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That Is Your Past And There Is No Future In It

We have some golf carts at the studio. We use them to run around the campus, getting actors from here to there and so on. But the thing that bothers me the most about them is that when you put them into reverse a beeping alarm goes off. And it doesn’t stop until you go forward. It is so annoying to be in the middle of a shot, when I need it very quiet, to hear that beeping noise. I wanted the facilities guys to disconnect the reverse alarm but I was told that they couldn’t because it is a safety measure. The alarm is there to let people know that you’re about to go backwards.

I walked back to my office thinking about this and this thought popped into my head: wouldn’t it be great if we as humans had an annoying alarm that made a loud continuous beep when we are about to go into reverse? When we’re about to look back, like when you’re about to pick up that phone and call an ex that you know is no good for you, wouldn’t it be great if that alarm went on and stayed on until you hung up the phone? Wouldn’t it be great for all the people around you to hear that alarm so that they know you are about to go backwards and bring up some old crap? I think husbands and boyfriends would love that… LOL.

But seriously, there are a lot of people who are living their lives stuck in reverse, alarms going off, beeps beeping very loudly, but they can't get it out of reverse. You know these kinds of people, the ones that nobody wants to be around because they can be so annoying, always dwelling on the past. Full of “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I could have done that”. These kinds of people are sad to me, not focusing on the beauty of today, they’d rather dig through the ashes of yesterday. Listen to me, you can’t change anything that you have done in your past, all you can do is go forward. No matter how many mistakes you have made, no matter how many things you have done wrong, you have got to move forward. That is your past and there is no future in it.

And the only way to move forward is to ask for forgiveness from the people who you have hurt and wronged. Whether they forgive you or not you must ask… sorry that’s just the way it is. If you don’t you will continue to reap bad things from what you have done to them, even if they don’t forgive you. You will have the power to be free because you asked for forgiveness. And secondly, you must forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the key that can move your life forward… and turn off the reverse alarm.

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  • peter south africa midrand

    im inspired to go forward and face the future by this post

  • Veronica Clement Somewhere USA

    Good morning Tyler, I Love this message and I must say that I have been there and understand what you mean. I myself used to hear a banging at the door and for a long time I didn't understand what it meant but I won't go any further as I will save the rest for my book, in fact, that will be a book by itself. I will say this though, I fight looking back on a daily basis. What I have learned to do is as soon as I start looking back and having negative thoughts, I immediately start thinking about Love which is a powerful source and is positive and I send Love to those who have hurt me and to those I have hurt, it helps me to overcome daily. I mean it really helps me conquer looking back. I would Love to get together with you and may do a project after I finish writing about it, you can give me some feed back on it. Next I wanted to know if you would like to invest in my future and help make my dreams come true. I want to know if would like to purchase a new laptop for me, which will help me since my laptop is so old and I cannot afford a new one. Also my son's dream has always been to be a movie director, dating back to when he was about 5, he is now about to turn 20 years old and I would Love if he could work with you under some type of internship. He is highly intelligent and I already know that he is going to be big, I will see him one day on the Academy Awards show and his name in lights for the many movies he is already in the process of writing. You can send the Laptop to 160 Mark Randy Place Apt 208, Modesto California 95350 I trust that this information will not show up once I post the comment. I am sure that no matter what, my son, has a bright and prosperous future ahead of him. Since you already have the phone number, I won't leave it and look forward to one day meeting you and hopefully working with you. I am a writer but only God knows if I will one day be a director as well. One thing is for certain, my son is a future film maker.

  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    :-) LOL!! :-) Forgive me! For what? This.... LOL!!! :-) Good Morning Tyler, & thanks! :-) And you know what, too? I also, think wives & girlfriends would like this, too! LOL!!! Smile!! You already know I had to say something to you. :-) ok, have a good day, Tyler!! :o !!!! Oh, and I forgive you, too! :-)

  • Shay Saint Paul, MN

    That is soo true. I find myself wanting to go backwords and when I do end up asking "why did I just doing that, knowing I shouldn't have?" A persons having a consious is almost like having that! beeping sound. Well put Mr. Perry!

  • Candace Shepherd South Bend, IN

    It’s amazing that you mentioned going in reverse in life because I had been recently tempted to go back to my ex-boyfriend and I had to stop and wake-up. I thank God for Facebook (LOL)…well, more for the ability to type messages to others. Recently I heard the loud beeping from my actions when I attempted to contact my ex-. But, when I chose to re-read my last conversations with him, I was able to see very clearly the direction that he was going in compared to the direction that I am going in. God used my past conversations to help me! All the Christian advice that I’d sent to him over time became the words that kept me from going backwards. This helped me to keep my life-transmission in drive and even encouraged me to press the accelerator a little more as well. Tyler…Mr. Perry…thank you for the confirmation, for the words of encouragement, and for the vote of confidence. With Love, Candace.

  • Josephine Kampala

    Thank you for these words of wisdom. Merci beaucoup.

  • Robinson

    Hello Mr. Perry. Thank you for your message today. It is just what I needed to hear in order to move forward, often times you get stuck running in circles and not getting your way out because that alarm never goes off. Have a great day, God bless!

  • James Patterson Chicago

    I have been constantly reminded of my past when I was dating my wife. I have moved on, never repeat the mistakes of the past but somehow it is what had been the main issue in my marriage, being reminded of what happened during the time we were dating. Mistakes and transgressions being happen during our marriage and are being justified just because of what happened almost 7 years ago. Now, did they happened yes, but years ago. I have forgive myself and her for the current pain we are going through but somehow it is still the reasoning behind her transgressions. Soon, she will be that past that I will not look backwards for and by that time she will realize what she had lost just being for being stuck in the past.

  • Pris West Point, Ga

    Tyler, Oh my God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is exactly what I needed at this exact moment! I awoke only to log onto my email at the exact time you sent this. Wow!!! Your post continue to encourge me daily and always seem to be exactly what I need. I love how you think and let God use you in everything you say and do. This past six months have been my darkest days, but you have lifted my spirits and given me the strength to press on and not look back. Thank you for ALL you do, I know you make your mom so proud!!! Lol P.S. I won't be calling my ex!!!!!!!! Love to you and I hope you have a great day!!!!

  • Misty Austin, TX

    I had no idea where you were going with the golf cart. However, I was curious so I kept reading. Thank God I kept reading because there was definitely an Oprah AHA Moment. I will forever hear that beeping noise in my head every time I try to justify the good in something/someone that I know is toxic to my health. It reminds me of Maya Angelou's comment to Oprah...paraphrased..."When something or someone shows you who they really are, BELIEVE THEM!"....beep...beep...beep...beep...beeeeeeeeeeeeeeep!

  • Temi LA-NG

    that will be nice really... IF we get an alarm that beeps like that for humans...we sure wont make stupid mistakes when in any pity party mood.... I guess .. it just affirms what Paul wrote... the invisible and visible things speaks to us of God's desire and intent for Man... imagine how God opened up this analogy just from a reversing golf cart. I have learnt from you and others that Forgiveness is key.. and no HUMAN is worth my peace of mind/advancement....By the way...I think wives and girlfriends would love it more.... LOL ....:) xoxo

  • Elita

    Thank you for the message this morning. I need to read something that so true. I'm having a hard time letting go. I want the person to say sorry for hurting me but, I have to let go. It just drain the life out of you. The tear was running down my face but when I read you message they stop. We sometime don't have people to go and talk to , but God will send a message just when you need it. Thank you Elita

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