Tyler Perry.com


Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

Comments (page 4)

Post Comment
  • Sistah Pat Atlanta, Georgia

    The very best day of my life was when I became a parent and I absolutely cherish my son. It is amazing how as the years pass by how our relationship has evolved. People who contemplate like you do make excellent parents. You are concerned beforehand and God will supply all the wisdom that you need to do a terrific job. In my quiet time with my daddy, I frequently break into a tearful praise for him allowing me to be a parent...yes we have no idea who we are carrying and caring for. It is simply amazing. By the way, I love that song too and (shhhhhh) I play it all year long. Have a beautiful day too!!

  • William Philadelphia, Pa

    Thank you

  • Teresa United States

    I was upset by what happened to Trayvon, And This Is What I Feel GOD Gave Me. TRAIN UP A CHILD IN THE WAY THAT THEY SHOULD GO AND WHEN THEY GET OLD THEY SHALL NOT DEPART FROM IT. TEACH THEM If they don't know where they came from, how will they know where their going? TEACH THEM; Teach Them, They are KINGS KIDS, Let them know that they are Royalty, A Royal People. Not Monkeys and Apes. TEACH THEM; Teach Them, what the white man might, do to them. Teach Them, what the black man might, do to them. Teach Them, what the white woman might, do to them. Teach Them, what the black woman might, do to them. TEACH THEM; Teach Them, if anyone tells them different, because they desire to put them down. They are all true liars, and the truth be not in them. Jealousy is as cruel as the grave. TEACH THEM; Teach Them, how we were a strong people until (Sin entered in). Teach Them, that ALL unrightness is sin, ALL no matter what it maybe. Teach Them, wrong from right. Teach Them, how not to be KILLED, But how to live. Teach Them, that the wages of sin is DEATH. Teach Them, so they will know, that If they should have to fight, to fight for their life. But of course they DID NOT, because You Taught Them. TEACH THEM, TEACH THEM. By Teresa Vogel-Jones (GODS CHILD)

  • Anna Nyanjura Uganda

    Thank you Tyler

  • Shannon Marie Agyeman Houston, Texas

    Thanks you Mr Perry, I find your statement to be so true about growing up.And that the negative that may have happened you should learn to do the postive.I was blessed to give birth to 3 boys and 2girls.being that growing up it seemed that I was put on this earth to suffer. So I found myself hating me.It was only by God's grace that I was left here because many times I wanted to just end it all.But God had a plan for my life.I can't tell you that I became a lawyer or anything thing like that .But I did become someone's mother.God gave me my own children to raise and protect and put positive into their lives.I was a stay at home mother, and a wife .I had to see my kids grow, I had to push them to make to be better than I was to become something in life.Even though my mother had her mistakes It gave me something to learn from.of what not to do .It's like if you study the bible and you go to church and something is said that your spirit don't agree with you don't receive it.thats how I learned how to become the best mother I could be.My kids didn't grow up with designer clothes but they were always clean.When we would go out people use to tell me how well behaved my kids were.and a they were very polite.We raised them to say yes ma'am and no sir.and to always be kind to others .Thank you for your time.

  • Barbara Commerce, GA

    "Many people will fly in and out of our lives. What glorious feathers they share and leave behind." Courage of Fear, me. I grew up in a somewhat dysfunctional home, yet there were many good memories to be had. I lost both my parents when i was young... in through the foster system, then indeed a teen pregnancy. I remember having the same thoughts more than once. A few huge blessings came from this. First, what you spoke about as reverse learning. The love and blessings of a child, put in the highest of regards, never ceases to create the good of a parent's soul. It is an impossibility and indeed an inevitability. It is the truest form of love; like the Father to myself. Second, the Creator sure sent me some beautiful birds. Some to mentor me, some to live me, some to guide me, some to inspire me, some to hold me, to motivate me, to laugh with me... and indeed some to restrain me. The list so vast... Some walked the journey with me for miles, while others continued on--always leaving those feathers. Third, through that love of my child, I was able to better get to know, understand, love, and most importantly forgive my own parents at a level that could have only been achieved through Jenny. I truly do not know much about you sir. (It was purely by happenstance I found myself here.) A few interviews here or there. Indeed times of your youth. Trust in this, from a mere observers perspective, with her own youth filled tragedies, the True Father obviously did His job just fine... and there is no true desire for REVERSE in that. Rest assured as a parent, it will be the Creator you call on far many more times than the physical parent themselves. You can ask any grandparent. Many Blessings... quit thinking about it and get busy! There is nothing like it!

  • Monica Moniz Sweden

    Being a parent is the most challenging , rewarding , responsible , life changing experience that any human being can go true . You will be responsible for someone's life in this world. It's your job to care for them , protected them ,love them , make them smile when they cry. The best thing you can give a child it's a safe place to come home to. If I was given I wish , that would be mine . Wishing you all a wonderful day .

  • Veronica Smith Evansville, IN

    Good morning Mr. Perry, When I was pregnant with my son Nathaniel 22). The one name, Nathaniel was given to me when my son was born. I realized why I was given Nathaniel as my sons name, It meant a gift from God. That my son has been to his father and I. We also have a daughter 18, Ashlee. She will be going to college three hours away from us August 20th, I'm excited for the acceptance to the college and opportunity for my daughter to continue her education, (she finished high school with honors C** La plus receive an United States Achievement nomination from her schools educators in Leadership) Mr. Perry, my daughter going to school three hours away scares me half to death. The bond a mother has with her children is something unexplainable. I grew up not ever experiencing that type of bond. I was a foster child all my eighteen years of growing up. Never understanding until thirteen why I taken away ( I and my twin) as infants from my parents. Yes sometimes my daughter can raise my brow, but I keep silent because I'm reminded of the childhood without either of my mom or dad and cherish the opportunity to have been able to provide a mom and dad for my two children experiencing a silent request once whispered as a child a whole family. I thank God every day for the blessing.

  • Bertha United States

    My lesson is to let GOD BE THE PARENT...I was brought up with no GOOD examples either and some of the things well looking at me you would not believe that it could of happened....The more I look back all I can do is see WHERE GODS LOVE was beside me.....and that's why today I could not and will not live as my past....I AM IN THE LIGHT and what was happening in my life as a kid was complete darkness, GOD IS LOVE and anything other then that is DARKNESS.....LIFE IS THE TEACHER THANKFUL you are moving forward and you have mad a decision to END your LIFE AS YOU KNEW IT and started A NEW LIFE with Christ, Because you did that Brother Perry, you have no NEED TO WORRY or QUESTION....

  • Sophie London

    If you only knew. The mom who threw me out several times i am now looking after. Only the grace of God could do this! God's amazing grace to forgive over and over and over gain even when it hurts so bad you can't breath, but God is truly amazing!

  • Jill atlanta, ga

    I would like to say thank you for helping me to look at my situation as a blessing. I have four children from 13 - 1 years of age. At times they are a handful often times I forget that they are truly a blessing and that God doesn't always allow everyone to be parents. So thanks for helping me and other parents put things in prospective.

  • Lisa Renee Benning Detroit, Michigan

    Dear Mr. Tyler Perry - After reading your message, I had to take 5, in order to shed a few tears. I experienced your pain so I know exactly where you're coming from. I believe that we can completely escape what happened in our childhood so we must leave how to pick up the pieces thats left and create something good. My favorite quote is: God often uses our deepest pain as the launching pad of our greatest calling. So my greatest pain leads me to help and protect children with after school programs because I believe after school matters and its the most crucial time when kids can get into the most trouble. I'm working on a grant as we speak so I can provide kids with hands on experience for acting, camera crew, dance, script writing, movie producers, talk show host, video/ music creators, doctors, lawyers... Etc. They will never know what they like and want to be, if they never get exposed to all of these careers. And that my friend is one of my deepest pains that I'd like to turn into my greatest calling. Be well Lisa Renee Benning

The Haves and The Have Nots - Tuesdays at 9/8c on OWN