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What Kind of Person Are You?

I said this in a play once as Madea... LOL. But I thought I'd revisit it as Tyler for those of you who may not have heard it :-)

I have this tree analogy when I think of people in my life, be it friends, family, acquaintances, employees, co-workers, whomever...They are all placed inside what I call my tree test. It goes like this:

Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can't be angry at them, it's just who they are.

There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it's possible that you could lose them. Most times they break away when it's tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can't handle too much weight. But again, you can't be mad with them, it's just who they are.

If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don't let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.

Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots. Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people's lives?

THANK GOD FOR YOUR ROOTS! You may want to call them today or share this message with them and attach your own note saying, "thanks for being my root".

By the way, don't waste your time sending this to a leaf, they won't get it anyway.

Love you,


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  • Priscilla Georgia

    When I finished reading this, it made me think about the family tree, and how that every family knows what is on their tree. I have recently learned to love the ones, who's intentions are to take and never give from afar. Thank you for breaking this analogy down in the manner in which you did Mr. Perry. Very helpful

  • Marsha Henry-Lewis Tampa, USA/St. Eliz., Jamaica

    A most interesting analogy. I agree...people are who they are, let them be. While reading, I found myself analyzing my life, trying to associate the people in my life with the different parts of the tree. I soon realized I had alot more leaves than branches and much more than roots. However, when I think of my roots, I feel so blessed because they are really really strong roots. On another side, I could not help but wonder, how do I relate to those leaves who are always expecting me to be their root? Is that fair? Or should I accept this as life?

    • Priscilla Georgia #1742764

      Hi Marsha, I use to have the same problem, but I had to realize that I really don't owe anyone anything, what I do, I do out of love not because they expect me to. My life has been so stress free since I explained my feelings to certain people, family as well. God bless you

  • WISDOM Palm Beach

    Dear Mr. Perry, For Better or Worse was so refreshing! Thank you for trusting God and not compromising your spiritual values within the sitcom, by adding profanity and other subtle negatives. I liked the narrator voice inserts. It was different and helped the shows punch lines and brought attention to details. People like to hear a story read to them. I just loved it! By the way, I've sent you several invites. Please respond

  • Amani Florida

    Hi Tyler... Lol! I feel like I should be calling you Mr. Perry! Anyway this is so so true it amazes me how you can relate so well with everyone else :) I love you and you have helped so many people. Please leave some more video messages! Happy 43rd! You are amazingly talented and your fans ( including me ) are so proud of you! Trees that's brilliant I never looked at it like that wow you are beyond brilliant! Luv u! A fan!

  • Roxanne Roundtree New Castle De

    Love you Tyler Perry everything you do is a blessing. Keep up the good work. Luv Roxie

  • Dee Dee Louisville, KY

    Hey Tyler, I'm glad that you revisited this. This is absolutely one of my favorite parts of that play, actually that entire scene...such words of wisdom. That play has gotten me through many times when people I expected to be there let me down. It brought me laughter and comfort to know that people are what they are and that's all that they may ever be. Lord knows I have had more than enough leaves and branches in my life and it is very easy to get upset when you expect them to be something that they aren't capable of being...at least not in your life. I’m glad that they are no longer a part of my life and I am thankful for the roots who have stuck it out with me through the good and the bad.

  • cynthia nigeria

    You are the bestest tyler,thank God the industry have a man like you,all the way from africa I'd like to let u know you have the largest number of fans in my family,we love and respect you,thumbs up..God is your strenght

  • Sharon Myles 4849 N.E. Killingsworth Apt. B Portland, Oregon 97218

    I am a miracle. GOD has brought me through recurring Cancer since 1994, 5 surgeries, 2 chemotherapy treatments, 2 radiation treatments later, as well as addiction, bringing me to 3 years sobriety October 27th. GOD is GOOD and MIGHTY. ONE DAY AT A TIME I see life for what it truly is, living each day to it's fullest. The photo of you tyler, arms stretched out wide, is the inspiration I receive from you, saying THANK YOU GOD.

  • Debbie Caldwell Talking Rock Ga

    I have so much respect for you and am so Thankful that the industry has special people like you who are not afraid to show your Love for Christ. Blessings to you my Brother in Christ!

  • Bruce Mubanga Kitwe

    Tyler Perry! U are amongst the finest black African Americans in the industry that we look up to! In the past i always used to wonder why the brothers where always cursing? hating and fighting each other.. I mean with all the opportunities they have in comparison to us here in Africa... Well u changed all that now! U give me positivity! Thank you sir! oh! Happy Belated birthday! love you bro! One Love and For Love We live!!!

  • sarah modiba south Africa

    wow very true Mr thank you for the eye opening msg..stay blessed....

  • Teboho South Africa, Mahikeng

    I agree with you, what an excellent analogy, most of us mislead leaves with roots and get angry and hurt when the leave flies away when its tough. May God bless you, you have got such a wisdom

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