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That Is Your Past And There Is No Future In It

We have some golf carts at the studio. We use them to run around the campus, getting actors from here to there and so on. But the thing that bothers me the most about them is that when you put them into reverse a beeping alarm goes off. And it doesn’t stop until you go forward. It is so annoying to be in the middle of a shot, when I need it very quiet, to hear that beeping noise. I wanted the facilities guys to disconnect the reverse alarm but I was told that they couldn’t because it is a safety measure. The alarm is there to let people know that you’re about to go backwards.

I walked back to my office thinking about this and this thought popped into my head: wouldn’t it be great if we as humans had an annoying alarm that made a loud continuous beep when we are about to go into reverse? When we’re about to look back, like when you’re about to pick up that phone and call an ex that you know is no good for you, wouldn’t it be great if that alarm went on and stayed on until you hung up the phone? Wouldn’t it be great for all the people around you to hear that alarm so that they know you are about to go backwards and bring up some old crap? I think husbands and boyfriends would love that… LOL.

But seriously, there are a lot of people who are living their lives stuck in reverse, alarms going off, beeps beeping very loudly, but they can't get it out of reverse. You know these kinds of people, the ones that nobody wants to be around because they can be so annoying, always dwelling on the past. Full of “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I could have done that”. These kinds of people are sad to me, not focusing on the beauty of today, they’d rather dig through the ashes of yesterday. Listen to me, you can’t change anything that you have done in your past, all you can do is go forward. No matter how many mistakes you have made, no matter how many things you have done wrong, you have got to move forward. That is your past and there is no future in it.

And the only way to move forward is to ask for forgiveness from the people who you have hurt and wronged. Whether they forgive you or not you must ask… sorry that’s just the way it is. If you don’t you will continue to reap bad things from what you have done to them, even if they don’t forgive you. You will have the power to be free because you asked for forgiveness. And secondly, you must forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the key that can move your life forward… and turn off the reverse alarm.


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  • M.H

    I'm so sad! What to do now. Kiss the child and say " At least I tried". Hake No! I'm gonna climb this mountain!!!!!!! I AM SOMEBODY!!!

  • Rachael Ada Dennis Nigeria

    you are a blessing to our generation and God bless you real good. love this piece

  • gertrude zambia

    I thank God for you.

  • Martrica Williams greensboro,nc

    I just wont to say i am a single mamá with two with sweet kids we love all Tyler Perry shows movies and evevrthing he do it help me get though the Night ir have to rasin my kids along help me be a better person to let ny kids know u can do anything u wont if u belive in god ever Night we Look at one of ur shows befor bed i wont to say thank u so much

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  • Kandalyn Shreveport, La

    You are awesome.

  • Pamela Fitzgerald Powder Springs, GA

    Admiration from a distance without knowing you personally...watched the OWN interview and thought how great it was for you to help out a friend, when you could have easily taken the opportunity to go in your own direction. We are all here for a purpose. The messages that you convey in your work is very powerful. It is amazing to me that people will find a negative in a powerful message, when only good was the intention. But no matter what you do or say period some people will always have a negative opinion or they feel entitled to have a say. Well I have said enough, take care...

  • Danita Pines Aurora, IL

    Thank you for this message. I needed to read this at this point in my life. I felt myself going to backwards, but with this sound analogy of the golf cart. It had me think about the loud noise in my spirit called the Holy Ghost that tells me NO!!!! I need to listen to that voice and that will continue to guide my foot steps. Thank You again.

  • lovableme knoxville,TN 37915

    I dont know how to forgive this man for the things he did. I thought I got over it but I realize I really haven't. its hard to do. how do I forgive him and move on? please help me.

  • Tanisha Kennedy Youngstown, Ohio

    LOL, You are a clown Tyler, you just made me laugh and cry. I was just talking about that annoying beeping sound the other day at Sam's Club, I sprained my foot and had to use one of those mobile carts lol, I couldn't stand that beeping sound. But yes I wish we did have a built-in beeper, that was a good one.


    "Whether they forgive you or not you must ask." That statement found me at a time in my life I can honestly say is just the right time. After they don't forgive me, I still must move forward regardless. I must accept it and wait.

  • Guilaine Brooklyn

    Your words are the true meaning of natural beauty Your actions is like a angel sent down to earth You are the voice, now today & eternity I love you because your real I love you because you are the truth.

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