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What Kind of Person Are You?

I said this in a play once as Madea... LOL. But I thought I'd revisit it as Tyler for those of you who may not have heard it :-)

I have this tree analogy when I think of people in my life, be it friends, family, acquaintances, employees, co-workers, whomever...They are all placed inside what I call my tree test. It goes like this:

Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can't be angry at them, it's just who they are.

There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it's possible that you could lose them. Most times they break away when it's tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can't handle too much weight. But again, you can't be mad with them, it's just who they are.

If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don't let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.

Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots. Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people's lives?

THANK GOD FOR YOUR ROOTS! You may want to call them today or share this message with them and attach your own note saying, "thanks for being my root".

By the way, don't waste your time sending this to a leaf, they won't get it anyway.

Love you,


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  • Rev. Edna B. Simpson Teneck, NJ 07666

    Mr. Tyler: This is a continuation of my earlier comment: "Sometimes this person dies or walks away. Sometimes their behavior forces you to take a stand. What we must realize, is our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you prayed have answered, and now is the time to move forward. The SEASON person is just as your BRANCH person, and Don't you know the real LIFETIME persons, they come to stay through thick or thin...' Blessings, EBS

  • Rev. Edna B. Simpson Teneck, NJ 07666

    Hello Mr. Tyler: Greetings. I like your leaf, branch and root comment. I have one that has been a guide and a microscope for me: Some people are in your life for a reason, or a season and some for a life time: If you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. For the REASON: it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you have expressed. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring this relationship to an end.

  • George Koshy Bangalore,India

    Thank God for the Roots. Also thank God for those leaves and branches.

  • Sha1lovely Opelika, Alabama

    I love to recieve your messages, they are always timely and full of wisdom. Thank you for all you do Mr. Perry. A true light in a dark world.

  • Angela C Asheville, NC

    I always share the message of the leaf, branch, and root with my "true" friend who has been "my root" for over ten years now. She has always had my back through the good times and the bad times. No matter when I call on her she's always been there a"genuine"who cares and keeps it real. I thank the Lord everyday for her friendship. She's my BFF, and my sister in Christ. As I'm typing this message to you I'm tearing up because I never had any "true" friends in my life who accepts me for who I am and not trying to mold me into the person she wants me to be. She always share the word of God with me to keep me lifted and inspired. I know for a fact that the Lord has something in the wings for her being a blessing to me as well as those who truly cares about her. I pray that she will continue to be a blessing those she continues to touch in life. I thank you Tyler, for this beautiful message, I find myself viewing this on my "legitimate" copy of "Madea Goes the Jail," because of this message of shared with Sonny in the play. Thank Tyler, continue to bless us "your fans" with your inspiring messages. "Keep the Faith, and God Bless.

  • Marian MD, USA

    Hello TeaPea, Another year old! Wow! Somebody's getting OLD and it ain't me!! Forty three years on this earth. What a blessing it is! What kind of name have you made for yourself, especially with our Creator? (Ecclesiastes 7:1) That's what's most important. Have a beautiful day Tyler. You possess what most of us only wish/dream about, so enjoy it. Love ya and sending you a BIG hug, your sister M.

  • Betty Baltimore

    My spouse purchased and received the tickets for the Madera gets a job. Needless, to say I was surprise when he share with me the surprise he had accomplished this without a nudge from me. However, today he received the email stating the show was canceled. Bursting his bubble to say the least. The amount he paid for two tickets was, grab hold of the chair $308.00. He later commented that even though he will get a refund the only winners are the credit cards companies who will gain the percentage of using the credit cards for these purchurses. It is unfortunate that we live in a world that is comprise of persons who are selfish rather greedy. But they will miss their blessing. As best put by my mother " A cow will need the tail to fan the flies more than during the summer time." Best wishes Mr. Perry in all of your future endeavors

  • TruEnddeed Baltimore

    Hello Mr.Madea lol my Life is like yours once was Living.I think that your very funny,smart and intelligent.Keep hope Alive and us Black folk laughing.My goal is to learned what you learned and much more.Happy Success.

  • Roz Intl Passport User

    I'm a Root but Lord knows when it comes to dating I keep running into leaves and branches..On the flip side I have a few Roots that are my Ride or Die People and man do I LOVE them soooo much :)

  • Thandeka South Africa, Port Elizabeth

    Whoooww it is so amazing how your creative mind works. This "analogy" just made things easier to understand, especially the people we welcome into our lives. I would like to think I am the root in every relationship I involve myself into. Even though it is very hard to accept the fact that, there are just those who come into our lives with different agenda, good, bad and even ugly, but the bottom line, I must learn how to accept their characters, i.e. who they are for real and their purpose for our paths to cross. The Bible is teaching us that, we don't fight against flesh and blood but against the evil principalities spirits. Therefore, it will be easier for me to understand the "leaf" and "branches" that has come into my life, whether they are left bruses or new buds that will blossom leaves again, at the end of the day, that who they want to live their lives.

  • Debra MS

    I just got rid of a branch in my life. Now my stress level has greatly improve and i finally have a peace of mind. Thanks Tyler for putting things in prospective, i never really thought of it that way until now....its always good to have another brain working with positive thoughts besides mine...lol!

  • Jessie Ypsilanti, MI

    I just explained this theory to a friend the other day on the phone. From the movie. And then I open up my email to read what we just talked about. Very timely, very relevant. Very true. It helped me make more sense of the world when I first heard it out of Madea's mouth, and it helps to re visit it today also. Thank you for posting/emailing this. <3

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