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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • Keron South Houston Texas

    You are an awesome inspiration. I pray for you sometimes that God will continue to bless you so you can be a blessing to others. As a single mom of a nine year old boy, i use you as an example to my son a lot, reminding him to put God in all he do and he too will succeed. God bless you Tyler.

  • Dawne Roberts Brookly New York

    Hi Tyler I am sure you will make a great dad one day! I have been bless to be the best mom I could be I am a single mom and my kids are 19 years apart. I really enjoy the haves and have nots.

  • Cynthia Talton Antioch,ca

    Just saying hi.Have a blessed evening..............

  • Ms Proverbs NC

    Tyler, Happy Memorial Day Weekend !!!!!! :-) :-) Ms . Proverbs

  • M.H

    Answer in depth!!!!!!

  • RitaEve New Mexico

    Thanks for your prayer. My prayer is that parents look at their kids and see the talent inside of their kids and not what they want their kids to be. If we as parents nature our kids according the the gifts God has given them we would all be happier and our kids would truly life in their God given purpose.

  • Ms Proverbs NC

    Hi there Tyler, How are you do-ting?? (In my Madea's voice...LOL!) Yesssssss!! I'm ready for HAHNS!!! Can't wait..Get down Boogie Oogie Oogie..Roll Call and All that Good Stuff :-) :-) Tyler my birthday was May 16th Would love to get a Happy Birthday Shout Out from you :-) :-) Okkkkk I'm ready to ask you this particular question now :-) :-) I was advised by a sweet older lady who was very polite(I don't want to disclose her name publicly that there is no public tour with TPS) but Tyler when you own it you can do whatever you want to do with it right???? (smile) I would like to know if my family and I can tour TPS? I know that this question may be out of this world but in all honesty I'm asking by faith if we can tour your studio and meet you as well. It would be from all different ages from the young to the old...Tyler, Lawd I know you probably saying she has lost her "Last Good Sense" The Bible says you have not because you ask not...My momma and my dad would love to come to :-) It would be about 35 to 40 of us that includes grandchildren, great grandchildren...How can you let me know if you say "Yessss" LOL!! This would make our hearts glad as well...With God all things are possible!!! We can charter a bus expenses paid on us Okkkkkk :-) :-) I Thank You in Advance with your 'Tall and Handsome Self" I'm looking forward to hearing from you soon God Bless!! Ms. Proverbs

  • Coralia Wolfe Osage Beach, Mo

    Good Morning and blessed day for all!!! I could not agree with you more ... our children and all the children of the world... who had been us at one past time and continue to be until we returne to our Father in Heaven and for ever... But those that come into this world and are in their early lifes...have been placed in our lifes...as a blessing to teach us... if we diligently seek our Father's wisdom in prayer we will begin to understand the purpose of this life... while taking care of my children as they grew up... I realized... that all this time that I thought I was teaching them...they were teaching me as well...but the most amazing thing is the realization... That yes... this are my children ...and any children of this world are my children...but they are God's children as well... and I am responsible to returned HOME with them...How can I do this ... Like you said... we need to cut with the transgenerational cicle...( in reverse) and guide and lead with prayer and love... let us seek the wisdom that lies within the margins of His love... I wish I new this...before my children were born...I had to suffer my parents ignorance, and those that helped rear me as well...without leaving society behind...we are all in this together... but... we have choices...and I can not blame others for what I lack...because I can change it...ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH HIM... Today I am blessed with 3 amazing children and grand children...and we are still learning with one another...standing in love... One thing I can say is that evil can make you believe that spanking is good... but I am here to testify to you... that we do not have to spank... for a child to respect and choose right... I unite my prayer to yours...and pray that we may be fast to seek in prayer... wisdom and the love necessary to lead and guide our children (all) before we raise our hands and voices to harm them...so that when time is due... and our Father in Heaven ask us: Where are my children that I placed under your responsibility... You can answer:... Here we are ... and I loved and guide them just like you have with me...SAFE AT HOME... in the name of Jesus Christ, AMEN

  • Patina Wisconsin

    Thank you for the beautiful pray. I do not have any kids. But I do have a godson and a goddaughter. Their are both teenagers now. One again thank you for the beautiful pray.

  • charles wood sr marshall, il

    Mr. Perry, I just wanted to let you know how much my family and I enjoy watching your shows. And I personally have found that in all your programs that there is a message of hope and love. You are a truly blessed and caring person when it comes to family, especially the children. May God bless you in all your future endeavors.


    Oh yes, how true are those words, because the day will come when the one who birthed you is in a place of eternal rest. The visits are now shrouded under a vast vault of silence. Your eyes slowly trace carefully the selected etched words, "Beloved Mother" above her name. Now, only the eternal heart is speaking beyond the earthly barrier that holds the one who carried and cared for you first. The road was bumpy sometimes, but I would not be standing here today if not for you. Please know, that I know you did the best you could.

  • VLM Covington, GA

    Hello Mr. Perry!! Thank you for the Prayer! I am sure you will be a wonderful Father one day! I wish this message would get across to my 4 month old Sons father. We haven't really spoken since I was 7 months pregnant, he wasn't there for the birth, and he still haven't seen him face to face to this day. I have been sending his father a picture of his precious baby boy that looks just like him, but he does not respond. He is not in the best of health right now, so one would think he would do right by his kids, however he still denies him. I often down myself for choosing this man, and subjecting my son to a fatherless world, however, I'm realizing that maybe God sent this man in my life for just that reason, for me to birth my only Son, for he is truly a blessing and brings me so much joy. Have a Blessed Day Tyler Perry!!! Thank you for all that you do!!