My children were always my greatest priority. My ex-wife essentially walked out on all of us. My daughter, the eldest, was in college pursuing a Bachelor's in Health and Nutrition. I was so proud of her. I was raising my son alone. He had behavioral and emotional problems and remained a constant trial for me. He stayed in trouble....a compulsive liar and thief. He has been in prison since he was 18. He is now in a recovery, rehabilitation, and reintegration program called DC-4. Recently he wrote me and told me he was sorry for all the heartache he had caused me. Partly, because it's part of the program, but also because of the many things he has learned. He has furloughs and we hang out; talk music and movies, oddly there is no generation gap there, we both like a lot of the same things. He did tell me, just out of the blue one day: "I know I gave you reason to be stern with me and I don't resent you for it." "I know that you did the best that you could, and if I didn't have your example I wouldn't have an ounce of kindness or compassion in me and never would have realized that being slow to anger is the greatest strength of all." Most of my friends told me that eventually he would "get it", but their forcasts were many more years on. I feel that he can salvage his life...that maybe he's getting to see the bigger picture. I am cautiously optimistic and pray daily for his continued success. Back to my daughter...no worries....Right? Not really. Drug and alcohol abuse has just about destroyed her. She dropped off the radar for nearly two years, a semmester shy of her degree and I don't think she has the brain cells left to do it. Her liver is down to 25% function and she won't stop drinking. She' 26. She is also on probation for larceny and DUI. It's hard not to be angry and frustrated. I never thought she would become like this. Anyway, my point being: If you let your guard down... evil can take what you cherish most. I felt that my daughter was the "safest; sanest of us all." I don't know how many times I said that. I thought I had it easy with her...the low maintanence "good kid." Parents... never for one moment let your guard down. Be fair; be strong; be the example that they'll cherish someday even if they don't "get it " right now. It seems like not so long ago tiny hands held mine and looked to me for all the "why" questions. I wish I had known more. Thank you for inspiration corner. I appreciate all that you do.
Tyler, what a beautiful message. It is vital for parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles to give the gift of Jesus!!! Franz, your life sound like the biblical version of the book of Job!!! Thank God for praying mother's and fathers!!! May God continue to strengthen you as you 'stand in the gap' for your children!!! I pray your daughter will recover and change, even as your son seems to have turned from his 'prodigal' life.
Very touching, thank you for this message. You're so right!
Hello Tyler, I'm Praying for you & your family as you all go on this journey of grief. Allow your selves to grieve, take time off of work (yes I said don't work) and let y'all's emotions flow. Don't bury your selves in work because that you just prolong the process. The reason I can say this to you all is because my, our, Mother passed over when I, we, was just 15, 16 & 19. It will be 31 years Decemeber 29 ( I know what it feels like to lose your Mother around the holidays too). You and your family should have regular time together & talk about your Mom (Wife) remember her, cook her favorite meal, eat, laugh, cry & Pray. Let God help you all through this grief process. Praying for you all MsLeahC. P.S. 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 13: But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. (read the verses in between) 18: Wherefore comfort one another with these words. TGBTG!!!
Tyler Perry, You are doing a great work and with that great work you are inspiring others. You inspire me and I thank you for stressing the need for hearing what you are saying because you speak from experience. By doing this, you are giving us examples on which to build a dream and make that dream a reality. I thank God that He kept my Great Grand Mother here on this earth long enough to raise me and give me the foundation of Jesus Christ. Though I went through some things, I returned to her teachings and remember how she would call me her baby. I miss her but I honor her and what God did for me through her by not wasting the gifts that He has given to me to share with others. She died at the age of 93 approximately 14 years ago. I think I will write about her. Between The Bible, Tyler Perry's Inspirational Corner, Madea, Mr. Brown and Cora, and Oprah's Life Classes, I think I will have enough information to build a true foundation of wise counsel from God's word to the experience of others. Take care and keep on keepin on.
I try not to think about my Mom because it still hurts. I could so relate to when you said "I use to speak to her everyday and I am so grateful she "gave me Jesus"!!!! I know that is what makes it so hard to let go, she gave the BEST and was the BEST. I miss her so much but I am so happy she gave me Jesus...the comforter and the lover of all!
Thank you Mr. Perry for this inspirational section of your website. My husband and I have two young children, and I was expecting you to begin to speak about raising kids off the bat. But, when you begin with YOUR relationship with your mother and how much you 've missed her these last two years. My heart grew heavy and the tears began to fall, because I too had a very close relationship with my Mom and she passed away in August. I am still praying to the Lord to help me through my grieving process . Just like you and your mother, we were best friends and she was my biggest fan and encourager. She taught me about Jesus and how to pray. She was not rich, but she richly blessed me and my children with her kindness and values and strong spirit. I miss her everyday and I tell my kids to keep the faith and they will see their Grandmother again in heaven. I am using her model of hard work, faith and kindness to teach my kids the keys to success. Mommy loved your films, Madea's character in particular and laughter is the best medicine! Thank you for your work and your big heart! God bless you, Jeri Pierre
Mr. Perry, Thanks so much for your inspiring video on what we can pass down to our children. My grandmother raised me and she passed on so much that I feel a great deal of responsibility now that the mantel has been passed to me and my mother is disabled. My children however are slow learners at the ripe age of 36 and 32 respectively, but I'm trusting God that they will get my lessons before I leave this earth. It is so important to me that I know that they are turning the corner before I leave. Yes, I gave my grandmother and grandfather hell....but thank God they both saw me turn the corner before they left this earth. And I'm convinced that the Lord looked upon them both and said well done my good and faithful servants. What they left for me I want to share with not only my children, but all those young people that I come in contact with because in the words of Sly Stone..."You can make it if you try" and if you depend totally on Jesus!
Mr. Perry I THANK God for you. I thank you for allowing the Lord to use you and not be persuaded by money or things. I thank you for how you let the Lord lead you in choosing your cast. I have 3 children and a single mother who have recently been hit with some health issues. I don't have money or even things but i do have that FAITH of a mustard seed to know and believe that the healing is coming. That's what i have. My Mom is no longer with me but it goes a long way the things she taught, "don't know when it's coming but know it's coming" that's faith. Thank you for all that you and your cast do. My kids love you all so much, when the cable is off (yall know how that is sometimes :) all my daughter does is watch your movies over and over. Thanks again for all that you do. I will continue to keep you in my Prayers.
I give my children courageous to go out in the world to be what ever you want to be, I also allow them to participate in things that would help the community,they see my struggles dealing with a handicap child and trying to work who Which I would not be in this situation if Brooklyn Hospital in Brooklyn New York had did there job they said she wouldn't live pass 3 years she just turn 16, I thank go every day ,so what I'm teaching them never give up fight the battle to the end god got your back.
Even though I could not get this video going, I will comment anyway. One of my past jobs was working with neglected and abused children and though at times it was very heart wrenching, it was one of the most rewarding jobs I've ever held, if not the most in my entire working career. I've worked with Willie M. boys, newborns as well as teenage boys and girls. I can tell you that not only did I teach and demonstrate, I also learned as well, so very much from these children who through no fault of their own could not ever understand why someone threw them away. One of the most important things that I learned is that children NEED to know that they are worthy and that they are truly loved. It does not matter to them if dad/mom is on drugs, alcohol, etc., it matters that someone claims them and accepts them and that someone is the person that has the position of mom/dad or mom and dad. Children are not bad, they're simply the products of their environment that needs guidance, love and respect and with that being said, I find myself even today correcting folk when they point out "bad kids"!! I also have the "hobby" if you will, of going to Mickey D's to notice the interaction of kids with the adults they're with. I know some people personally who cannot stand to hear me say that almost/always most of the time kids are reflections of the adults that surround them or the lack thereof. Most times the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Thank God for the people we've had around us, at least some of us, that took over the big responsibility of rearing or helping out with steering us in the right way!! I am an in your face kind of person, with love of course, and that is how I dealt with "my children"! Luv ya, Ty