fast to seek in prayer... wisdom and the love necessary to lead and guide our children (all) before we raise our hands and voices to harm them...so that when time is due... and our Father in Heaven ask us: Where are my children that I placed under your responsibility... You can answer:... Here we are ... and I loved and guide them just like you have with me...SAFE AT HOME... in the name of Jesus Christ, AMEN

  • Patina Wisconsin

    Thank you for the beautiful pray. I do not have any kids. But I do have a godson and a goddaughter. Their are both teenagers now. One again thank you for the beautiful pray.

  • charles wood sr marshall, il

    Mr. Perry, I just wanted to let you know how much my family and I enjoy watching your shows. And I personally have found that in all your programs that there is a message of hope and love. You are a truly blessed and caring person when it comes to family, especially the children. May God bless you in all your future endeavors.


    Oh yes, how true are those words, because the day will come when the one who birthed you is in a place of eternal rest. The visits are now shrouded under a vast vault of silence. Your eyes slowly trace carefully the selected etched words, "Beloved Mother" above her name. Now, only the eternal heart is speaking beyond the earthly barrier that holds the one who carried and cared for you first. The road was bumpy sometimes, but I would not be standing here today if not for you. Please know, that I know you did the best you could.

  • VLM Covington, GA

    Hello Mr. Perry!! Thank you for the Prayer! I am sure you will be a wonderful Father one day! I wish this message would get across to my 4 month old Sons father. We haven't really spoken since I was 7 months pregnant, he wasn't there for the birth, and he still haven't seen him face to face to this day. I have been sending his father a picture of his precious baby boy that looks just like him, but he does not respond. He is not in the best of health right now, so one would think he would do right by his kids, however he still denies him. I often down myself for choosing this man, and subjecting my son to a fatherless world, however, I'm realizing that maybe God sent this man in my life for just that reason, for me to birth my only Son, for he is truly a blessing and brings me so much joy. Have a Blessed Day Tyler Perry!!! Thank you for all that you do!!

  • Miss P. 3221 stirling Brg., Canal Winchester, Oh. 43110

    Hello Tyler... That was such a true message you wrote about the children. People don't give them the respect nor credit they are due. I know you will be an excellent father someday and I pray God gives you the desires of your heart, a woman that truly loves you...a woman like me...lol...well dear it sure was good hearing from you, love you, have a blessed day

  • Mary Ashland, Oregon

    The world needs more Tyler Perrys. Thanks for your inspiration and example. No matter what your message is, it's always positive and I love that.

  • Jamika Peoria, IL

    This is a response to your recent email Re: WARNING! Be careful how you treat your children! I don't know if you are going to read this but I just wanted you to know that this post came right on time. I am a single mother of two girls,5 and 9, that I did not give birth to. Lately its been hard for me to look at them as blessings (just being real here). I have been dealing with some major generational curses with both my girls, and I am finding it harder and harder every day to maintain my sanity. I have one suffering from ADHD/depression(my 9 yr. old) and the other explosive mood disorder(my 5 yr. old). I'm not rich, and only have a Medicaid card, so as you might guess, the resources we need are not readily available to us and the school is finding it easier to suspend my five year old instead of helping me attack the problem head on. I keep asking myself, what did I get myself into. Had I not made the decision to adopt, I would be a single woman with no kids right now. I do believe my girls are special, but right now, I don't know who God has placed in my care or why. Last night, a young lady I know posted on FB how tired she was raising her two year old by herself. She had come to the conclusion that the next time she dropped her off at the daycare, she was going to let them know that she could no longer be trusted to parent her little girl and that she would not be back to pick her up. I brought this up to say this...I don't understand how someone who carried a child for 9 mos., can just drop them off like dry cleaning and decide not to pick them up. Right now... I'm tired, I'm overwhelmed, and I am stressed beyond measure; and lately I question...Did I make the right decision bringing these girls into my life? But one thing I am sure of is....what's done is done and it can't be undone....I can't see myself calling the agency and reneging on my responsibilities. I'm not giving up on my kids or my family. Thank you for reminding me to count my blessings what ever shape or form they come in. Please keep us in your prayers!

    • genevieve cannon bronx ny 10453 #1958861

      thank you for sending these messages. i miss you

  • Mayelyb Bronx, NY

    I like that song too. It shows that through adversity, and struggle, and even heartache, a mother can be blessed. Dispite the circumstances that Mary became eased, there was a lesson to be learned through her anguish and pain. She became the example of what a mother should be. Sometimes we face things on life that hinder our ability as mothers to continue on. But through God we get through it. That is something to rejoice and smile about each morning. Thank you Tyler for the continued support to the people. Even though we don't personally know you, you help us get through. That is why God has blessed you :)!

  • Eusheeka Lewis Jamaica

    Hello Mr.Perry. I have never done this before .I wish there was a message button(but i know how that would go)so only you could see this because i am a very private person. *I NEED YOUR HELP*. I'm not trying to get or give out your information.I will not start any scam neither am i planning to do anything crazy.I am not an over board fan and i'm all the way in Jamaica.I know you pay attention to your message board so i really hope you see this.Why you? You can help and i feel led to ask you. *REMEMBER A GOOD DEED CAN CHANGE A PERSONS LIFE*. Email:@hotmail.com really really hope to hear from you. nac i evah na liame sserdda ot edivorp rehtruf sliated. knaht uoy.

  • Patricia GA

    Hello Mr. Tyler Perry! I am so happy to here your message today. There is no doubt that you will be the BEST FATHER EVER. Just the other day (Sunday, May 11,- Mother's Day) I was in prayer and some how I started praying for you. True story.. I knew that this day would remind you of your wonderful mother so I prayed for you and I also mention to God that I have not received any of your wonderful, kindness, words of wisdom, messages lately. This morning God answered my prayer. I know that you are a very, very, very busy man and don't have time to post comments or just write your thoughts out loud for us to read everyday but I look forward to reading anything that you post from time to time. Thank You for doing so. I am a single mother of one and I know just what you mean to be the best father (one day) for your child\children. In my case, I have to be the best mother and father. But I don't mind one bit. My daughter is truly a blessing and a wonderful gift from God. So just as God has answered a small prayer, that he seen from my heart, he will surely answer yours. MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU! My prayer for you: Our Father, I come right now in agreement with Tyler Perry and ask for your guidance and wisdom to show him your way to become the best father at the appointed time. May his heart continue to be open to allow you to move through him, in Jesus name. Amen. Have a bless day!!!!!

  • Joyce A.S. Manitoba, Canada.

    Dear Tyler, Thank you so much for sharing your heart. I always look forward to reading your messages because I find them thought provoking, inspiring and funny as well, thank you for taking the time to write them and for having the courage to be vulnerable. God bless you Tyler and may God grant you all the desires of your heart in Jesus Name. Amen. By the way, I got my landlady to subscribe to OWN just so I could watch 'The Haves and Have Not'...all I can say right now is I am pleasantly surprised at how you are able to bring out the Godly in the sensual. You're right too, OWN is too serious...but so is 'The Haves & Have Not'!

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