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What Kind of Person Are You?

I said this in a play once as Madea... LOL. But I thought I'd revisit it as Tyler for those of you who may not have heard it :-)

I have this tree analogy when I think of people in my life, be it friends, family, acquaintances, employees, co-workers, whomever...They are all placed inside what I call my tree test. It goes like this:

Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can't be angry at them, it's just who they are.

There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it's possible that you could lose them. Most times they break away when it's tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can't handle too much weight. But again, you can't be mad with them, it's just who they are.

If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don't let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.

Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots. Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people's lives?

THANK GOD FOR YOUR ROOTS! You may want to call them today or share this message with them and attach your own note saying, "thanks for being my root".

By the way, don't waste your time sending this to a leaf, they won't get it anyway.

Love you,


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  • Stephanie Lee-Mckenzie Chicago, IL

    Ty, it is divine intervention that I get your messages at the RIGHT TIME. Truly a constant reminder of the need to always do a "Self Check". Thanks for the "Words of Encouragement" and I will be awaiting a response about your first play "I Know I Have Been Changed" (Is the play available to order?). Peace and Love, Steph (The "Root" Type, lol)

  • renee Cleveland ohio

    I remember this from your movie wrote it down as one of my favorites to reflect on. Thank you for posting it this way. It is so true.

  • Evone Tallahassee, Fl

    Hey, I got it. I hope you received my other massage. I'm. still trying learn this new phone. LOL. Stay blessed. Later for now. Evone

  • southern comfort montana

    You truly inspire, I would like to think I'm a root but truth be told I have been all three at some point in my life. Thats what growing in the word and becoming a parent does for you though,you see where you have been and reconize others who have been there, finding truth and laughter and grace in the things that have happened,and then passing on the good to the next young adults and attempting to elimanate some of the bad. God Bless you, you inspire me and bring truth and laughter to our lives.My roots run deep,my branches have swings,and my leaves tend to grow back when the wind stops blowing in the fall which is good I love spring!! Now what do we do about the moss?? LOL

  • Kim Waters Raytown, MO

    This is awesome and spurred me to think who am I in my friends lives. Most of the time I ama root but I have also been a branch when I felt overwhelmed by my own circumstances. Something to always keep in mind. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • Mychelle portland oregon

    Tyler, Iwas just telling my daughter this the other night she had just confided in me that she was having suicidal thoughts and she was not understanding her friendships, life etc. As we layed there talking and crying you play came to mind when you explain how people come into you life, I used you analogy and she started to understand, thank you so much it really helps not only me but my family.. God Bless you and thank you

  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    Let me put this experience in plain terms, simple terms: you know the older ppl would say, I brought you into this world & I'll take you out? Well, the devil is d*** lie! I didn't bring my son/sons in this world & I won't be taking them out. Yes, they both came thru my womb AND GOD saw FIT for my to raise them up. Why? I REALLY REALLY DON'T KNOW! Lol...lol...lol... I'm waiting to see for myself! :-) But what I will tell u is I love them & I appreciate God for being God. He KNOWS BEST, AND HE ALWAYS KNOW WHAT'S BEST FOR ME. I ain't close to perfect but I love my sons & my sons love me. :-) Yes, they get on my nerve, last nerve & first nerve to but I thank God He has not allowed me to harm my children as I have heard others to do. All I want for them is the best. Nothing else will do! To God be all the glory....Hallelujah JESUS!!!! HALLELUJAH, YOU SO GOOD! :-) LOL...

  • Evangelist Corean Walker Marion,IN.

    Tyler, This message ~What Kind of Person are You?~ just gave me comfirmation to a message that Apostle Glen Prince preached at my 60th. birthday celebration. He said that God have given him the message for himself and he began to ask God what to speak to me and God said what, I gave you for yourself. He talked about the different types of friends we have in our lives hea spoke on the contingent friend, the confidant, the comrade. and he began to explain them all and he said, I only need the confidant friend in my life. he said some people are like the leaves, the branches and some who are confidants have the roots. I just wanted to sahre that with you. Please let me knw that you have read this message when you have time from your busy schedule. Evangelist Corean Walker

  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    It's 8:45A.M. this morning I'm in the car on the way to drop my oldest son off to school. I get a phn call in the middle of my song, its my youngest son(6th grade, 1st few weeks in Middle school) school calling. Keep in mind I dropped him off at his bus pick up for 6:45 A.M. :-) And on speaker she says, he has been in a fight on the bus over some ear phones another male must have pulled his earphones out his ear or something & all the bus driver saw was licks. 3days suspension from school. Did I mention to you this child is accepted into a Law Academy Junior High, I didn't say College, I said Junior High Law Academy. Let me also not leave out that this same son has been one of my biggest challenges every since he entered this world. I'm not even mad today. I'm not hurt, I'm not angry, I'm not even upset! Why? Cause this too shall PASS! I have my reasons for saying this & also seeing it this way. The Principal asked did I wanna come pick him up or just let it start as of tmrrw? This school year is a better year from all previous years, I believe that, already. If u only knew how long & how many days & years I have had to rush to school after getting a phn call. That feeling alone was terrible, hurting, scary, unhealthy. The devil was unaware of the fact that I released that burden, and all the torment that came along with that burden, I dropped it & just let it go. So, as my oldest son & I have gotten this call(on speakers/hands-free) we continue on both in silence. At the same time I couldn't wait to get back here to share this experience with you, TylerP, & what do u know its seconds later & its TylerPerry, the notifications reads, TylerPerry, what kind of person are you. You see Tyler, if the enemy could have taken my son out or me out, he would have done it by now cause its been a ongoing fight since he was an infant. Enough for right now....just know IT'S ALL GOOD! :-) And this TOO shall pass. I wonder what he was put here to do & what's so incredibly special about him. Well, we must wait & see! :-) Oh yeah, thank you for being so rooted! (Big SMILE to you!) You are outstanding & we love you too! I was hoping & trying to wait to your b-day to say, We Love You! :) lol... You're the best & believe me you are the real game changer!!! Yes, you are & don't you ever forget that.

  • Dream

    I will have to read this over and over so I may see all the pearls of wisdom it holds. Nicely said @Tyler

  • Francine Patterson Boston, Massachusetts

    It's was strange you would write a message: What kind of person you are? Well I wrote a poem for my grandchildren. "I am your Tree" For every leaf that grow, it's a grandchild for me . "I am your tree". The roots that grow on your tree are my veins, the branches that grow on your tree are my bones and the water that flows through your tree will be my blood. "I am your Tree" For every spring you're born, for every summer you're strong, for every fall you will change, for every winter your are gone. "I am your Tree" No matter how big, small, strong or weak each leaf is a part of me. "I am your Tree" For every sun that shine, I will give you love, for every wind that blow, I will give you strength, for every rain that drop that falls, I will give you shelter, for every night that darkens I will give you comfort. "I am your Tree". For every leaf that grows on me is a precious grandchild for me. " I am your Tree" For all my loving grandchildren, this was truly written by your Nana Francine Patterson To answer your question "What kind of person are you. I would say I'm the whole tree.

  • Ty Virginia

    Hi It is 10:15 am right now. I was actually looking at my emails when your email came through. People similar to trees? Interesting. Well, I'm not a leaf. If I was a branch, I would have given up a long time ago considering what I deal with. I am definitely a root. I credit Jesus and my mother who brought me up to love and fear only God. If it wasn't for the Holy Spirit comforting me through very tough times, I would have quit. Not only that, the word of God is in my heart. I have had to speak life at dark times. That is not easy to do. I believe that hope comes from God. God is the "true vine" according to John 15:1-7. Knowing that God is always there gives me the ability to withstand pretty much anything. I have known the Lord since I was a child. God has never left me. That is why I trust him with my life. I'm thankful for all my "root" family and friends! I still appreciate my leaves and branch too. :-)

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