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We Can Do Better!

A couple of days ago a storm came through here that was crazy. I’ve never seen that much hail and rain.  It reminded me of when I was living in my old house. Every time there was a bad storm I had to go through some major things to get the lights back on in the house. One time there was a storm so bad that lightning hit the house and all the power went out. I looked across the street and my neighbor had power, so I knew the problem was just in my house.

Stay with me, I’m going somewhere here…

I knew I had to get to the circuit breaker to fix what was going on. Now, in my old house, the breaker box was in the attic, and in order to get to it I had to climb a ladder, go up a flight of stairs and then climb over an air conditioning unit, all the while trying to not step through the ceiling joist or I would go straight through the sheet rock. And imagine trying to do all of this in the dark. But I had to do it if I wanted lights on in my house.

I got to the breaker box and started turning the breakers back on. For those of you who are not up on your DIY (do it yourself, LOL), the circuit breakers protect the house from further damage by turning themselves off if they get too much power or pull too much power to them.

As I was thinking about this yesterday I started thinking about us as people, as souls... me, you and any other human on this planet. What is common about us all is that we all, at one time or another, will go through or have been through a storm, and sometimes the storms are so bad that they turn off circuit breakers in our lives. We can look at others who have gone through the same storm and they are fine, like my neighbor across the street. They had power, but I was in the dark. Same storm, but it affected me differently. Many people can have the same experience and get over it but it affects each of us differently. Never let someone tell you to just get over it because they did. It’s not that simple.

When circuit breakers shut down in our lives they usually turn off to protect us from trauma, but just because they turn off doesn’t mean that they are supposed to stay off. A lot of times we leave them off because we don’t want to do all that is necessary to reach the breaker box to turn them back on. So what happens? We begin to live a life that is not as bright and fulfilling as it was originally designed to be. You just stay in the dark because it’s easier to not go through what you need to go through for healing. Trust me, I’ve been there, lived there for a while until I realized that I wanted all the lights on in my soul. I had to get these breakers back on.

Why am I saying this to you? Well I know that God designed all of us to live the fullest life that we can, to live in the light, love and joy. It is my hope and prayer today that you will start to do the work to turn on some of the breakers that may have been turned off in your life by difficult moments. What do I mean by that? If you have a dream and you stopped dreaming because it got too hard, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on. If you decided that you wouldn’t love anyone else because you’ve been hurt, that’s a breaker that’s been turned off. Turn it back on. If you have decided to give up on life because nothing seems to go right, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on. If you have given up on your kids because they won’t do the right thing, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on.

You see what I mean? Go through your life and look at all the people who have hurt you. Look at all the situations that have left you in the dark. Turn those breakers back on. Live in a full house. One of my favorite scriptures says, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father, which is in heaven.”  Light up your soul!


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  • Margaret Atlanta

    Tyler I just read your post, probably 20 years to late. I have set in the dark for so long I don't know if the line is still plausible. But I fully agree with everything you said. Something died, you can get power if you do not open up your heart. I was married for 24 years the first time, I spare you the details. I married again for 19 years and my husband was diagnosed with brain cancer. He died about 2 years and 6 months later. But for all the pain I received two precious sons (ministers) one is an EMT and 2 special daughter in laws and 5 granddaughters and just now a precious grandson. Sometimes we become so fearful of the outcome we forget to look at what we gained. Great reminder of how precious our storms are, and why they come.

  • Bianca Colfax, Louisiana

    Mr. Perry! You and your words are so inspirational! I am 32 years old and a mother of five beautiful kids! My situation that I am going through right now is very very stressful. So I come to your site to read your thoughts and it makes me feel better. My kids father use to abuse me when we were together, we've been separated now for about five years. But about two years ago, he started doing crystal meth and it messed him up pretty bad! His mind is not good at all! But I'm the only one who helps him, feeds him and make sure that he has food! But I am engaged now and it's kind of driving a wedge between my fiancé and I! But he use to be a good father to the kids and now they're pretty messed up because he shows no emotion towards them when I take them to see him! He's confused about what's going on with himself! I feel like I have this big huge weight on my shoulders and I feel like I'd I could get him the proper help that he needs, then I could go on with my life! Now my house has been foreclosed and now I'm looking for a place for me and my kids to stay!! I'm trying to be strong and take care of everybody and their needs, but I feel like breaking down!! I'm tired! Please please Mr Perry , tell me what to do! I pray daily!! Bianca

  • Belinda New Haven, CT

    I loved this story, but then again, I love all of your stories. It's funny that I am reading this today and it is reminding me of a conversation that I had with my mother's Pastor right after she passed (12/23/2012). I was very angry with my mother for dying for I felt like she was abandoning me yet again. You see, I wanted some answers and understanding from her before she died and could/did not get them therefore, leaving me angry, bitter and hurt; but it was the words of her Pastor that made me see that she was so hurt from the choices that she made in life, when it came to me and her, that once, as you have so wisdomly (if that's a word...lrl) put it, that light went out, she left it out because it was easier for her to deal with than to face the realities of the light being on. So thank you for this, as it was confirmation for my understanding. Keep encouraging, as I hope something I/someone else have said has encouraged you. Belinda

  • Brite-I Oregon via the South

    WOW.. I have been coming here to your site for years, and through its expansion I have found myself lost in the words. Yet today I found myself coming for a particular reason, I needed to hear some specific words.. I feel as though I am in the silence of the very monent in which all of the power is silent just prior to turning the switch on. This is a moment inwhich I can feel a lump in the pit of my stomach wondering of my level of emergence. Was there yet a moment with you that was defined as the point in which the power was turned on. Is there a defining moment ? Does time catch up to this space? May the light ignite quickly and take my apprehension away.. May you be blessed in all that to do..

  • M.H

    I'm so happy! Amazing people have been really uplifting my spirits. I have so much to say but I'm not. What I will say is that Jesus is helping me to love and understand myself. Because if I don't know who I am ,then, How can I get somebody else to know me? You are so special and I love all that you do for the broken Heart People that are out here. May you be and stay BLESSED,AMERICAN.PERRY ;)

  • ShaNee Duluth

    WoW! Thank You...You don't know how much I needed to read that today.

  • tiffany kadri harrisburg pa

    I love this comment it's so true for my life and I had to move things around in my life to turn the lights back on thank god for grace and mercy to give me strength to see my solution.

  • jl

    I wish it was that easy; you got your breaks, and you think it is that easy for everyone.

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  • MB North Carolina

    You are definitely "gifted" from above. Your words resonated through to my inner soul. Some of my most precious "power" or "breakers" have been turned off. No juice is flowing, and the "food" is in danger of being spoiled. In that condition, it provides no nutrition, and there will be "suffering" in one respect or another. As we speak, I am flipping the switch in my mind, and I can feel the heat begin to rise in my spirit. "Sparks" are flying as the "wiring" begins to be come alive again. Thank you for the DIY inspiration!

  • !!!!!!! Houston Tx

    I use to say that after I was hurt I don't want another man or anyone around me ever again....I can do bad by myself....In a since i do still believe that is true.... But now I'm all about HAPPINESS!!! If we're not happy then what's the use of having a relationship...That's the key ingredient to the LOVE and LOVE MAKING...So, i feel like if I'm doing everything in my power to keep you happy and it still isn't working for you, and your still having to cheat to get pleasure or to get that happiness, then we need to go our separate ways...There isn't anything there any more...Why hang on to something that's dead let it go... Save on the pain for the future and the heartache of the children if they are present...So Life goes on,even though the marriage didn't...I would rather hold on to a friendship than marriage anytime especially a friendship that has been a lifetime thing....But on the other hand i would rather grow with someone I don't know, and fall in love with the experiences and challenges of someone new. Before starting over with someone you know that will take you for granted and assume you will always be there...

  • Vanessa United States

    This so true. Thank you for the encouragement. I have been hurt and am feeling this same way. Like I want to leave the lights off and never even go to the breaker box ever. I have thought of doing crazy things that are not even in my character. I have had friends to talk to me, and truly it has went into one ear and right out of the other. Not really trying to hear what they are saying, just because they haven't gone through what I am going through right now. Yes, I have made some choices that I am not proud of, but what you have wrote is just confirmation of what I have been told before. As far as a relationship, I really don't want to be in one no time soon. I just solicit your prayers that one day when God sends me my BOAZ, I won't run him away. That God will heal my heart and allow me to love again. But for right now, I have myself, my dad, my daughter and school to focus on. And I do believe with Christ 1st in my life, I will overcome some day. Thanks for sharing this with me. Be Blessed! Vanessa

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