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Whitney. Still Praying.

For many years, I couldn’t turn my ringer off on my phones because my mother was very ill.  My phone would be on all night. This is tough for me because I’m the type of man who loves to be in pure quiet when I’m home. No TV, no radio, no nothing. Just quiet. Mainly because there is so much noise in my life.

After my mother died in 2009, I started turning my ringer off without the fear of missing a very important call. After you lose someone you love, nothing seems very important. So I was at my house in L.A. last year on February 11th, dreading facing February 12th. That would have been my mother’s 67th birthday. I’m always a little sad around that time but that morning started out okay. I thought I wouldn’t be able to get through the 12th. All I had to do was protect my spirit, let me just leave the TV off and turn the ringer off so that I could not be reminded of the grief that I had been enduring.

I decided to turn in early. I was getting in the bed and my cell kept lighting up. So I finally looked at my phone and I had text about Whitney. The one that was most shocking was a friend who said, “Tell me it’s not true.” I immediately knew what that meant. I tried to call Pat, her sister-in-law, but couldn’t reach her. Within a few minutes Pat called me back and asked me to come down to the hotel.

I went to the Beverly Hilton Hotel, got out of the car and I thought it was some kind of sick joke. There were hundreds of people standing around, laughing, drinking and screaming for autographs from celebrities as they arrived for a Grammy party. People were screaming my name and taking pictures as I pushed through the crowd. I went up to the floor and saw the police and coroners outside of the room. I went into the room and Whitney’s family was broken down, inconsolable. We must have been right above the party because there was a glass of water on the nightstand that was vibrating from the bass and the screams below. It was so surreal. Such a juxtaposed position to see this family breaking down and hear laughter and cheers from below us. It really made me think about her life. While her voice brought so much joy, there was so much sadness inside of her.

As I am seeing all these tributes to her on this one-year anniversary of her death, I want you to know something: Whitney was a fighter. She really tried to get herself together. She really tried to overcome. She really wanted to, and I also know that, like me, a lot of you were praying and rooting for her. So, for all of us that were praying for Whitney’s full recovery, for all of us who cared that she was on this planet, for all of us who loved her, I just want you to know that even though she is gone, there are still things that we can do for her. We can keep her daughter and her family lifted up in prayer. We can also pray for other people in this business, especially these young people who come in so bright eyed and eager, only to have it tear at their very souls.

I thank God I didn’t become successful until I was older. The younger you are when you start in this business, the more at risk you are.  Speaking of that, we can also pray for the children of these people. If you only knew what people in this business have to endure to sit in their seat. I’m not asking you to feel sorry for anyone. I’m simply asking you to pray for us all.

God bless. Miss you Whitney.

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  • Adeola Ajax, Canada

    Atimes, I feel like asking God why He allows evil overcome good despite our trust in Him and struggles in life to be the kind of person He created us to be. Whitney's memory will remain fresh in those that has gone through life's battle and still trust in God even when it seems all is lost and life does not worth living. At this time, we need to pray and encourage the family to take solace in their God and think more of the lives she positively impacted while alive and even in death. Tyler, keep on doing your good works. Though your mum is no more but God is always there for you. "God will w*** away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall their be anguish (sorrow or mourning) nor grief nor pain anymore. For the old conditions and the former order of things have passed away. ( Rev. 21:4)" Stay blessed.

  • Temi LA-NG

    I pray for her Mama and daughter...May the Spirit of Comfort Keep & Be with them till that Great REUNION....Shalom

  • Shanell Hill Virginia

    Hey Tyler, I just wanted to tell you that this is one of the most heartfelt messages that I've ever read. I too was so very saddened at hearing that Whitney had passed. It took me back to the day Michael left us and my heart was broken yet again. I loved both Michael and Whitney and was an absolute fan no matter what negativety surrounded their professional and personal lives. I prayed earnestly for both of them during their struggles and all the pain that they must of lived in due to their treatment from the very same public that once placed them on unattainable pedestals. Lately though, I have began to thank GOD for taking both Michael and Whitney from this awful earth because I feel like no one can pick on them or hurt them anymore. Their in a better place and your mom is there to give them comfort. We don't always understand why GOD takes our loved ones but we should know that he always has his purpose. Also, we have no idea of what it's like to be the child of a celebrity and should never be malicious in our words towards them. Afterall they've lost what most consider one of GOD's most precious gifts - a parent! GOD Bless you Tyler and tell Bobbi Kris to keep her head up and to never forget to keep GOD 1st.

  • Nedjo

    Thank you Tyler for sharing your thoughts with us. I thank God for people like you who are remimding us that we are our brother's keeper, and praying for the well being of one another is a duty. I will keep praying for you and everyone else in the entertainment industry.... Whitney is surely missed...May God continue to bless you Tyler!

  • Lesa R Texas

    I feel your pain, your hurt, your despair, but I also feel your joy, your hope, and your love. My Mm passed away shortly after yours, Easter, 2010, and like you, I was on call 24/7. Not only by phone but at the hospital, the skilled nursing, the nursing rehab, the long term care, all the way to the very end. I completely burned myself out, but If I had to do it all over again, I would have no doubt. I was so sad all weekend thinking about Whitney, I played two of her last songs over and over, and I heard her final cry, I saw her desperate plea for help, and God came to her rescue. I wrote a special tribute to Whitney. I know you won't mind me sharing it with you & your online family, and if you would please pass it on to Ms. Cissy and Bobbi K. I have it posted on my face book also along with the video "I Look To You" for those who want to share this very special day. God Bless us all. See Next Post for Whitney's special Tribute.

    • Lesa R Texas #1796897

      Sorry all, I think the post was tooooooo long, but please view it on Face Book, Should be open for the public to review, It is so Heart touching.

  • charlene lane st louis, mo

    Hi Tyler, This must be a trying time for you! I have always been told that "prayer is always in order". I pray for everyone and myself , especially in these times that we are in. Sounds like you had a wonderful mother. God bless you! Charlene

  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    Corrections: And it is good that we been afflicted. ... Even though it hurts so bad. :End of corrections. :-) I love you Tyler! And I wouldn't wanna see you gone. So, I try & talk with you each & every day. Just so u know somebody out here. Really don't want a hand out from you. But actually to hold & love you & never let you go. While you have to be in that environment. I don't want it! So, Lord, have mercy Jesus! You quick to say, "ain't nobody got time for that crap!" Hello, what more do u expect? Or did u exoect something different?!! God knows why! Whitney, song a song which says, "if I stay, I'll ONLY be in your way!" Then she left us with, "I look to You!" God knows! And its all good, T! One thing that should show and or remind each of us. People don't give a d*** about someone else above themselves, most times, these days. I can't see, why u think they do! People will use your a$$ up & for all THEY CAN GET & leave u there high & dry. All yall should know that better than anybody! I'm gonna tell u again!!! I don't want it & nor do I need it!!! I know it a lot of unhappy ppl out there. What u think, I'm crazy or something. That's the very reason ppl DONOT IMPRESS ME! Baby, please! They better go somewhere!! I applaud u for being able to stand tall over all these years. And u are the only somebody I'm coming out for. And for you ONLY!!! And I mean you! Not all that other stuff. You!!! Period. Have a good day. And have it your way, Mr Know it all! Just know how everything suppose to go. Good! :-) Fine!

  • Pamela Lancaster,SC

    Tyler thank you for your post.Whitney's death was hard on me,and like so many I only know her through her beautiful music.She feels like family to me and today I'm reliving that day! a year ago. I wanted so bad for her to pull through her struggles.I can only imagine how her actual family feels,especially her daughter.I pray that she surrounds herself with family that will not cater to everything she wants.She needs someone to tell her NO sometimes. GOD is sovereign and is still in control,and HE wants us to draw closer to HIM especially during difficult times as these. Tyler,you keep standing strong.Your Mama is so proud of you as we all are!

  • Ms Krishunda Bingham Philadelphia,Ms

    Whitney will forever live in our hearts through her music.I've listened to her since the age of 8y.o not knowing much about anything she song about but her voice was always loving to hear and now that I'm the tender age of 21y.o its all very clear I love all her music and ever film she ever made i always kept her in my prayers even though i didnt know her personally everyone somewhere always go through ups and down and needs prayer. MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE. Mr.Perry i have supported your films since day one and just wanted to say keep up your good work in every way possible you have help a lot of people out of difficult situations with your films. Hope u have a great day :)

  • Pamela Botwe California

    Blessings my brother, you are such a selfless person, thinking of someone in your time of need, my prayers go out to all of the youthful artist in Hollywood, I pray for them and the older ones to, I have been reading Codex Magica by Texe Marrs, about the Illuminati, it says MANY of the stars have pledge theirs to this secrect order, I am not sure but Lord help us. Tyler I pray that you and Madea are always safe in the masters hand, I lost my mother from Cancer in 2010, I thank God everyday for the 61 years of my life that the Lord allowed me to ne in this awesome womens presence, me as yourself did all that I could for my Mother while she was here, so now I miss her but when her anniversary comes I spend time remembering pleasant thoughts. Keep your phone on, you do not have to always answer, but it may be the call of encouragement that you may need during your time of need. Love ya my brother:)

  • Stormy Massachusetts

    Tyler Perry, This has to be double hard for you, losing Whitney, your friend the day before your mom's birthday. I always keep the Houston family in my prayers. They are so divided. I can only pray that God brings them through it & to each other again. God bless you for all you have done & still do. Whitney Houston is so missed by her fans. Our love is her love.

  • Onetia Rhode, Island

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. So many times we as fans forget that people are just people and have faults & weaknesses like us. I will continue to lift yours and Ms. Whitney's family in prayer because I'm a believer that prayer changes things.

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