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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • Veronica Smith Evansville, IN

    Good morning Mr. Perry, When I was pregnant with my son Nathaniel 22). The one name, Nathaniel was given to me when my son was born. I realized why I was given Nathaniel as my sons name, It meant a gift from God. That my son has been to his father and I. We also have a daughter 18, Ashlee. She will be going to college three hours away from us August 20th, I'm excited for the acceptance to the college and opportunity for my daughter to continue her education, (she finished high school with honors C** La plus receive an United States Achievement nomination from her schools educators in Leadership) Mr. Perry, my daughter going to school three hours away scares me half to death. The bond a mother has with her children is something unexplainable. I grew up not ever experiencing that type of bond. I was a foster child all my eighteen years of growing up. Never understanding until thirteen why I taken away ( I and my twin) as infants from my parents. Yes sometimes my daughter can raise my brow, but I keep silent because I'm reminded of the childhood without either of my mom or dad and cherish the opportunity to have been able to provide a mom and dad for my two children experiencing a silent request once whispered as a child a whole family. I thank God every day for the blessing.

  • Bertha United States

    My lesson is to let GOD BE THE PARENT...I was brought up with no GOOD examples either and some of the things well looking at me you would not believe that it could of happened....The more I look back all I can do is see WHERE GODS LOVE was beside me.....and that's why today I could not and will not live as my past....I AM IN THE LIGHT and what was happening in my life as a kid was complete darkness, GOD IS LOVE and anything other then that is DARKNESS.....LIFE IS THE TEACHER THANKFUL you are moving forward and you have mad a decision to END your LIFE AS YOU KNEW IT and started A NEW LIFE with Christ, Because you did that Brother Perry, you have no NEED TO WORRY or QUESTION....

  • Sophie London

    If you only knew. The mom who threw me out several times i am now looking after. Only the grace of God could do this! God's amazing grace to forgive over and over and over gain even when it hurts so bad you can't breath, but God is truly amazing!

  • Jill atlanta, ga

    I would like to say thank you for helping me to look at my situation as a blessing. I have four children from 13 - 1 years of age. At times they are a handful often times I forget that they are truly a blessing and that God doesn't always allow everyone to be parents. So thanks for helping me and other parents put things in prospective.

  • Lisa Renee Benning Detroit, Michigan

    Dear Mr. Tyler Perry - After reading your message, I had to take 5, in order to shed a few tears. I experienced your pain so I know exactly where you're coming from. I believe that we can completely escape what happened in our childhood so we must leave how to pick up the pieces thats left and create something good. My favorite quote is: God often uses our deepest pain as the launching pad of our greatest calling. So my greatest pain leads me to help and protect children with after school programs because I believe after school matters and its the most crucial time when kids can get into the most trouble. I'm working on a grant as we speak so I can provide kids with hands on experience for acting, camera crew, dance, script writing, movie producers, talk show host, video/ music creators, doctors, lawyers... Etc. They will never know what they like and want to be, if they never get exposed to all of these careers. And that my friend is one of my deepest pains that I'd like to turn into my greatest calling. Be well Lisa Renee Benning

  • Susan.Okodi Copenhagen

    Dear Tyler, What we go through in life is never wasted. Your story is sad but it is the reason you will be a great Dad, GrandPa , Uncle and source of wisdom to many. See how God has blessed you and is continuing to bless you . You inspire me a lot

    • Inspirational USA #1975158

      Well put Susan!

  • Raphaela Honolulu

    Tyler, no one is born a parent yet we each have an opportunity to be a parent. The best we can do is to give it our best so we never have regrets. Regrets come in only when you don't give it your very best. It has no book or clear cut guidelines but I have no doubt that good people make good parents. You are one of the most amazing people I know Tyler. Bracing challenges only makes us stronger and I have no doubt you will also thrive as a parent. I am a single mother who has braced so many challenges to be where I am today. Each day I wake up, I try to stay positive and a good example for my son. I live for him and his success will be mine. Its that feeling that will define a good parent. Thank you for being an inspiration to people like myself. Raphaela

  • Lynn United States

    I'm 52 years old, growing up a life of sorrow. Abuse, kidnap and betrayed by my own family. did the drugs did the therapy even when I got saved still in so much pain. when I finally gave up and surrender to Jesus any help me forgive that's when my healing came. was not treated good at all from my mother. Bad example of being a mother she gave me. But i got a daughter, God showed me how to love her and treat her the way she needs to be treated regardless of the way I was treated.my life felt like h*** but because of God I was able to be a good parent and to forgive. 700 club testimony, Manley.

  • Curtis Reno Nevada

    Thank you Mr. Perry I just found your website and this was the first message of yours I expanded to read it in it entirety. My life is very complicated yet I have my ten year old living with me full time and yes I am a single father even though I do not feel that way cuz my family helps me out beyond belief. I am truly blessed :). And of course I could say we both grew up the same yet, that would not be true due to the fact that every person has a unique set of circumstances and tribulations. They must face and endure through out their entire life span. I have been having a hard time lately trying to get steady work and at the same time make sure my daughter gets good quality time with me. And I also implement the same basics as your quote and treat her with the opposite actions I grew up knowing. I do believe that God is and has been using you in order to get his message to others in need:). It's funny cuz it seems like every time, I am in a crossroad, or I am in need of some type of enlightenment I read or see a sketch of yours! I just want to thank you for being who you are god bless. Curtis S.

  • Traci Dionne Wells From South Africa

    You know what the bible say train up a child in the way that he should go and when he gets old he will not depart. It also say treat others like you want to be treated. My personal belief about the treatment of children is you put in what you get out. That means for example if you decide to invest in your kid then the outcome of that will be a better chance of your family, spouce, wildlife, country, race, church, and eveything that the child of yours put his/her hands on will succeed. Everything that that child hand touches will prosper. If you leave your child negelected, abused, uncared for and unloved, that will be the price your future generations will have to pay.

  • Gerry New York

    Wow it is so wonderful to know that someone who has been through so much canbe so at peace, as a Christian I admire you deeply, keep on having a relationship with God, he will give you your heart desire. Real men serve God you are a real man Tyler.

  • Nikki

    Please pray for me in your quiet time at 5 AM. With the things that are happening in my life right now I feel like I've been hit by a train and dragged for a mile. I know that this too shall past, but I feel so shattered that it's hard to see the other side! Please pray for me Tyler!

    • Curtis Reno nevada #1972051

      Hey Nikki hope all is well, I just read your comment and wanted u to know that you are special and that God would never give you more then you can handle :) be safe and if u ever need to talk to a stranger my email is free to vent or whatever there are people in this world that do care . God bless curtis

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