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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • Andrea ks

    Thank you so very much for the message and song about Mary and child and what a blessing children are... I try to be so mindful and in the moment with my daughter cherishing what a precious gift from God she is and what a blessing that I get to be her mother. It is hard sometimes with the myriad of challenges, but must keep the end goal in mind -- there's nothing more important than being a good mom, and if you fail at that nothing else matters. Love you for keeping it real, Perry! Thanks for making the world a better place for children and families! Cause really, what else even matters?

  • M. MD

    Hey TeaPea! AMEN! I wanted twelve babies -- LHM -- what was I thinking? What you WANT and what you NEED are two different things, wouldn't you agree? Gotta go. your sister, M.

  • B Davilus Urbana, Illinois

    Oh wow, thank you so much for this message Mr. Perry. This is my third powerful message from you. I receive it in Jesus name. Thank you.

  • Alicia Robertson

    Thank you Tyler Perry you are an inspiration to me. I needed to see this im goin threw this storm

  • Babs McAllen, Tx

    Mr. Tyler Perry, Love what you wrote about the children and Thank you for your prayer. May God continue to Bless you and yours. I also love and support what Christa wrote in the comments section of this site on Nov. 18, 2011. I believe this applies to everyone, not just Kim K. Please, let us be Kind, Caring, Forgiving, Respect, and most of all, Love each other. Thank you.

  • Darlene Bennett Suitland, Maryland

    Hi Tyler, I stand by what you said. I have always told my children those exact words. I have a daughter who is very outspoken. I had her at age 17 in 1987 on Dec. 7. I truly believe those numbers are very important. She has always been gifted and talented and graduated from college on time. I told her I do not know what the Lord has in store for her but I know that it is great. I said to her that I want the Lord to allow me to see it come to pass. She is a world changer. Each one of my children and I have 3 are treated as my favorite. My background was very similar to yours Tyler. I was often told I was not wanted etc. I have risen up and overcame many odds. Now the publisher of 3 books and working on more. My daughter who I spoke of born to me at age 17 has now started her own business and is now a household name. Her business is Prissy Sweet Treat Cake. Check her out on Instagram. Continue to put out your great work. I have all of your movies and plays and often put them in when I need a word and laugh at the same time. Thank you.

  • Ms. M Atlanta

    You are absolutely correct. Lord knows I do my best with this subject. Hey, it would be nice to hear what you have to say about how parents should be treated by their children.

  • Bernadette Ft.Lauderdale, Florida

    Yes! I truly agree with you on this one. I feel that every child and now they are adults has been thought something in there life. That's why i ask God to help me because i've been thought alot and only God know what i been thought. So now I'm here waiting on my lord and saver Jesus Christ who is the head of my life. Now i know why i had to go through all of this mess. I been tested so i can have a testimony. Because God is getting me ready for a new thing that is growing strong in me. Yes sir,you will see and you will read about me. Because i Bernadette Bush is a very strong woman and i do believe that women going to run this new world that is coming. Get ready Mr.Perry. Because i am one of those wome. You see i now understand why people die and leave this earth. Cause they have to move out the way for another strong person to come along and take on that site. So Mr.Perry I know that I am that strong woman that going to take that site. That's why i alway say be careful how you do this child of God. Amen?Amen.

  • Michelle Spivey Athens, Georgiah

    Hi Tyler. ibpray the same. i have 4 sons and we are down to the skin of our teeth, however we are together and they are my blessing that pushes me to try harder day in and out! May God bless you. oh yeah **** im a 6 foot tall white woman who is ready to do diary of a mad white woman when ever you are. lol. i love ur plays. im only 31 but i got gray hair like im 41. if u need a good co star thats new to your ideas with Madea, here i am! Have a blessed day.

  • Keron South Houston Texas

    You are an awesome inspiration. I pray for you sometimes that God will continue to bless you so you can be a blessing to others. As a single mom of a nine year old boy, i use you as an example to my son a lot, reminding him to put God in all he do and he too will succeed. God bless you Tyler.

  • Dawne Roberts Brookly New York

    Hi Tyler I am sure you will make a great dad one day! I have been bless to be the best mom I could be I am a single mom and my kids are 19 years apart. I really enjoy the haves and have nots.

  • Cynthia Talton Antioch,ca

    Just saying hi.Have a blessed evening..............

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